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Will I ever get time to myself?????

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Alright, my son is only 18 weeks, but I am so frustrated. He is the light of my life, but I need some alone time. He won't lay down on his own. When he naps I lay with him in bed. I've tried sneaking out and he wakes up within 10 minutes. He nurses all night long, the second he wakes he freaks out for my breast. I am so worried that I'm doing something wrong. I don't want to be doing this for 3 years. I've read NCSS and I only seem to get more stressed out. Everytime I read an exerpt I try it and I end up getting so frustrated. It's easier in the short run to sleep and nurse, but it's also annoying to always have the little guy attached to my breast. I know he's young and he needs me near. But, I am so jealous of anyone who can lay their baby down for a nap and they sleep an hour or two. I don't even know what I'd do with a free minute?? My partner helps me out all the time. But, he and I could also use some alone time. The sling doesn't work for August so that's not an option either.
I'm sorry for going off. I'm just overtired and needing to vent. If anyone has any advice or a similar story I would love to hear it.
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mama. I promise, it will get better. As your son gets older, he'll become more independent and you'll be able to do things while he entertains himself.

My dd is 8 months and she still requires me to lay down next to her and to nurse her to sleep. Sometimes she'll wake up right away, other times she'll sleep for an hour (but never longer than an hour before I have to comfort nurse her back to sleep).

I'm still a firm believer in the NCSS. I'm still working on the alternative soothing. It's a very slow process, but I've heard fantastic results. Just take baby steps and don't pressure yourself.

I know it's really hard right now.... but I promise... it will pass. Just try your best to take care of yourself in the meantime.
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to you. My DD is 9.5 months old & I still have to lie down next to her. I must say though---it IS getting better. I have implemented the NCSS techniques as well, & while it's been a SLOW process I am beginning to reap the rewards of persistence. Have you tried any ytpe of white noise in the bedroom? How about laying a shirt of yours (with your smell) nearby so August thinks you're still next to him? Have you tried a different sling? Take Care of yourself & know that it's O.K. to be frustrated. Most of us have BTDT.
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Hugs is all I can give you because I KNOW how you feel. Been there, done that.

He WILL change in a couple of months, not 3 yrs!

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Thanks for your responses. I have hope that someday I'll sleep more than an hour at a time. I have to remind myself that this little bugger is more than worth the lack of sleep.
Thanks again
I had the same problem with my boy!
I found it was very hard too....He was a happy baby when he was awake which made it manageable thing is he was ALWAYS awake unless I was sleeping too! It made it VERY hard to get anything done around the house even with him in his snuggly.
People told me to wrap him tight and put a hot water bottle next to him cause what he is missing is your body heat. Never tried that till he was older but I am sure it would work for a baby that little.
Best thing for me ....and I KNOW it is a huge no-no these days. But I went and bought one of those Angel Care baby monitors that tracks baby's breathing and sets off a bone chilling alarm if the baby doesn't breath every 10 seconds. So I bought that and started letting him sleep on his tummy.

My mom actually started doing it. One day when she was watching him she put him in his bassinet on his stomach and I flipped. He slept for an hour and a half all by himself and I was SOLD!!
Like my mom said....they are always changing their mind on the safest way to lay your baby and that is true. At least if they sleep on their stomach those uncontrollable limbs can't just start moving and wake them up.
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NO!! After 14 years with kids...not a day yet without being alone, or alone for more then an hour.
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