[babymakes3]

Hi!
My baby likes to stand up on your lap, the floor, basically anything while you're holding him. But everyone keeps saying not to let him b/c it will hurt his legs or make him bo-legged. Is this true?
(He is almost 3 months)

 

[GradysMom]

Follow the baby lead, something in them is ready.

This is where you start to trust your babe knows themself. What is the alternative, to strap them in a sitting position, come on... I had a great aunt give me grief for letting ds stand early... "letting him"... something very wrong with that line of thinking kwim...

Love em, let em grow, let em stand... and later when they lunge for your plate I say let em taste... etc....

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I understand the bowlegged arguement is not true.

further more isn't it weight bearing exercise that they say will strengthen our bones... why couldn't this also be true so young... using them strengthens them, etc

 

[bluetoes]

Old wives tail. Although not as good as the one about babies who don't crawl will have problems reading and lifting your head above your head when you're pregnant will choke the baby!

 

[alegna]

of course not

-Angela

 

[Kailey's mom]

Didn't hurt Kailey at all

 

[junipermuse]

Our family doctor said it was fine and sheactually held our dd like that to let her stand on the examining table. She did recommend that we not use a baby walker though.

 

[babymakes3]

Awesome! Thanks so much! I try to follow CJ's lead on everything else I just wasn't sure about this one.

 

[kathteach]

Dr. Sears talks about that in one of his books and says it's perfectly okay. I used to flip when DP did that with DS thinking it would hurt his bones or something. But it's fine.

 

[OldFashionedGirl]

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Originally Posted by junipermuse Our family doctor said it was fine and sheactually held our dd like that to let her stand on the examining table. She did recommend that we not use a baby walker though.

Just curious: why no walker? My son LOVES his, and it finally gives my arms a rest from holding him up all day.

 

[groovynaturemama]

my babe loves standing on my lap. she excercises her little legs all the time! my MW said it was A OK.

 

[ktbug]

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Originally Posted by OldFashionedGirl Just curious: why no walker? My son LOVES his, and it finally gives my arms a rest from holding him up all day.

the thinking now is that they can be dangerous ... crashing into things, etc. also it develops the wrong muscles needed to learn to actually walk - the crucial thing in that part of infant development is getting strong enough to hold up the torso and balance on two feet; the walker robs them of that. also, to learn to balance properly a baby needs to be able to see their feet, and they can't do that in a walker.

 

[mzfern]

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Originally Posted by ;8377780 Old wives tail. Although not as good as the one about babies who don't crawl will have problems reading and lifting your head above your head when you're pregnant will choke the baby!

Has the no crawling/problems reading connection been refuted? I was told that crawling helps coordinate the right and left brain hemispheres and helps avoid dyslexia. Is this not true?

 

[OldFashionedGirl]

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Originally Posted by mzfern Has the no crawling/problems reading connection been refuted? I was told that crawling helps coordinate the right and left brain hemispheres and helps avoid dyslexia. Is this not true?

I don't know if it's been scientiffically refuted, but I offer myself as an example:

I never crawled. Went straight to walking. I am now and have always been a voracious reader. I read Gone w/ the Wind in 6th grade. English was my best subject.

My brother did crawl...and reads very little. Never has read much.

BUT....my mom read to me MUCH more than my brother.

I think it has more to do with how much you read to your child than any crawling-reading connection.

 

[timneh_mom]

If it was uncomfortable for your baby, he wouldn't do it. DD wants to stand a lot, so we help her, many times a day. But, DS had spaghetti legs, he had no interest at all in standing in your lap. He didn't walk until he was 15 1/2 months old (normal, just wasn't going to do it til he was good and ready). DD, OTOH, has LOVED standing in your lap since at least 2 months... but she already rolled over about a month ago and is working on sitting too. It just depends on the baby! I think she's on the fast track.

 

[ledzepplon]

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Originally Posted by OldFashionedGirl Just curious: why no walker? My son LOVES his, and it finally gives my arms a rest from holding him up all day.

It's mostly so kids don't get hurt crashing down stairs or whatever.

 

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Originally Posted by mzfern Has the no crawling/problems reading connection been refuted? I was told that crawling helps coordinate the right and left brain hemispheres and helps avoid dyslexia. Is this not true?

I didn't crawl. I was dyslexic. But, I could read just fine. I just could write or copy anything. I also couldn't learn left from right.

I think the truth is, that kids who are born with this "disconnection" in the brain might not learn to crawl. But, not crawling doesn't cause the problem. When my mom tells me about the weird things I did as a baby, it's obvious there was a problem from day one. I don't think it had anything to do with not crawling.

 

[Chronic Chrissy]

At 3 months DD loved her Jumperoo(She couldn't even touch the ground and had to jump on multiple telphone books

) and would only stand and jump when held, she loved it. Then at 9 months all that standing and jumping turned into walking, and now there's trouble with a 10 mo who can run away from me down the sidewalk. All I can say is to be prepared.

 

[babymakes3]

LOL Chronic Chrissy, we're planning on getting CJ on of those type things in a couple of weeks so I can get a break from holding him all the time. I'm trying to hold out though b/c my SIL has one for her little boy (9 months old) and I'm hoping he'll grow out of it before we go buy one. LOL

 

[kaspar]

the only way that could hurt your baby if he was too squirmy for you to hold and fell on the floor!

 

[orangeiron]

I think it is fine to let her stand at her lead. the problem comes when the adult holding the child starts to force the baby to stand more than they are ready for. i think with most things it is listening to your baby and paying attention to when they are all done. the walker acts as the adult forcing the baby to stand. a walker can't tell when the baby is all done and give them a break.