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Just wondering how many people buy their midwife a gift after the birth. I didn't with dd, but then I was talking to some women a few weeks ago and they were all talking about what they bought for their midwife. Is it common practice to give them something after the birth? If it is...big oops on my part for my last midwife, but I'll get something this time around for sure.<br><br>
What sort of things do people give?
 

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I'm on the fence about it. I mean for one, we're already paying their fee, right? But then again, it's a very personal event, which could be argued is gift enough for us to share it with them...<br><br>
Ideally I'd like to buy them massages. But we can't afford that. Instead I think I'll give them nice little houseplants--transplants from my own. She did comment on my green thumb afterall. Also a photo and a nice thank you letter after things have settled down. I think this is adequate. And of course recommendations in the future.
 

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I wanted to get something for my mw after DS's birth, but I never could find anything I thought was appropiate... Hopefully I can find something this time and make it count for both since they are only gonna be 18 months apart <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: That is so funny, I just came on the computer and on my mental list of things to do, is to find ideas for a gift. I don't want anything big but I do want something nice/personal.
 

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As far as do most people give gifts? Some do, some don't. I love it when I get something, but I certainly don't expect anything.<br><br>
As far as what kind of gifts?<br>
I've had a client give me a beautiful bag to carry some prenatal stuff in.<br>
I received a "design-your-own" travel mug that the mama had decorated with a picture of me holding the newborn. Sentimental, and useful. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
Hand-written thank you notes.<br>
Pictures from the birth, or of the family with the new babe.<br>
The birth story from mom's POV. This is honestly my favorite gift a mama could give me.<br>
Gift certificates for Starbucks, massages, dinners are nice if you want to "buy" something.<br><br>
And, of course, if you liked your midwife, one of the best gifts you could give her is referrals.
 

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So glad referrals are a good "gift," 'cause I give a LOT of those! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I did not give my MW a gift with my last birth and have been thinking of it this time. A friend and I have both birthed with this midwife and are thinking of making/buying "I love my midwife" shirts for all of our kids (and my DS1 who wasn't born with her will get one, too, 'cause he loves her, too!) and taking a picture of the whole clan - 6 when my next one comes. I'm sure we'll do pics of the families, too. So that's one of our ideas for her. She does all home visits so that somewhat limits the usefulness of what we give her. But I'd like to do something!!
 

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the midwives i worked with for my first two births were part of a practice & i got to know them all. i thought about "gifting" them all but it would've been too expensive so i ended up bringing a huge fruit basket to the office with a heartfelt thank-you note.<br><br>
this go-round i'm only working with 2 midwives & i just made them necklaces a few days ago because i've been a jewelry making fiend! (i know one of them posts on here so i may be giving it away if she reads this! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> oh well....)
 

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I think some of the coolest gift ideas are pictures, or a matted placenta print, and of course referrals!!<br><br>
I make gifts especially designed for midwifes, doulas, and otherwise birth professionals...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
My girls are 3 years old and I am just now getting around to making something special for my midwife, better late than never I guess!
 

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It honestly didn't cross my mind w/ DD #1, and I feel kinda bad. This time, I am not sure which mw will be on call (3 in the practice) so I am waiting to see who is there. One of them is a newly trained mw so if she is there (i hope so, i really like her a lot) i would get her something different than the others who have been around the block. it is definitely a personal gift, one of the hardest gift giving decisions i have ever had.
 

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I make gifts especially designed for midwifes, doulas, and otherwise birth professionals...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
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What kind of gifts? And do you sell them?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> And your glass is amazing!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: That is so funny, I just came on the computer and on my mental list of things to do, is to find ideas for a gift. I don't want anything big but I do want something nice/personal.</div>
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Too funny, this was just on my mind as well.<br><br>
I have a book of birth stories that I know she doesn't have but would like. I want to give her that but also was wondering if I should do more, like some kind of gift certificate. But if I do, I am lost as to what or how much would be appropriate.
 

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I've become good buddies with my midwife. In addition to excellent prenatal care she has invited me to group lunches with previous clients to help me socialize with other moms as I am new to the area. Her inclusiveness has had an exremely positive psychological impact on me and you can bet your butt I'll be gifting something grand to her and her assistant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My midwife has a library in her office that her clients are free to borrow from. I read almost every book in her collection, so after the birth of my daughter, I bought three books that I liked that weren't in her library. They were a gift to her but it would also benefit her other clients and I felt it repaid for all the wonderful reading I got to do while I was pregnant thanks to her great collection.<br><br>
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I gave my midwife money after the last one, because I think she undercharges for her services. I know she gives poor clients a break on her already low fees, and we can spare the money, so it seemed fair to give her extra. We'll probably do the same this time.<br><br>
I think it depends on whether you feel like your midwife went above and beyond what you paid for, and whether the right gift occurs to you.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">What kind of gifts? And do you sell them?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> And your glass is amazing!</div>
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Thank you mama! As you probably saw if you clicked my siggy link, most of my stuff is mama~inspired handblown glass jewelry, vessels, ornaments, etc.<br><br>
There are so many awesome ideas here too! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I want to but I dont know what to get... I liked the 'buy a midwife a bike' program but I couldnt figure out how to order it.. lol I dont know. I do plan to give her all my birth books for her library...she has some of them but I figure she can hand them out to mamas and if she loses one thats ok.. I might just get her some muffins and coffee or something... I dont kow.
 

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This was sort of how I felt. There is no other professional I hire that I would feel compelled to give a gift at the completion of services on top of an already adequate fee.<br><br>
That said, I also don't get the intense bonding that many people speak of having with their midwives, so perhaps I'm just missing something altogether.
 
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