Mothering Forum banner

1 - 10 of 10 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,846 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I'm totally unsure about this, but I think I might want to go back to work.<br><br>
SAHM'ing was great and right for dd for the first year and a half, at least. But at this point, we are both struggling, and seeing how much DD absolutely LOVES her structured, very much like daycare SN playgroup, I actually think she would thrive at daycare. And I've worked in daycares and been a nanny- I really never thought it would be my choice.<br><br>
There are a couple of nice SN schools/daycares near here, one of which dd would probably be transitioning to next fall for preschool. I'm not sure about the cost- are sn daycares more expensive? do they provide services or does EI somehow work with them?<br><br>
this is very preliminary, I haven't talked to DH about it and won't make a decision until I know I find a place that I feel VERY comfortable leaving dd (we have only left her with a sitter twice!) I just want to look into my options. I think it would only be part time anyways.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,613 Posts
We've never been able to use a daycare for dd, so I can't answer most of that question, but I do know that EI can work with your daycare/child care to provide services. It's part of the "natural environment" thing.<br><br>
I've been woh for two years now, and I gotta tell you, it's harder than I thought it would be. I think a lot of it depends on your child's particular SN, though. Dd has lots of medical issues, so trying to juggle that with work has been rough. If it weren't for that, and the fact that my job isn't what I hoped it would be, it would be easier.<br><br>
If you can find somewhere that she's comfortable and happy and that you feel good about, I think it can be done, and it can be good for everyone.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
720 Posts
i'm going back to work in a month (aaack!) and have mixed feelings about it. part of me is really excited (to go a day without spitup on my clothing seems just too good to be true!), part of me wonders if daycare will be sufficiently proactive about making lo wear his hearing aids (and keeping other kids from eating them!!)<br><br>
i think it will be totally beneficial for lo to be in an environment with other kids his age though - he loves going to playgroup, and while during his therapy it helps to have a quiet non-distracting environment, it is equally important for him to get used to busy environments with lots of sounds coming from all directions, and learning to distinguish them, learning to focus on speech sounds, etc.<br><br>
i do wish though that either i had an extra year off or that the deaf centre daycare would take a babe his age. i would feel more comfortable with him in a daycare where i can be certain that the caregivers understand his needs.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
459 Posts
I have WOTH since our DS1 was 3mo. He is now 4yo. Professional f/t career squished without grace or finese into 3 days/wk. I feel like this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: much of the time from juggling it all and balancing schedule/routine needs with DS1. (Oh yeah, we have a DS2, 2yo also)<br><br>
Daycare was not a choice I was willing to make -DS was non-verbal until 3 yo and then some so he was exquisitely shy. Just not right for him at all. Thankfully the mother of a dear friend wanted to earn some extra $ and she has been a 'Grandma' to both my boys from infancy. I have no idea what I would have done without her. (she was less expensive than ANY daycare option, since we are able to trade off for time by helping her around her house with fix-it type things. DH is very handy) She is so involved and willing to work with us on his needs and specific speech issues - the therapists go to her house sometimes, or she comes to ours, if the kids are still sleeping in the AM. (Still using EI)<br><br>
Maybe there is a friend of a friend, or even p/t daycare person at a center who would be interested in helping your family and earn some $ on the side? I was really surprised when this arrangement happened but cannot imagine anything different for my boys.<br><br>
It is an incredible challenge, the balance, but it can & does work.<br>
GL -whatever you decide!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
720 Posts
well i just got back from a visit to the daycare, and i am quite pleased! they seemed really wonderful, unfazed by the hearing issue, have dealt with other sn kids before, so they have experience. yay!<br><br>
he is going to be in a home daycare until he starts at the centre (no spots available), i have a meeting with them next week. hopefully they will be just as good!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,245 Posts
That sounds great and really positive mama! Available childcare spaces are few and far between up here too.<br><br>
I do work out of the house and most of the time I really enjoy it. I have a job sharing arrangement that allows me to work only two days a week , which is just enough for me to have some sense of identity aside from my roll at home, and I am able to bring the babe to work with me as well.<br><br>
My ds attends a mainstream daycare (he has autism) with a one on one support worker that he adores. I miss sahm somedays but overall I think getting out of the house has been great for my mental health and helps with the bills as well.<br><br>
Good luck<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,846 Posts
Discussion Starter · #8 ·
thanks for the input, it's so different when your kids have challenges and you have to consider every little aspect of their development constantly! it's not just work vs. stay home it's a whole other ball of wax.<br><br>
I've been talking to DH about it and he agrees that DD would LOVE to be in a daycare. She just has that personality. She loves the other kids, the routine, the singing and learning and different toys than she has, different snacks than she normally gets, and everything. I NEVER thought I would be saying that, after working in two daycares that were so stressful for the kids and workers- but there are better options around here, for SN kids. She might even be able to get into the same one that she'd be attending preschool at next year.<br><br>
Yet, I'd have to be able to find a job that made financial sense, because I won't do it if we're going to lose money on daycare! and something that I want to do, not another horrible desk job where I'm watching the clock all day. Just a low-stress, part time job that pays reasonably well. I'm going to start looking into the schools first, make sure that she can get in without a huge waiting list, see how much they cost, etc.<br><br>
Or guilt might overtake me and make me forget the whole thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
184 Posts
Good luck with the daycare. I have been WOTH for 6 years now. My older daughter is 6, My younger, SN daughter, is 1. The hardest time for me is her slew of season doctor's appointments. Her therapists, as part of EI, go to the daycare.<br><br>
Kaspar....have you tried using the tie on caps from hanna andersson? They are great at keeping hearing aids on. A friend of mine uses that for her daughter.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
459 Posts
It sounds like you have some wonderful daycare options, along with a DC who will thrive in the community setting...PLUS you get some time away for pay AND have a DH who you communicate well with. Best of many things!<br><br>
Kids with challenges definitely means a whole different ball of wax.<br>
She'll do great, so will you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
1 - 10 of 10 Posts
Top