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Talk to me about friendships.<br><br>
How many good friends do you have?<br><br>
Do you have a best friend?<br><br>
What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?<br><br>
What sort of people are you drawn to?<br><br>
What sort of people do you stay away from?<br><br>
Are friendships important to you? Explain why.<br><br>
Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?<br><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.<br><br>
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What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?<br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?<br><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?<br><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?
 

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I don't have any good friends.<br>
There are several people I like, several whom I would like to be friends with but who have never approached me about it.<br><br>
I'm not sure why I don't have friends. May be because I am too oppinionated.<br><br>
I also wait until I am boiling mad to say something and that doesn't go over well.<br><br>
I'm always the one who keeps up the relationship (calling, birthday/holiday cards, etc) It irritates me to no end until I give up. The funny thing is the people who I have given up on just don't seem to care. I wonder why they couldn't have told me they would prefer I didn't call, instead of wasting my time.<br><br>
I just recently ended a friendship with a woman I didn't trust to begin with. But, I was/am desparate for friends and our kids love each other. Now Kailey doesn't have anyone she hangs out with either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
This woman lied to me, gossiped about me, and just never followed through. It hurts and I am angry.<br><br>
It will be even more awkard since she works at the center my daughter attends (and where I used to work).<br><br>
I give up on friends and it makes me very sad because Kailey deserves to have people in her life.<br><br>
Even Mark's family doesn't talk to us and Kailey longs to have family that she can play with. it's because of me. I'm opinionated and MIL has already told them crappy things about me because of our many arguments. And I am an atheist, they are southern baptist and MIL has told and is convinced that I have turned her son from god. Nevermind that he is the one that shared information with me. But, it's my fault.<br><br>
I want to move from this town so badly. Mark doesn't have friends either even though he is a native of this town. He says it's because we are outsiders. I hate being an outsider. I hate it.
 

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I have 3 or 4 good friends<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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A best friend is someone whose friendship never dies...you can be on the other side of the world, not see or speak to that friend for 10 years, but when you do see them again, it's as though you were never apart.<br><br>
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People who have similar ideas/ideals as me. Not necessarily agreeing on EVERY detail, but on the major points.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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People who have fundamentally different ideals/priorities from me.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yes...can't explain why.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I don't think I'm picky, but I'm very socially awkward and have a hard time making friends - but once I do forge a friendship, it tends to be a very strong friendship.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yes...my DH and I moved to Germany...we are more financially secure/have more expendable income than most of my friends in the States. They can (and do) email me frequently, for free, but phone calls that cost $$$ are on me...and I'm okay with that. I make a point of calling my good friends at least once a week. I like to share my life with them, and I enjoy hearing about their lives.
 

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<b>How many good friends do you have?</b> And handful, maybe 3 or 4<br><br><b>Do you have a best friend?</b> No <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><b>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</b> An aquaintance is someone I can easily talk to, but rarely share anything too deep or serious. They probably won't hear, for instance, about family tensions. Friends are people who I do share more with, and do my best to offer advice, encouragement and even some gentle chiding. A best friend is someone who knows me, really knows me, and who I can be painfully honest with.<br><br><b>What sort of people are you drawn to?</b> Thoughtful, bright, funny, caring<br><br><b>What sort of people do you stay away from?</b> self-centered, thoughtless, flighty<br><br><b>Are friendships important to you? Explain why.</b> They are absolutely important to me. They're my accountability, my sounding board, my support system (and I in turn strive to be the same for them) They've all had diverse life experiences and so they bring a fresh perspective, helping me see things in a different light. They're a shoulder to cry on, they give me a pillow to scream into <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> and they are always an encouragement.<br><br><b>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</b> I am <i>friendly</i> with everyone, and I'm a 'wait and see' gal. If something develops, then great! And if it doesn't, ok <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> The only times I am choosy is when there is a definite personality conflict.<br><br><b>Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.</b> Yes. Because, a) I know how near impossible it is for college students who never see each other to stay in touch, and b) I also know how important it is to hear from an old friend. So I don't begrudge my friends for not staying in touch, it's hard for me most of the time. But I won't 'punish' them by not sending along kind thoughts or words. We're friends <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br><b>What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?</b> Um...see above?<br><br><b>How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</b> We talk things out and, if they're a fellow believer, we pray about it together. I have had one close friendship completely dissolve over a disagreement that I tried my best to soothe. It shook me to my core. I guess I have that girly optimism that says we can work anything out. I don't know that I would have a 'good friend' that I didn't think would be able to handle disagreements.<br><br><b>Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</b> Haven't jumped that hurdle quite yet. Right now...I can see how that would be extremely difficult. But who knows?<br><br><b>Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?</b> I can have admiration for people that I disagree with <i>if</i> I believe that they are thoughtful and open minded about our differences. Like I said, my friends can always be counted on to bring a fresh perspective to the table. The only time I would be challenged to maintain such a relationship is if our core belief differences played a large part in how we viewed the world. For instance, I can't imagine maintaining a friendship with someone who was bigoted <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<b>How many good friends do you have?</b> I have 3 or 4 good friends.<br><br><b>Do you have a best friend?</b> No.<br><br><b>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</b> A good/best friend is someone I can confide in and go to for help. She is someone I can trust, cares about me & my family, doesn't judge me. She makes me laugh and we have fun together! An aquaintance is someone I chat with, but not about serious matters.<br><br><b>What sort of people are you drawn to?</b> Fun, funny, smart, and a little wicked.<br><br><b>What sort of people do you stay away from?</b> Selfish, superficial, materialistic, judgmental.<br><br><b>Are friendships important to you? Explain why.</b> Yes. We all need to unload, kick back and have fun... and sometimes we need to do this away from our families!<br><br><b>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</b> I am picky. I am a private person, so I don't just open up to anyone.<br><br><b>Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.</b> Sometimes. But after a while, I wonder is it worth it if I am doing all the work? I guess it would depend on how close we are.<br><br><b>What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?</b> We support each other emotionally, we listen, we care for each other's kids, we laugh and sometimes we cry.<br><br><b>How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</b> We agree to disagree most of the time.<br><br><b>Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</b> Yes, absolutely. We can talk about differences, but if they are MAJOR differences, we probably wouldn't be friends anyway.<br><br><b>Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?</b> I think it would be difficult to be GOOD friends if we disagree a lot about really important issues. Most of my good friends have children and we are pretty much on the same page about parenting.
 

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How many good friends do you have?</i> Come to think of it, a handful, if both IRL and internet friends counts<br><br><i>Do you have a best friend?</i><br>
Two best friends, who are also each other's best friends too<br><br><i>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</i> You've probably never argued with an acquaintance yet. Ok seriously, I can hang/chat/share advice with a good friend, expose skeletons in the closet to my best friends and they still love you, and hang/chat with acquaintance<br><br><i>What sort of people are you drawn to?</i><br>
Free spirits, people who are wicked intelligent, and are their own person<br><br><i>What sort of people do you stay away from?</i> clonetypes, people who are full of negative energy, haters (of anything)<br><br><i>Are friendships important to you? Explain why.</i> Yes they are my sanity-sounding board<br><br><i>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</i> I'm not terribly picky really, and I'm really laid back and easy to get along with, so I can at least get people to be friendly with me<br><i><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.</i>Sometimes - if I really care about them, but they have so much going on their lives that they go stretches of time before getting ahold of you, and then when it blows over they let me know <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Edit to add:<br><br><i>What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?</i><br>
oops forgot this one. I like to mail my friends small gifts. One great thing a friend did for me last year was help me move at their own expense and gave us a place to stay. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> One mama mails me letters she writes at work to me LOL I love getting snail mail!<br><i><br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</i> Usually it was because I was a dolt and I go crawling back to say I am sorry. We've hardly had disagreements though.<br><i><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</i> Well, aside from outright child abuse, core values aren't as important if the friendship is very important to you. One BFF and I are practically alike in many ways, other BFF we hav emore differences but we accept them and give advice if asked.<br><br><i>Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?<br></i>I'm starry eyed I admire my friends so much <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Mmmm I'm not sure one can be good friends and disagree on almost everything that is important to you - what will you have left that you agree on? What reality TV shows you like?
 

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<b>How many good friends do you have?</b><br>
Maybe 5<br><br><b>Do you have a best friend?</b><br>
Not really, unless you count DH.<br><br><b>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</b><br>
I agree with previous posts on this.<br><br><b>What sort of people are you drawn to?</b><br>
Positive, honest, exciting people who tend to be on the quiet side yet talkative. They enjoy talking about stuff instead of idle chatter just to fill silence.<br><br><b>What sort of people do you stay away from?</b><br>
Loud, obnoxious people. People who I feel say one thing to me but something else to other people. Someone who is mean to others, talks bad about others etc.<br><br><b>Are friendships important to you? Explain why.</b><br>
Yes. They add to quality of life, feeling connected to humankind. Add joy and excitement.<br><br><b>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</b><br>
Picky.<br><br><b>Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.</b><br>
I guess. But I'm always afraid that the reason someone isn't calling/trying to stay in touch is because they don't want to... I have self esteem issues.<br><br><b>What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?</b> Listen to each other. Joke around. Do activities together. Help them out when in need.<br><br><b>How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</b><br>
I don't push for someone to agree with me. I just clam up on the issue and talk about it with DH later (my best friend). How I felt/am I horribly wrong to feel a certain way etc. I don't know. Mainly I'm so gosh darn agreeable all the time that it doesn't come up often.<br><br><b>Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</b><br>
Well, sadly, none of us are parents yet. But overall, unless they were causing their child obvious harm, I'd let something go. I mean really, I wouldn't appreciate someone coming around telling me how to parent, why would I do it to them? If there was an issue, I'd word it along the lines of "I find that when "baby" is fussing like that it helps when I do this..." in a take it or leave it tone.<br><br><b>Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?</b> Not sure. Depends what the friendship is based on. When/how I see them etc. Hasn't come up yet.
 

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How many good friends do you have?<br><i>4 if my sister and dh count?</i><br><br>
Do you have a best friend? <i>yes</i><br><br>
What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion? <i>acquaintance is a cordial surfacy relationship-not too deep if you get me. good friend -more details are shared, keeping in touch is more important. best friend-anything CAN be shared but there is NO pressure-keeping in touch is natural and doesn't matter if it's more one sided every once in a while-it'll even out.</i><br><br>
What sort of people are you drawn to? <i>like-minded, friendly, fun.</i><br><br>
What sort of people do you stay away from? <i>materialistic. dunno.</i><br><br>
Are friendships important to you? Explain why. <i>of course-they are good for my soul. i lost a very close friend 18 months ago and feel that loss nearly everyday-we only spoke a coupla times a month and i still miss her everyday. makes me value my current friendships lots more.</i><br><br>
Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone? <i>picky</i><br><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why. <i>yes. like i said, it'll even out eventually.<br></i><br><br>
What are the things you do for your good friends? <i>listen, laugh-i feel like i do less than she does for me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></i><br><br>
What do they do for you? <i>listen, laugh, share ideas and items, bake me a birthday cake <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> brought me goodies and meals when pp, supported me though infertility, adoption, pregnancy and everything else.</i><br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend? <i>never have...</i><br><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)? <i>yes. with one friend in particular, our differences have become WAY more apparent since kids and we aren't nearly as close. or maybe we never were?</i><br><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? <i>yes</i><br>
Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? <i>not sure-still working this one through...</i><br><i>plus i moved recently so it makes everything harder, i think. bf and i will remain close for sure but other friends fall by the wayside eventually...i also had more friends when working...<br></i>
 

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How many good friends do you have? <b>Right now, only a few-it's hard for me to make friends</b><br><br>
Do you have a best friend?<b>maybe, it's hard for me to judgee</b><br><br>
What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?<b>best friend is the one person you ALWAYS want to see and with whom you're closely involved, good friend someone you can call anytime and reconnect but you're probably not as closely involved. An aquiantance is someone you may see often but don't make plans to see</b><br><br>
What sort of people are you drawn to? <b>Not one type really, people who are easy to talk to</b><br><br>
What sort of people do you stay away from?<b>I tend to stay away from people who are socially prominent-the ones who were the "popular" kids in high school</b><br><br>
Are friendships important to you? Explain why.<b>yes, because I'm really a social person. I get a lot from acquaintances though. I'm an introvert so I don't mind a rather quiet life</b><br><br>
Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?<b>Despite what I said before I'm not really picky. The kind of people i wouldn't chose for friends usually wouldn't want to be friends with me IME</b><br><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.<b>Yes. I think sometimes it's just easier for one person to keep contact/maintain things.</b><br><br>
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What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?<br><b>Friends help each other</b><br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?<br><b>Never had one</b><br><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?<br><b>As my kids get older, parenting differences are less important. I don't really talk about baby care anymore FE since I no longer have a baby</b><br><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so,why?<br><br><b>I'm "live and let live" about a lot of things. If someone is intolerant, I would have trouble with that. But if they want to live their life differently I don't really see it as my business. as long as they don't constantly try to change me</b>
 

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Ooooh, more posting fun! *squeeeee*<br><br><b>How many good friends do you have?</b><br>
Two<br><br><b>Do you have a best friend?</b><br>
Technically yes, but that term is so 7th grade, IMO. Plus, in order for her to be <i>my</i> best friend, I'd have to be hers, as well, and I don't know if I am or not. So, maybe technically no. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><b>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</b><br>
This isn't just my opinion, it's fact: an acquaintance is just someone you know on a friendly basis (you speak when you see each other, maybe stop and chat); a good friend is someone you can spend a lot of time with and not judge for having a stank bathroom <i>every</i> time you come over; and a best friend is someone who'll actually watch you scream and yell at your kid, give you dark chocolate while you take a breather, then help you find your center while sending your kid out to play.<br><br><b>What sort of people are you drawn to?</b><br>
Apparently, really smart ppl with inappropriate senses of humor.<br><br><b>What sort of people do you stay away from?</b><br>
People who get off on making fun of others, people who won't talk about the juicy parts of their lives within a few weeks of knowing you.<br><br><b>Are friendships important to you? Explain why.</b><br>
I suppose so. I would like more friends, mostly b/c I want to throw parties that last until 3am. And, I want the ppl I'd invite to be interesting.<br><br><b>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</b><br>
I am able to make social friends with almost anyone, but the reverse is not true. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><b>Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.</b><br>
No. By my definition, if I am doing most or all the 'work", it ain't worth it.<br><br><b>What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?</b><br>
Meals, watch kids, talk when bored to death, share ideas and theories, help clean. I'm all abt equality. If I feel used, I stop the friendship. And, I don't ever want any of my friends to feel used by me. I actually take surveys.<br><br><b>How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</b><br>
I let it go. She lets it go. (Honestly, I'm only assuming she lets it go. I don't ask.)<br><br><b>Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</b><br>
Yes.<br><br><b>Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?</b><br>
Yes, I need to admire my friends. If I can't hold you with some esteem, I figure I'm wasting our time b/c eventually, I will neglect our connection. If I disagree with someone alot, I generally don't hang around that person, b/c I have the whole world to disagree with...I don't want that from my friends.
 

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I have two good friends, no current 'best friend'. I'm able to make friends pretty easily, I'm just cautious as to how close I get to people.
 

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six<br><br><i>Do you have a best friend?</i><br><br>
yes. her name is melissa and i love her to death.<br><br><i>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</i><br><br>
my best friend and i share our lives daily. we are aware of what's going on with eachother down to the details. my good friends are just as precious to me, but we can go months without talking and enjoy catching up. close friends tend to know history and big dreams and want to follow the story even though we can't be a part of it on a daily basis. acquaintances are people that i'm friendly with and could carry on a conversation or spend some time together, but we wouldn't call on eachother in times of crisis or when we need counsel or just to celebrate something.<br><br><i>What sort of people are you drawn to?</i><br><br>
those who seem to share common values/convictions/principles/dreams, who are funny, intelligent, creative, kind.<br><br><i>What sort of people do you stay away from?</i><br><br>
bitter people with cruel senses of humor. sometimes (too often maybe), people who seem to need more than i want to give.<br><br><i>Are friendships important to you? Explain why.</i><br><br>
absolutely. the close friendships i have now i have had for a very, very long time. they are as important to me as my immediate family. friendships teach and support me, the challenge me to grow and learn new things. without them i would probably be a very angry 400 pound hermit. or dead.<br><br><i>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</i><br><br>
i am not picky about acquaintances, but i am very, VERY picky about friends. i'm sure there are lots of people who have a closer relationship with me than i do with them (does that make sense?).<br><br><i>Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.</i><br><br>
yes, for a time. sometimes we all need someone who loves us to pursue us.<br><br><i>What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?</i><br><br>
talk, listen, plan birthday parties, call at just the right moment, argue, share meals, pick you up from the auto shop, always give you a place to stay, tell you that you're pretty when you really, really aren't.<br><br><i>How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</i><br><br>
usually with an "i love you" and an "i'm sorry"<br><br><i>Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</i><br><br>
yes.<br><i><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?</i><br><br>
there has to be admiration in some way. if we were to disagree on major issues regarding values and principles, i think we could still love eachother, but we would not be able to share our lives as fully. and that would suck.
 

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How many good friends do you have?<br><b>Four, not counting family members and my husband.</b><br><br>
Do you have a best friend?<br><b>Yes.</b><br><br>
What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?<br><b>My best friend and I have been best friends since we were 8. We were practically inseparable for at least a decade. We have been through so, so much together. Good friends are people that I visit/talk with often and know I can count on. Acquaintances are just people that I don't consider my friends, but that I am on a first-name basis with.</b><br><br>
What sort of people are you drawn to?<br><b>None! All of my friends have been my friends since I was a child or teenager. I don't seek out new friends now and am not "drawn" to any particular type of person.</b><br><br>
What sort of people do you stay away from?<br><b>Loud, obnoxious people.</b><br><br>
Are friendships important to you? Explain why.<br><b>Well, two of my friendships are important to me, because we've been friends for years and years, and there's a bond that's hard to describe. But, in general, friendship is not a huge deal to me, outside of those two friendships. It really does make sense inside my little pea brain. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></b><br><br>
Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?<br><b>Picky. As in, my four friends that I have now will probably the only friends I have from now on. I don't have the time or energy to make and keep new friends.</b><br><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.<br><b>No. I'm way too busy with my kids, house, and husband.</b><br><br>
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What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?<br><b>We mostly just talk to each other. Give each other advice. My best friend and I never even see each other anymore because of our busy lives, but we talk almost every day about everything. My other special friend and I do lots of fun stuff together and with our kids.</b><br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?<br><b>I haven't had a disagreement with any of my good friends in years.</b><br><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?<br><b>Not necessarily. But we don't spend enough of our lives together for this to really be an issue.</b><br><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?<br><b>I don't know. I don't really "admire" my best friend at all, because she has made a lot of mistakes in her life and is just generally a pretty unstable person, but I love her nonetheless and would do anything for her. My other good friend and I are on the same level about most things.</b>
 

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How many good friends do you have?<br><br><b>Five</b><br><br>
Do you have a best friend?<br><br><b>Yes.. more than one</b><br><br>
What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?<br><br><b>An acquaintance is someone you can socialize with and be sociable with, but not someone you call on for favors or share details of your life with.<br><br>
A good friend is someone you know a lot about, who knows a lot about you, whom you respect and who respects you. You can exchange some favors, feel affection for, spend lots of time with.<br><br>
A best friend knows you inside and out as you do him/her. You know ALL of each other's dirt. You can do, will do and have done anything for each other. A best friend will come over and wrap all your child's Christmas presents for you when you're incapacitated by a death in the family on Christmas Eve. A best friend will sit on the floor next to you, with their hand on your back and not go anywhere for as long as you need to lay on the ground sobbing like an infant after a tradgedy. A best friend will be willing and trustworthy enough to take your child to her home and care for her for an entire week without even being asked while you figure out how to stand up again after said tradgedy. A best friend drops everything for you when you are in need and in want and knows you will do the same. A best friend calls you out on your BS, tells you when your outfit or haircut looks horrible and listens to you complain ad naseum about your obnoxious relationship. I have a few women in my life who are all of these things to me; who have done all of these things and I can't even think of it without my eyes tearing up. I love them so very much.</b><br><br>
What sort of people are you drawn to?<br><br><b>I am drawn to really kind, loving, peaceful people. I am highly drawn to very intelligent and conscious people.</b><br><br><br>
What sort of people do you stay away from?<br><br><b>I stay away from people who are toxic. I stay away from people who seek out, create and subsist off of drama. I stay away from materialistic, superficial, small minded people.</b><br><br>
Are friendships important to you? Explain why.<br><br><b>As a single mama, my friendships are my lifeline. They have made me a better mother and a better person. They have gotten me through periods of my life and events in my life that would have been damn near impossible to get through otherwise. My friendships offer support, love, affection, companionship, wisdom, laughter and learning. They are as vital to me as oxygen.</b><br><br>
Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?<br><br><b>I am able to make friends with almost everyone, but I choose to be very selective. My circle is small but it is full of some of the coolest beings I've ever known.</b><br><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.<br><br><b>Yes and no. I am not willing to have an emotionally one sided friendship or feel like I am chasing someone like a puppy dog to get them to remain in a friendship with me, but many of my good friendships go back and forth between one person putting forth more time and energy than the other. It's usually circumstantial (one of my friend's is in school right now and busy and overwhelmed and I know it is not a reflection on our friendship in any way and I am totally willing to be the one putting forth the energy right now).</b><br><br>
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What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?<br><br><b>Take care of one another's kids (if they have kids). Listen. Talk. Offer advice. Share experience and knowledge. Laugh. Again, listen, listen, listen. Provide company, as well as the poverbial shoulder to cry on.</b><br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?<br><br><b>I don't often experience disagreements with good friends. When I do, we talk it out and move on.</b><br><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?<br><br><b>Overall, the values are very similar. We all differ in ways and I feel very accepting of that.</b><br><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?<br><br><b>I can't imagine being friends with anyone that I didn't admire... but there are good friends I have that parent in ways I disagree, but I admire them deeply for other things. One friend of mine is a wonderful mama. Her dd is developmentally challenged. She works harder than anyone I've ever known to be a good parent and a good provider and is constantly striving to better her child's and her existence. I admire her deeply for her work ethic and her commitment to her child. She's a very different kind of parent than I am, but I still love her, admire her and deeply valueher friendship and what she brings in to my world. Another friend, one of my best friends, parents very similarly to me and is, in fact, a better mama than me in a lot of ways (totally GD, AP, really, really in tune with recognizing and honoring her child's needs, etc.). She is very religious and has pretty fully indoctrinated her dd in to her faith. I disagree vehemently with that concept. We dialogue about it a lot and always in a very respectful manner. It's something we a gree to disagree on and we do not project our views on to one another. It is a very mutually respectful understanding.</b>
 

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How many good friends do you have?<br><b>Three.</b><br><br>
Do you have a best friend?<br><b>2. (3 if you count dh, he's at the top of the list, too.)</b><br><br>
What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?<br><b>A good friend is someone I enjoy spending time with/talking to. A best friend is someone that I share thoughts, feelings that I wouldn't share with good friends. Acquaintances are people that I see/talk to on a semi-regular basis?</b><br><br>
What sort of people are you drawn to?<br><b>I don't really know. People that intrigue me for whatever reason. People that I feel I can learn from, have something to offer in the way of different life experiences. They're few and far between though. I'm mostly an introvert. I enjoy being alone.</b><br><br>
What sort of people do you stay away from?<br><b>Negative & toxic people. I don't need any of that.</b><br><br>
Are friendships important to you? Explain why.<br><b>In a way. I don't know how, (don't have the time right now). I do seem to have kept in touch with one close friend from different phases of my life. Definite pattern there.</b><br><br>
Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?<br><b>I'll be friends with just about anyone, but how long it lasts... that's a different story. Mostly because dh & the kids are who I'd rather be with, I have a hard time making time to keep those connections.</b><br><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.<br><b>When I have time, but probably not. My longest lasting/closest friendships are with people that are the same way. We give when we have time to.</b><br><br>
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What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?<br><b>Listen and talk. Same.</b><br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?<br><b>Agree to disagree. My one friend & I have argued about x, y, z every time we're together. The next time we'd see each other, it was friends as usual. We drive each other nuts, but I think we each learn and grow, too.</b><br><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?<br><b>Not necessarily. I don't expect everyone to be like me, nor would I want that.</b><br><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?<br><b>Not sure. Dh & I disagree about A LOT of things, but I'm married to him.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> There a couple things I can think of, that I don't think I could overlook, but for the most part if someone agrees with me on everything, how boring would that be?! JMONSHO.</b>
 

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It's hard to say. Lately it keeps changing, and fast. At this particular moment, I would say I have 5 good friends... that includes my ex, my SO, my sister, and two women (one I've been friends with for ages and one I am just getting to know).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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My SO is my best friend, which is odd to say because we've only gotten back in touch since November. One of my woman friends used to be my best friend, but we drifted apart during my divorce... It was complicated and I love her to pieces, but it hasn't been the same since.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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A good friend is someone IN my life that I talk to on a regular basis, that I enjoy hanging out with, that I feel I can trust. My best friend I can totally be myself around, can say anything to, and can reciprocate those things. An aquaintance is someone I'm friendly with, but don't share much more than small talk.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Honest, confident, friendly, upright, open-minded people.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Gossips, emotional vampires, overly needy or jealous...<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I am there for them when they need me, and they are there for me likewise.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Respectfully. We both apologise for our part in it and laugh it off.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yeah... I don't think I could really relate to someone that spanked or shamed their kid. I'm a little more tolerant about the circumcision issue <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: because I spent a lot of time in a shared jewish/muslim neighborhood and I think that people are more prone to considering alternatives when you approach them with patience and understanding.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yeah, I have a few good friends that I have absolutely nothing in common with. Totally different upbringings, totally different POVs... it's not the STUFF you're into that makes you who you are. I love good people from all walks of life.
 

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<b>How many good friends do you have?</b> 2<br><br><b>Do you have a best friend?</b> Yes<br><br><b>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</b> I think the main thing for me is trust. The person that I trust the most is my best friend. Good friends are friends that care about you (and vice versa) but you may feel that there's a lesser degree of trust or comfort.<br><br><b>What sort of people are you drawn to?</b> I'm drawn to people who are honest, compassionate, spiritual (not usually christian, to be honest), intelligent, loyal, and witty.<br><br><b>What sort of people do you stay away from?</b> Mean and dishonest people.<br><br><b>Are friendships important to you?</b> Yes, very.<br><br><b>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</b> I can chat with many people but am very picky about who I let in to my personal life.<br><br><b>Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it?</b> I used to but I'm getting tired of it now.<br><br><b>What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?</b> The best thing is being there for a good friend. Emotionally; physically. You must be able to "be there" for a friend. A friend is someone you can count on.<br><br><b>How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</b> There's usually a cooling off period and then we start talking again. It can take hours, days, or weeks. I've only had big disagreements with 2 friends.<br><br><b>Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</b> Yes, now that I'm a mom, it's crucial for me to have friends that share similar parenting views.<br><br><b>Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend?</b><br>
Yes<br><b>Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything?</b><br>
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<b>How many good friends do you have?</b><br>
Fourish.<br><br><b>Do you have a best friend?</b><br>
I don't have a woman best friend. But, I think the whole best friend thing has too much emphasis in our society. I think it is rare for adults, and most kids, to have best friends.<br><br><b>What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion?</b><br>
I can share my life, thoughts, feelings, dreams, secrets with a good friend. An acquiantance is more of a hi, how are you, play date person. It isn't that you don't care about them but you don't have neccesarily have the same values or the history with them.<br><br><b>What sort of people are you drawn to?</b><br>
Fun people who can take a joke, laugh at themselves but know when to be serious. People who obviously care about others. It is nice if we have a hobby or something else in common but not neccesary.<br><br><b>What sort of people do you stay away from?</b><br>
The overleys. Overley needy, dominant, sensitive, petty.<br><br><b>Are friendships important to you? Explain why</b>.<br>
Yes. Having friends/a community of people to relate to a support/be supported by is a human need.<br><br><b>Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?</b><br>
I'm picky about who I choose to be close friends with but as an extrovert I find that I make friends easily - but I guess I consider those new friends to be acquiantences.<br><br><b>Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.</b><br>
I have done that before. Usually it was in circumstances where my friend really needed me but was unable to do much of the 'work' because of other circumstances - new baby, 2 kids and working full time to support the family, big problems w/spouse, etc. I hoped that my friends would do the same for me.<br><br>
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Recognize important events in eachothers lives. Bring meals when a baby is born or someone dies. Help them move, paint, garden, whatever. Give good, non judgemental advice - or remain silent when they don't have good advice. Support you when you need it even if they don't like your decision. Shoot straight with you if you are in the wrong. Hopefully just spend time together if you live in the same place.<br><br><b>How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?</b><br>
I can't think of any big disagreements that I have had with my friends. We generally share the same set of morals/values. I have been asked to support friends in circumstances that I would not have choosen for myself, I try to do what I can but sometimes have to take a step back from the situation. I don't feel the need to argue with my friends or try to convince them to see things my way, at the same time I don't hide my feelings or ideas if asked.<br><br><b>Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?</b><br>
I'm sorting this out right now. A couple of my good friends are long distance. They have older kids while my only is 11 months. I'm finding that while their parenting choices didn't seem to phase me before they do now. Not sure what will happen in the future. For now I just try to follow what I know is best for my family.<br><br><b>Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?</b><br>
I have a good friend that I disagree with alot of her choices. In fact, the only thing we have in common anymore seems to be our religion. I do feel that our friendship may become less than it has been in the past but I haven't counted her out yet. We have shared alot in the past 5 years and I know that if she ever really needed me I would be there, as she would if I needed her.
 

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<b>Wow, this really made me think about my friends and my relationships with them.</b><br><br>
How many good friends do you have? <b>11</b><br><br>
Do you have a best friend? <b>Yes, two actually and they couldn't be more different from each other-one's a minister's wife and one owns a bar.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></b><br><br>
What is the difference between a good friend, best friend (if you have one) and an acquiantance in your opinion? <b>An acquantance is someone with whom I could carry on a conversation when we run into each other. A good friend is someone to hang out with, to talk to, etc. If a close family member passed away you'd stop by the visitation. A best friend is someone who you tell everything. If a close family member passed away you'd take the day off work to be with them. You can call tham because you're excited about the new Nancy Drew movie and they'll laugh at you, but will be sitting next to you at the movies. They'll hold your hand at a mammogram and be the first person you call when you go into labor</b><br><br>
What sort of people are you drawn to? <b>Happy, caring, giving people</b><br><br>
What sort of people do you stay away from?<b>People who just don't "get it". The ones who think that the world owes them something and that they are entitled to think and act however they want and other peoiple should just deal with it.</b><br><br>
Are friendships important to you? Explain why.<b>Very much so. I live far away from my family and my friends are the ones with whom I spend holidays and birthdays, and who include me in their events. We do everything together.</b><br><br>
Are you picky about who your friends are or are you able to make friends with almost everyone?<b>I am blessed in that I can make friends very easily, but I am very particular about who gets close</b><br><br>
Are you willing to do most or all the 'work' (staying in touch) in a friendship if you felt that it was worth it? Explain why.<b>In each friendship there will be highs and lows. Sometimes I do most of the work, sometimes the other person does. As long as it is fairly even, it'll work.</b><br><br>
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What are the things you do for your good friends? What do they do for you?<b>I don't know that it's what we do for each other as much as what we know the other one would do for us. I know in an emergency one of my friends would care for my DS, no questions asked, and vice versa. In a pinch we would lend money, give a place to stay, food, transportation, a shoulder to cry on or a shared laugh. Most of these are extreme situations, but I know we would be there for each other.</b><br><br>
How do disagreements end when you have one with a good friend?<b>We don't have a lot of disagreements, but when we do we usually just agree to disagree. Sometimes you need a break from your friends, especially ones with whom you spend a lot of time. So we take a few days or a couple of weeks and refocus.</b><br><br>
Do you feel that its important for you and your good friends to have similar core values regarding parenting (If not, then how do you deal with the differences?)?<b>In an ideal world we would all have the same philosophy about parenting (MY philosophy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) In reality, though, one of my best friends and one good friend have the same views as I, and the rest are fully submerged in the mainstream (no breastfeeding, CIO, etc.) It's tough, but we respect each other and we discuss why I feel the way I do. I have found that some things are better left unmentioned, and they respect that. They don't talk about CIO or solids at 3 months. However, I can e-mail my best friend tons of info about breast feeding and tell her everyday that she should, but she won't even consider it. If someone was doing something that I was really uncomfortable with I would probably consider cutting ties with them, and this has happened with friends who were just way too proud of themselves for spanking. It has a lot to do with how strongly someone feels about a certain topic. I feel very strongly about a very AP approach, so my friends respect that and listen to me because they know I've researched it fully. If a friend felt very strongly that breast feeding wasn't right for her, I would respect that. (Not like my best friend who just doesn't want to be bothered-her words.)</b><br><br>
Do you need to have at least some admiration for a good friend? Can you be good friends with someone and yet disagree alot with them (in terms of views about stuff, parenting, marriage etc) on almost everything? If so, why?<b>My one best friend and I have almost nothing in common. We even kid around and ask how we are even friends. It works for us, though. I respect her and she respects me. My other best friend and I are more similar and I have the same respect for her. "Admire" is a tricky word. I have respect and love for them, but to me admiration is different. I see it as wanting to be more like them, and, while I do admire certain qualities, I don't know that I would say I admire them in general.</b>
 

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my dh and I have a social group of 8 people that are very good friends. Any of them (or us) would be there in a second if needed, would help support financial needs, housing needs, moving dead bodies... you get the picture.... We all get together at least once a month for drinking, food and games. We also play volley ball together and in a pool league. We spend weekends at two of their's lake homes. We celebrate everyone's birthday as a group.<br><br>
I also have a "best friend" (Who is also part of our "group.") She is the one I call if I want company while going grocery shopping or if I am bored. Or something like that. We can talk about everything and nothing at the same time. We know how each other will respond to things. IF we disagree, which does happen sometimes, I am usually the one that has to bring it up, but we always work it out. Right now we are having some tough times because I got pregnant, and she can't (yet) due to PCOS. Its incredibly hard for her to be around me and my ds..... I hope we will make it through this time in our lives. We have been friends for 11 years.
 
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