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OK, I am in the UK and the only circed man I have been with is my husband. For some reason I thought the sex problems we had/have were due to ME, when I found MDC and CAC, I realised they were most likely down to his circ. It is rare for a man to be circed in the UK but DH says it was down to some medical reason, but he does not know why and I do not have the sort of relationship with MIL to ask her.<br>
Sex is not comfortable. It hurts all the way through and excruciatingly at the beginning, then it just gets sore. I spend the entire time waiting for it to end. It is particularly sore on the outward stroke. DH is a patient and considerate lover and hates that it hurts me, we use tons of lube, and have to stop during usually to reapply. He tries going slower, but has a decrease in his sensation due to the keratinisation of his glans, therefore he cannot "finish" without doing the "battering ram" technique (that is most uncomfortable) HE is also unable to masturbate and oral sex does not do anything for him. He has a very tight circ with no movable skin whatsoever.<br>
With past intact partners, sex was never painful and I rarely needed lube. In fact I think I was a very sexual person before him however with my DH I cannot tolerate sex very often and it is a problem in our relationship. I desperately want him to restore, but he has such self esteem issues already that I feel telling him about this will cause more problems than it will solve, so I keep quiet.
 

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Everything was better with my intact partners. Some circ'd sex was very good, but any aspect of foreplay, masturbation, intercourse, etc. was always better with intact partners. Sigh.<br>
My husband has no interest in restoring, but I wish he did.
 

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There is no comparison between the two. Like Claire said, sex is very painful at first and then the pain dulls to just hurting. After a few minutes, I'm dry and the pain gets worse. This is partially my fault for not wanting to stop him (I just want him to hurry up and finish), so I never ask him to stop so we can add lube. This results in me being very sore the next day, thus putting me "out of commission" for at least 2 days.<br><br>
I always thought it was me, especially since I never had this issue with my 2 previous partners. Then I found this board and realized that my 2 previous partners had 1 thing in common - they were intact. They were also the only 2 partners in my life that I was able to orgasm through sex with.<br><br>
Fortunately, I brought up restoration to DH and when he realized it was non-surgical, he did some research and picked out the device he wants to use. He's a man - he wants more sex. He knows he'll get more sex if it doesn't hurt me.
 

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Honestly? The worst partner I've had was intact. Which is too bad, because he was a great kisser, which just seems like false advertising. Sigh. But I can also say with certainty it had nothing to do with his foreskin.<br><br>
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The best (male) partners I have had have been circ'd. Some of that is just law of averages -- I'm a woman in the United States, born in the 1970s, and the overwhelming majority of men in my peer group, and thus the majority of men I've been with (not that it's that many) were cut. Some of that is the two great loves of my life have been cut, and to me, sex is better with emotion attached.<br><br>
My current partner (one of the two great loves) is circ'd and sex is very good. We're in our early 30s, and I have never given birth or had any sort of trauma, so I do not know whether there will be problems down the line, and whether or how those problems will be affected by his circ. He's also had a head injury that puts him at an elevated risk of just about every neurological disorder out there as he gets older, including sexual dysfunction...which, in itself, has nothing to do with the state of his foreskin (but again, we don't know if or how the dysfunction would manifest differently if he were intact).
 

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If you want to find out more information about this, we've definitely had a lot of posts about this in the past.<br><br>
With the SAME MAN I can talk about circ/vs. restoring. People can "argue" about whether or not it makes a difference between different men (oh, it's technique, etc. -uh-yeah right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> but when the differences are so noticable with the same man it's very clear that circ is the culprit.<br><br>
The notable differences for me, after some restoration has taken place:<br><br>
1. Exterior doesn't get as irritated. I used to get this weird "hooking" of the coronal ridge, it seemed to irritate my outside and was a distracting sensation at best. That *negative* sensation has been removed.<br><br>
2. The amount of lube needed has been greatly reduced, in some positions eliminated completely. We used to need lube EVERY time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
3. Before it felt more like a dildo almost, or a pole/broom handle. The skin was very tight and hard feeling. Now, it feels more comfortable and more padded. A much softer feel.<br><br>
4. Can definitely feel a difference in the stroke...with the gliding mechanism it feels more like a gentle massaging action than being "rubbed hard".<br><br>
5. Hand/mouth play...OMG...everything is SO much easier. I don't have to work hard like I used to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He's so much more responsive as well, I can't put this difference into words (UA concerns. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
DH does not keep his glans/innerforeskin covered all the time, from the women I have talked to, that in particular will keep them from needing less rough stimulation to climax. I wish he would do that to increase his sensitivity more even. Definitely things have improved and I hope he continues. He too tells me that whole new sensations have appeared that didn't exist before. From what he has described it seems to be that the rolling of the innerforeskin over the glans and coronal ridge gives a remarkably wonderful sensation that he didn't experience before as before working on restoring his erections were so tight there was no mobile skin at all.<br><br>
I want to point out as well that in my early 20s I definitely was more tolerant of the circ'd penis/rough feel/etc. As I became older the *negative sensations* a circ'd penis would cause became more distracting. I've always enjoyed sex immensely, but those negative sensations were distracting and a little mentally unnerving at times. I felt something was off, timing wise. We were not in sync in terms of the amount of pressure/stimulation we needed. Especially during pregnancy. Who needs to be treated roughly during pregnancy<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:. No woman deserves that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:.
 

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My dh is intact and he's the only intact man I've been with. Aside from the emotion that pp mentioned, I can say it is definitely more comfortable for me with an intact man. No need to fake it like it did with other partners.
 

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I've been with one intact man and it was some of the most painful sex of my life. I doubt it had anything to do with his being intact, however.<br><br>
As for the rest, I've had all kinds of experiences...good and bad. But all the best was with circed men, but I would never attribute it to that. I just think we were more compatible.
 

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Also, it's important to understand that <b><span style="color:#0000FF;">if a man has a foreskin that does not fully retract over the penis head, he will likely perform sex like a circumcised man.</span></b> That is, he will thrust to stimulate pressure-sensitive nerves in the middle & base area of his penis shaft, rather than thrusting to primarily stimulate the touch-sensitive nerves of his inner foreskin and frenulum, which, unfortunately, remain covered up<br>
during intercourse.
 

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Thanks for the responses so far.... I can definately see how having a strong emotional attachment can go a long ways to improve sex, but im curious from those of you that were satisfied with your circed partners, how tight were they circed? The "skin tight" seems to be one of the most annoying things,while the edge of the head/glans and lack of lube are the next. Is that just because of more friction? Does it remove more lube? Does it amplify the irritation from the edge of the glans?<br><br>
Its funny that most people in the US probably think the more friction the better....
 

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I've been in LTR with both. I'll go through the list of assertions<br><br>
1 The scraping seems anatomically true, however the only time I'd experienced soreness has been from being very active sexually and I've had soreness with both intact and circ'd sex.<br><br>
2 true, specifically if long strokes are the norm during that encounter.<br><br>
3 this goes with 2<br><br>
4 true, but again soreness is not the norm for me<br><br>
5 only when I've had crappy lovers<br><br>
6 well yeah it can, but experienced lovers don't need to do this. IME this is style issue and experience issue. I've had plenty of circ'd sex that is not like that. Someone needs some sex ed.<br><br>
7 The statement is true, although comments in 6 apply also.<br><br>
8 Well yeah being out of sync is frustrating. Period.<br><br>
9 Lessens feeling of love? I'm going to assume they are saying it inherently lessens feelings of love. The only times I've had lessened feelings of love after sex is when the person was manipulative.<br><br>
10 See 9 same applies.<br><br>
Maybe the problem is American men watch too much porn where they want to film the ins and outs, because that kind of sex is not the most fun and it's not the only way circ'd men can have sex or reach orgasm?<br><br>
ITA with OPs mom that masturbation and I'll add oral sex is much more pleasurable and fun with an intact partner.
 

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I just read the replies, you know interesting thing was said about pregnancy<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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ITA with that. I remember having sex when I was pg, after we had been apart for a long time and having the pounding sex that is described. And I remember telling him that it felt like he was going to turn the baby into scrambled eggs. The thing is that he is intact.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">...pounding sex...The thing is that he is intact.</div>
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An intact man (who has a foreskin that retracts correctly) will find it easier to give up pounding sex, if his partner requests that he do so.<br><br>
A circumcised man (whose foreskin and frenulum touch-sensitive nerves have been stripped away) will find it much more difficult, if not impossible, to give up.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">An intact man (who has a foreskin that retracts correctly) will find it easier to give up pounding sex, if his partner requests that he do so.<br><br>
A circumcised man (whose foreskin and frenulum touch-sensitive nerves have been stripped away) will find it much more difficult, if not impossible, to give up.</div>
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IME they both can quite easily if shown different technique, although given the right circumstances they will both choose to still do it on occasion and in certain circumstances. Which I can't go into and stay within the UA.
 

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Circumcision definately has a sexual impact for both partners and is an appropriate topic for this forum as long as the discussion remains within the guidelines for posting in this forum - located in a sticky thread at the top of the forum.<br><br>
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You guys are doing fine, I just wanted to post a little reminder just to give some guidance in case anyone needed it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Yeah, well, you asked so i'll tell.<br><br>
I have only been with circ'd men, or so I thought. After me and my old boyfriend of a couple years broke up I found out he was uncircumcised, i didn't really have any clue. He was hands down my best partner. I believe it had to do with the face that he wasn't circ'd.<br><br>
i would take an intact man over a circ'd one, anyday! ya know, if i had that choice, lol.
 

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I didn't notice any difference between my circed and intact partners. Even oral sex seemed the same to me. (I've had plenty of partners <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> )
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Circumcision definitely has a sexual impact for both partners and is an appropriate topic for this forum as long as the discussion remains within the guidelines for posting in this forum - located in a sticky thread at the top of the forum.<br><br>
From the guidelines:<br><br><br>
You guys are doing fine, I just wanted to post a little reminder just to give some guidance in case anyone needed it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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You guys are making the mods nervous! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
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You are just subbing so you don't miss anything good in case of a lock. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Foreplay and oral are more complex with an intact penis or a loosely cut one. They usually do not need lubricant, whereas tightly cut men generally do. I find that a tightly cut penis is boring for those type of things.<br><br>
During intercourse I've noticed that an intact penis is smoothest, and glides well with no lubricant, a loosely cut one glides well and is equally smooth with no lubricant...but only for awhile. It tends to dry out and get sore/have a lot of friction issues. A tightly cut needs lubricant from the beginning and depending on how tight, a reapplication. Even with there's soreness and friction and having sex can sometimes be quite painful.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">During intercourse I've noticed that an intact penis is smoothest, and glides well with no lubricant, a loosely cut one glides well and is equally smooth with no lubricant...but only for awhile. It tends to dry out and get sore/have a lot of friction issues. A tightly cut needs lubricant from the beginning and depending on how tight, a reapplication.</div>
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I would say that I agree with these statements and it has been my experience.
 
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