Well, it is pretty much a done deal. I'm bumping up from 15 hours a week to 30.<br><br>
I'm concerned about keeping on top of everything. I'm sure I can do it but it still worries me.<br><br>
Anyway, how do you do it?
let it go.... Seriously - my house is no where near as clean as we'd like it to be, but I do what I can when I can. Same with DH.<br><br>
We just made the commitment that it would be about DS when we're with him. When he goes to sleep, we'd do a LITTLE bit of chores & make sure we leave some time for personal hobbies - message boards and knitting for me, online poker & video games for DH. Some nights we watch a little tv... You know - make time for ourselves.<br><br>
I'm also trying to be VERY organized about meal planning & shopping. Keeping it simple & everything. It's hard because I'd rather cook from scratch, etc. but I'd rather spend time with my family even more.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"> - sorry to go on and on...<br><br>
Good luck & remember that you'll need an adjustment period.
we hired a cleaning lady who comes every other week. i thought i'd be cleaning on the off weeks but i don't usually do that (minimally i will do the toilets and our tub; sometimes i will do the floor if it is really nasty.<br><br>
we lowered our standards for meals. dh hates leftovers but now realizes how they can be a time-saver. we eat lunch out a little more often but dinners are more often at home (and not pizza delivery!).<br><br>
i don't have any expectations about doing stuff in the evening - ds is going through 9-month "funk" so his bedtime varies from one night to the next. plus he likes to marathon nurse at the end of the day.<br><br>
These are all the things that make in managable for me:<br>
1. Dh and I share all the chores and parenting.<br>
2. We have in home child care which makes our lives easier as we do not have to get dd ready to go anywhere and our au pair does her laundry and cooks for her.<br>
3. We pay someone else to clean the house and cut the lawn.<br>
4. I do more personal things at work than I probably should--pay bills, post on MDC, make appointments, do research etc.<br>
5. Very simple but healthy meals.<br>
5. Our social lives are VERY limited. All the time we have we spend with dd (and soon to be dds).<br><br>
Good luck. It can be done! For the most part we are pretty stress free. I'm assuming that is going to change any minute now!!
is it completely rude for me to ask what you folks pay for a housekeeper? (Obviously there are differences in cost of living from place to place...)<br><br>
We're pretty broke, but I'm willing to give up somethings for that opportunity.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
our cleaning lady charges $25 per person per hour. i set a $100 maximum - she cleans what she can get done in 4 hours (by herself) or in 2 hours (when she has 1 helper). we have a fairly large house so not everything gets cleaned every week - we don't use the basement family room that much any more so it isn't a high priority unless we've had messy houseguests.<br><br>
a friend of mine in chicago pays less per hour for her cleaning lady but i forget what exactly that was.
I second the every other week housekeeper. My mother gave us several months' worth as a gift and it has been the most helpful thing ever. We keep things picked up pretty well in between, but this way the bathroom, kitchen and floors get done regularly. We pay $50 per visit, usually takes about 21/2 - 3 hrs. We have a small house.<br><br>
Good food is very important to us, so meal planning and only grocery shopping once a week really helps too. I try to cook enough for leftovers 2-3 times a week or for lunches.<br><br>
Our house keeper is really expensive--$120 every two weeks for a smaller house. She can clean the whole thing in about three hours. I tried someone cheaper once but they didn't do as good a job. This is a real sacrifice for us but it is really worth it. We drive old cars, have no cable or cell phones, slow internet access, etc. But it's a choice and it's really worth it for us!!
I'm just starting back to WOH this coming monday, so I certainly cannot speak from experience, but we have hired a nanny to come to our home (as someone said, saves time in trying to get the kids out the door). When we hired her we gave her the option of just watching the kids for a certain pay rate, or if she would be willing to do some very light housekeeping for a slightly higher pay rate. She has agreed to do the housekeeping and will be doing dishes, vacuuming a small rug, Swiffering the hardwood, and sweeping the bathroom/kitchen tiles, as well as ironing every other week. We only have a small 1-bedroom apartment, so this is not a lot of work, but it will keep DH and I sane and those are chose neither of us like to do.<br><br>
Also..I bought a crock pot and a cookbook of cassaroles! :LOL
A cleaning person is not an option.<br><br>
Dh and I will jsut learn to share the load...he stays home iwth the boys 10-15 of the hours I'm working <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
<a href="http://www.flylady.net" target="_blank">www.flylady.net</a> has been helpful for me. I know some people perceive her advise as to rigid or structured, but I find it comforting and flexible. I'd summarize her advise as "Get rid of the things in your life that don't work for you, set reasonable expectations for the rest, be kind, and enjoy yourself." I work 30hrs/week, dd is 2 1/2, and dh works full time. I've let my routines slide lately, but with a recent positive pregnancy test I'm going back to FlyLady.<br><br>
Just a thought.
A housekeeper isn’t an option for us either. DH stays home and he dusts and cleans the bathrooms once a week, and run the vacuum a bit more often. Although it is nice to have someone do this it isn’t a huge chunk of housework- only about an hour’s worth spread out through the week. We share all the other house work, yard work, cooking and laundry, etc. The thing that helps me is to make lists and to start routines. We make a list of the bigger chores and cross them off as we do them. There is no pressure to complete the list- but it is helpful to have a reminder of what needs to be done so I can weigh what job I can do to have the most impact, and what can wait until next week- we can drive the car one more week before getting the oil changed, but if we don’t mow the lawn we won’t be able to see our toddler if he goes in the backyard. Stuff that we do every week is more routine. For example, I wash all the delicate clothes every Thursday, so they can hang to dry and be ironed (my work clothes) or otherwise dealt with on Sunday. Other laundry gets collected and sorted each evening and a load of some sort started after dinner and then hung to dry or put in the drier before we get the kids in bed. I also plan a weeks worth of meals, so when we are cleaning up from dinner we can start on the next day’s dinner by soaking beans, preparing the crock pot, taking stuff out of the freezer, etc. We also try to make a game or playtime out of the household chores whenever possible- to involve the kids a bit. It’s all a delicate balance but we cope the best we can.