[Phoenix~Mama]

How are you dealing with work in these last couple of weeks??

I'm not doing so good... I'm ready to fall asleep at my desk and I have only been here an hour... I was up half the night with contractions again and my abdomen hasn't really quieted down today. I have a heating pad on... which is helping... but my goodness I would love to be in bed right now.

I'm feeling very down about having to work and getting really agitated about what we have to push our bodies through.

I really can't afford to go out early... if it remains really miserable today I may ask about working from home the last couple hours, but I don't want to push my luck with my boss.

Anyone else feeling like this? Or not? How are you dealing with with all the BH's and miserablness at work?

 

[papschmitty]

Ugh, I totally understand! I work two jobs. My "real" job is as a public health nurse in a little walk-in family planning office. The other nurse I work with is on maternity leave so I'm here by myself. I have the busiest office in the county. I average seeing at least 14 patients everyday. I have no support staff so I do all the administrative duties too. I'm also the lead nurse for our program so I have all sorts of responsibilities outside of general clinic work. I have terrible hip pain due a pinched nerve that nothing will help and it's really aggrivated by sitting in office chairs.

I work 10 hour days here so by the time I pick up DD from daycare, get home, and make dinner, I can barely keep my eyes open. I'm usually in bed by about 8:30 pm every night but, as you know, I'm up peeing and/or contracting and/or in pain throughout the night. I also work one day a week doing the financial stuff for my dad's practice. That's not as physically demanding but I have to start getting the year end tax stuff together for the accountant which drives me crazy even when I'm not pg!

I'm uncomfortable, in pain, and honestly, don't really give much of a [email protected] anymore. I keep telling DH that I can't wait to go on maternity leave so I can hibernate from the working world. I'm still hoping to make it to my due date in early January though. It's going to be a looooong couple weeks. Thank goodness the holidays are coming to break things up a little.

OK, my pity party is over. Hugs to all of us!

 

[Pogo0685]

I know how you feel, it sucks

I don't take my maternity leave for another 6 weeks, I am not due until the end of Jan. though. But I do feel tired all day and can't sleep at night, and its only going to get worse. But after the baby is here it will all be worth it!

 

[box_of_rain]

I'm right there with the rest of you. I work 6 days a week at 2 jobs and bring my thoroughly destructive and rambunctious 3.5 year old with me to work during the day. It's getting really old. I have to clean the office up after the kid before I leave and clean more when I get home...

I'm also not sleeping well at night and my younger guy still wakes me up at night to nurse a couple of times.

I don't get any maternity leave to look forward to and I'm a little nervous as to how I'm going to hold up these last few weeks. My evening/weekend job is as a librarian dealing with the public and I'm already getting cranky about it. People are so obnoxious.

Okay. Rant over. I feel your pain!!

 

[amayhew]

I'm working retail, but have cut my hours down to 25 per week for the next two weeks then I am done on Dec. 19th! I can't even fathom another day sometimes. I have to stop and sit alot now, so the timing is right...plus the kids get out of school that day for winter break

I feel really blessed though to be leaving so early!

 

[Hallielynn01]

There too, I'm down to 2 days a week now, but as a dog groomer, its still hard. Like today, I had a 75lb dog who refused to get in the tub, hop on the table, and no one was around to help. I'm sure I strained myself more than I should have at this stage, but...... then leaning over to shave these bigger dogs etc....... just has me wooped. The baby starts squirming like crazy for the high velocity dryer too, its loud. DD did it too, and it always had me paranoid. Plus I can't fit in my shoes, so i'm winging it with sandles, just hope I don't drop my scissors!

 

[laurelg]

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Originally Posted by JSMa How are you dealing with work in these last couple of weeks??

I dealt with it by quitting.

 

[racidoodle]

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Originally Posted by laurelg I dealt with it by quitting.

Which makes you my hero.

I called DH nearly in tears today saying I was at my wit's end. Then I loudly proclaimed that I couldn't possibly fathom coming back after maternity leave to the same stupid crap I'm doing now. Maybe not the smartest move since I really really really need to work. My income accounts for about 65% of our total income, so... yeah... Sure wish I could quit, though. Good for you!

But riddle me this: Why aren't women permitted to spend at least the last two months of their pregnancies away from the daily grind, be it work away from home or at home, preparing their bodies and minds for the immense responsibility of bringing a new life into the world? Where are the comfy cushions (for napping at will), massages (for our aching bodies), luxurious baths (to relieve the extra weight), rose petals (because they sound nice), and all the stuff we really deserve? Sheesh.

 

[ambrosia77]

It's really, really hard. It's just striking me how wrong it feels to be exerting all my energy on a job I don't care about right now. I really want to be focusing on what's really important--getting ready for the baby--and crocheting and making food for the freezer instead. For me the problem is that my bosses are expecting me to do everything I would normally do in January and February now, before I leave (even though someone will be filling in for me!!!), so it is super busy and crazy on top of just the tedium of going to and being at the office.

I hate that I keep everything together and try to be superhuman all day at work, and then I come home and fall apart and cry over the littlest things, and I'm not getting my hospital bag packed or the baby stuff washed and organized, because I'm too worn out from work.

Anyway, I can empathize.

 

[_betsy_]

I worked until a week before delivery my first PG, and will probably do the same this time aroiund. Went back at 7 weeks PP last time, though, and THAT I cannot fathom doing this time around. Going back at 12 weeks PP still sounds sucky and isn't the greatest for us financially, but I can't imagine going back any sooner.

I'm due late Dec./early Jan. and I'm holding in there. Tired of course. But not too many complaints otherwise. I haven't really felt any BH with this PG, either - I never got any with DD1.

 

[Phoenix~Mama]

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Originally Posted by ambrosia77 It's really, really hard. It's just striking me how wrong it feels to be exerting all my energy on a job I don't care about right now. I really want to be focusing on what's really important--getting ready for the baby--and crocheting and making food for the freezer instead. For me the problem is that my bosses are expecting me to do everything I would normally do in January and February now, before I leave (even though someone will be filling in for me!!!), so it is super busy and crazy on top of just the tedium of going to and being at the office. I hate that I keep everything together and try to be superhuman all day at work, and then I come home and fall apart and cry over the littlest things, and I'm not getting my hospital bag packed or the baby stuff washed and organized, because I'm too worn out from work. Anyway, I can empathize.

*nods* I have several projects that I am trying desperately to tie up before Christmas break... problem is I need other people to do their part before I can complete mine and it's like pulling teeth... I keep impressing upon them that I may not be back after Christmas break and I really really need to get this project done before next Friday.

I am booked with meetings every single day for the rest of the week! Just crazy.

And yes.... in my head all I can really focus on is the 500 lists of things that need to be done at home to make me feel secure that everything is ready and in place. I am really lucky that my company closes the week of Christmas... I think I'd feel totally at a loss if I did not have that week off. I'm still worried though. Sometimes I feel like baby could come now and I'd manage/be okay... but then other times I look around the house when I get home at articles/books I still I want to finish reading and the fact that the hospital bag is still in the attic. lol And I freak out a little.

I am feeling really blessed that DH has been my rock the past month... he has done an incredible turn around with being very supportive and I think he is basking in his own little pre-baby things... I swear the man has been nesting more than me. lol And he has been holding me everynight when I need him to and just being so sweet and rubbing my belly and talking to Kallie.

Almost there... almost there. lol

 

[Jannah6]

to all of you working moms.

 

[MrsSoup]

Thankfully my work is not very stressful and the load has gone down significantly since I moved to a different position, but that's almost making it worse. I don't have enough to keep me busy through the day for the most part and so it mkaes me think about how tired I am and how much I want to be home sleeping. Especially since I have to be at work at 7am...

Just have to pack the hospital bag and everything else will be "ready" if baby comes early. Everything else can be done later....

 

[Phoenix~Mama]

I got my first meeting request that I got to select tentative to today!

: It's for the 9th... 4 days after my EDD... I am praying soooo hard I won't be here for it. lol

 

[Hallielynn01]

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Originally Posted by _betsy_ I worked until a week before delivery my first PG, and will probably do the same this time aroiund. Went back at 7 weeks PP last time, though, and THAT I cannot fathom doing this time around. Going back at 12 weeks PP still sounds sucky and isn't the greatest for us financially, but I can't imagine going back any sooner. I'm due late Dec./early Jan. and I'm holding in there. Tired of course. But not too many complaints otherwise. I haven't really felt any BH with this PG, either - I never got any with DD1.

I feel ya, I went back at 6 wks PP, my boss was begging. I had gone in a day or two here and there, since my job is physically demanding I just had to make sure my body was ready. But I went back FT then, and I think I dealt with some border line PPD because of it. I was always unhappy, felt like I was going against everything my soul was telling me was the right thing for my family. This time I'm only going back 2 days a week, it will be hard if not close to impossible, like now, financially, but I just can't do that to myself again, it was too soon.

 

[laurelg]

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Originally Posted by racidoodle Which makes you my hero. I called DH nearly in tears today saying I was at my wit's end. Then I loudly proclaimed that I couldn't possibly fathom coming back after maternity leave to the same stupid crap I'm doing now. Maybe not the smartest move since I really really really need to work. My income accounts for about 65% of our total income, so... yeah... Sure wish I could quit, though. Good for you! But riddle me this: Why aren't women permitted to spend at least the last two months of their pregnancies away from the daily grind, be it work away from home or at home, preparing their bodies and minds for the immense responsibility of bringing a new life into the world? Where are the comfy cushions (for napping at will), massages (for our aching bodies), luxurious baths (to relieve the extra weight), rose petals (because they sound nice), and all the stuff we really deserve? Sheesh.

Well, I certainly don't deserve any accolades - our financial situation isn't the best right now, so me quitting was probably not the wisest move. That said, I was planning on being done about three weeks later anyway (I was going to quit at full-term, Dec. 20th) and I am going to be a SAHM after the baby gets here, so the reason I did it was it came down to the difference of a few hundred dollars or my sanity! I was in a partial customer service position and hit the point where I couldn't deal with peoples' crap very well anymore... plus there were some physical requirements to the job I wasn't comfortable with. Fortunately my replacement was trained and ready to go, so when I decided I wanted to throw in the towel, I could.

Now I'm just nervous because DH's employers are doing their level best to make things tight... lots of promises unkept - like 40/hrs a week year-round, bonuses, raises... none of which are materializing... I'm trying not to freak out, but now would REALLY not be a good time for him to get laid off! Fortunately his supervisor seems like a decent human being and is aware we have a baby on the way, so between that and the holidays I'm hoping he's going to keep going to bat for DH... Ahhhhh...

 

[_ktg_]

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Originally Posted by JSMa How are you dealing with work in these last couple of weeks?? I'm not doing so good... I'm ready to fall asleep at my desk and I have only been here an hour... I was up half the night with contractions again and my abdomen hasn't really quieted down today. I have a heating pad on... which is helping... but my goodness I would love to be in bed right now. I'm feeling very down about having to work and getting really agitated about what we have to push our bodies through. I really can't afford to go out early... if it remains really miserable today I may ask about working from home the last couple hours, but I don't want to push my luck with my boss. Anyone else feeling like this? Or not? How are you dealing with with all the BH's and miserablness at work?

I could have typed this rant/vent. I am so irritated with work, and my lack of sleep is not making the situation any better. My back aches, my belly is tight and all that sounds good is either some yoga (which thank god its Thursday I get to go to) or a warm bath so I can float belly down to counter act all this sitting in the chair I am doing.

I'm just counting down the days for myself as there is an building friction between the person I supervise and me about how to handle things lately. Long story short - she wanted the job my boss put me into - right now I'm tempted to just tell my boss, she can have it as I am getting sick of her "trying to one up me" in meetings and etc..

- what was that commerical with the bubble bath stuff - like calagon take me away??? that's what I am dreaming of now

 

[papschmitty]

Today is a particularly sucky day for me at work. It's actually slow for once which is nice but my hip is killing me! It hurts when I sit, it hurts when I stand, it hurts no matter what! I have a bunch of fires that I should be putting out but I have such a bad attitude that I just don't even care and can't motivate myself to do anything. I'm in such a snarky mood today. I so desparately want to yell at my team "Let's all just do our jobs, act like adults, and try to do a little basic problem solving on our own!" But then that would be becoming of a lady now would it?

I hate that what little energy I do I have is being wasted here instead of spent on my family. DD is having such a rough week, DH is a basket case because of possible layoffs and major changes at his job, and I feel like I'm at the end of my rope!

VENT OVER.

 

[acory23]

ITS KILLING ME! I work for my MIL. She is awesome. But now I feel like I cant ask for early leave. The problem is, I have to walk fromt he commuter boat to the office every morning and the reverse every day. Thats about 6 blocks. At least I dont have to drive rush hour traffic but its still a lot. I find myself losing focus and motivation which is setting me back even more. I could take leave early if I could just get all of this prep work done. I am getting everythign in order to run smoothly while I am out. I am also working on getting annual billing done before the end of the month... not easy. As it is right now, I have 4 office days and 1 work from home day. But I am considering asking for more. Im so tired I cant fully function.

Also, this morning, I slipped on ice coming off of the commuter boat and fell. Its getting dangerous. I am becoming more and more worried abot being so far from home in case I did go into labor. I would have to fight outbound traffic from the city (Boston) which can be a nightmare. Or I wold have to try to make a commuter ferry which would be torture. *sigh*

 

[acory23]

Oh, I forgot to add, I account for 60% of the household income... AT LEAST and we are currently having financial issues as it is. I am going to have a very short maternity leave and resume working. The bonus is that I will be working from home nad going into the office like one day a week or even one day every two weeks and I will be taking the baby with me. But I will be paid for part time instead of full time. At least the kids wont be in after school care anymore which will aleviate some of the burden but on te other hand, DH's ex just quit her job and applied for SSI disability benefits (which is a totally BS unfair situation that I dont want to go into right now) so child support will increase.

GRRRRRRR

I dont want to work anymore!