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So were abot to buy a new home and I really need to make some extra income..<br><br>
I was thinking I would eithier go back to work serving/bartending 2-3 nights a week at night frm like 5-2<br><br>
OR get a kid and babysit mon-fri<br><br>
I really dont want to leave ds but he is pretty much sleeping through the night so he'll be with my dp for like 3 hours without me 2-3 times a week<br><br>
BUT if I have another kid around allthe time he never gets my full attention which he is VERY use to<br><br>
AND i wont make as much sitting full time as i would bartending2-3 nights a week<br><br>
What would youu do?
 

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I would choose the bartending option in a New York minute. It offers you more money for less work and your son gets some one on one time with his daddy a few nights a week which will be fun for both of them. It also still leaves you 5 nights a week to have time in the evenings with your significant other. The only drawback I see is that you will be pretty zonked the mornings after those two nights since they end pretty late. I would talk with your partner about rearranging the division of work within the home to make sure that you do not get too overwhelmed.
 

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If I was really comfortable with the other parents and child maybe. I'm just a little anal and couldn't deal with a brat. It would also be hard for me to keep my mouth shut if the parents we're doing something I felt strongly about that it was bad for the child. ykwim<br>
Dealing with other peoples kids now that I'm a mom scares me a little... I'd do whatever is less stressful and would allow me to be a happy mommy when I'm with my dc <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Just a quick note ... though you seem to understand this already ...<br>
The babysitting option seems neato at first - you get to keep your dc with you, what's one more kid, etc etc. But it's not easy. And underscore the point about your dc being used to having your undivided attention. Not only will he get jealous of any attention you give to the baby-sat, but the kid you're watching will get jealous of anything you're doing with your own dc. Plus, it's very difficult not to play favorites, and they notice.<br><br>
I'd bartend, if you were comfy with it. Plus, it gives you a few hours a day of NON-baby/kid stuff. When you babysit for a living, it starts to feel like your entire existence is consumed by kids. Getting out among adults and interacting with them helps to stem the tide of overwhelming diaper smell.<br><br>
YMMV.
 

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The bartending job, no question. Though it physically takes you outside the home, it will interfere with your lifestyle & parenting much less than babysitting would.
 

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I would choose bartending in a nanosecond. DD also likes having my undivided attention and I think that she needs it. Also, having another child around 5 days a week would be too much for me, I like having my time with only DD. YMMV of course.
 

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I babysit for several different families part-time. However, in your situation (assuming I wasn't about to have another baby and dh would be the one here while I was working), I'd go with the bartending.
 

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I baby sit for my sister every other week. It drives me crazy. Of course, she has 3 kids that I watch, along with dd. Fortunately, the oldest is 11 and can help a lot and the younger 2 are only a year apart (3 and 4) and play well together.<br><br>
If you are comfortable leaving your lo (I'm still too much of a baby to leave dd anywhere, ever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> ) I would take the bartending job.
 

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It sounds like you'd prefer to bartend, so I'd encourage you to go with that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
It'd be different if you were really enthusiastic about taking on an extra kid or two (which can be fun in its own way), though if you were I'd caution you to not get yourself stuck and to go into it with the very clear expectation between you and the other parents that if it doesn't work out or is too much you will give them 2 weeks notice (or longer, if you like). Too many times caregivers can get guilted into staying longer than they should (either internally/themselves or from the other parents!), and that's not good for anyone, sometimes it's harder for some people than others to learn how to keep a childcare arrangement professional.<br><br>
Go with what you feel has the most benefits for the time you'll spend doing it, and what sits the best with you. Hey, you know, if it doesn't work out, you can always try the other! Especially with child care. If you're competent, nurturing, and have good communication skills (hmmm similar to what you need for bartending kinda, right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ) then you will ALWAYS be able to find a job caring for other children. So since it sounds like the bartending might be the best thing for you at this time, go for it mama. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I just had to laugh...bc I read the OP and thought..."no way on the babysitting". I've BTDT...it was stressful but I stress over stuff way to easily. Anyways...then I read the other posts...and most were in favor of the bartending...as I am. I thought it funny that the majority was not in favor of babysitting esp since I would guess that most of the posters are very AP. I am AP with my kiddos but when it comes to other kiddos, I am not as AP...unless they are infants and then I am AP. I would prefer the bartending since it's predictable and offers some adult interaction....often what I miss about SAHMing unless of course, I am getting out of the house enough with other mammas.<br><br>
Good luck with whatever you decide. :)
 

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I'm in the same boat here...not in buying another home, but in just needing to generate some extra money to pay bills. I've been a SAHM for 6 years and am trying to decide between baby sitting and going back to bartending. I had decided to just go back to work and had a job offer, but we would have to give up all flexiblity and it's just not worth it right now. I'm definitely leaning towards bartending. I am very AP, but it clouds my views of other people and how they parent (cause, ya know, I'm right and they're not) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> . I'm worried about how tired I would be the mornigns after working the bar as well though. DS gets up at the crack of dawn and doesn't nap now that he is older. But, I also worry about having other kids here 5 days a week and working 50 hours for $3 per hour. Doesn't really sound fun to me. So, after all that, I am looking for a bartending job, at least for now.
 

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bartend, no questions asked! find a good place, nothing that would make you feel 'dirty' at the end of the night... i guess one too many jobs behind a bar is coming back to me now.
 

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Bartending! If one of your customers throws himself on the floor and starts screaming and kicking you, you get to have him summarily escorted out. Not so on the babysitting gig.<br><br>
Plus, I bet it would be nice to have a change of scenery a few times a week. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I decided to apply at Eastside Marios yesturday...got a call back for an interview TODAY!!....the bad thing, i have a dentist apt and im suppose to go se a house AND I have to find my fil whos disappeared to see if he'll watch the little one lol<br><br>
Ill let yall know how it goes!!!
 

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I would say do the night gig since you dp can spend some cuddle time and you can enjoy being with adults. LOL!<br><br>
I think I personally would go with watching the additional child becuase I feel my dd as an only child can gain a ton by being around another child. Things mommy can't teach in the same way...
 
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