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I think I have asked this quesiton before, but I am asking it again!!<br>
I have an incredibly spirited loud clingy 3 1/2 yo. I also have a 6 and an 8 yo. I try to do a lesson with the older boys, and the youngest just needsd and needs and needs. And when he needs, he talks. loudly. So, for instance today, I was going to read the boys a book about ganesh, fo rour religious studies class. I got Eli set up with some clay in the kitchen, about 20 feet away from us. He kept running back over to us to tell us what he was doing next. And when he wasnt running over, he was yelling across the room. If we sit right next to him, he will just talk and talk right over us. I get completely frazzled!!<br>
what can I do about this?
 

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Does he nap? Maybe save the most intense parts of the lessons for nap times. Or take him for a long walk in the morning (if it's not too cold right now). Reserve a special thing for him when it's school time-- a favorite video, snack, or toy and he <i>only</i> gets to have it if he's quiet. Or promise him something afterwards.<br><br>
My 3yo behaves much better if I give her some intense one-on-one time beforehand. For example if I want to spend the day visiting at a friend's house I make sure to give Abi lots of mommy time first. If I don't she will come to me every 2 mins. and try to compete with the friend for my attention. If I give her the mommy time first she will be happy to play and not compete.<br><br>
Have you read "Raising Yours Spirited Child?" It has some great calming activities. Sand and water play come to mind, also finger painting. I didn't have sand so I filled a large container with dry rice and she loved pouring it into cups and squishing it in her hands.<br><br>
My spirited child was later dx with Sensory Integration Dysfunction. Anyway that book came in very handy starting in the toddler years. Each time I read it I learn something new that applies to her as she gets older. Abi finds playing with trains and cars to be hypnotic.<br><br>
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I know how frustrating it can be when we have little ones around who want our attention while we are trying to focus on schoolwork for even 5 minutes.<br><br>
Are there any activities that he already does *quietly*? Have you tried semi-structured, self correcting, independent activities such as puzzles, matching games, Leap Pad, etc. rather than open ended ones(like sensory or art experiences)? If he enjoys music, perhaps he could listen or sing along? Could you incorporate him into your activities in some way, such as doing your reading during a storytime? I have rotated little kid stories in with our older kid reading, and then the little ones wander off when they lose interest.<br><br>
Good luck! I watch an active 3yo along with my 2 kids and things tend to be touch and go. Getting into a routine helps everyone, and the little ones have adjusted to our school times during the morning and afternoon. I second the suggestion of doing lots of 1 on 1 first then moving onto the school once the little one runs off to do their own thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I don't have much to add, I just wanted to say I'm right there with you.<br><br>
The things that have worked best for us:<br><br>
Exercise and good breakfast in the AM(even if it's cold).<br><br>
One on one time with ds first thing in the AM.<br><br>
Letting go of the chaos around me. Afterall, if dd was in school, a busy classroom is full of distractions. At this age, learning how to get along with, and meeting family members needs, comes first. Modeling patience(!) and being tolerant of others differences.(My biggest challenge!)<br><br>
Dd can now read to learn, so I will do something with ds, and ask dd to come to me with any questions or troubles.<br><br>
Our ds also is at that age of constantly interrupting us-all day long. Dh and I have the broken record response of asking ds to stop talking, look at the person already talking, and wait for them to stop before he is allowed to speak. THis process can take several minutes, but dh feels it is worth it, as we never did such a thing with dd, and the age of eight, she is just now learning to not interrupt! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
Hang in there....this too shall pass.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br><br>
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Oh, wow MP!! Our kids are exactly the same age. My interrupter's bday is 06-01 and my oldest is 12-96. I am glad to see yours interrupts all the time too. I have struggled with letting him do it vs make him wait for his turn, and then he forgets what he wants to say. ITA about the distractions of the classroom, but just to make things interesting, my 8 yo has Aspergers, and so cannot just let interruptions roll off of his back. If we get interrupted, a lot of times, he will just leave. Darshani, he does have sensory integration dysfunction, and he has received OT for it. I have read SPirited CHild, but I didnt find it very helpful to our speicifics ???<br><br>
Lisa, he doesnt do anything quietly! SOmetimes the playdoh works, sometiems it doesnt. I need to have different kids of clay and dough for him to choose from, i think. Something like a leap pad might be a good idea. self correcting.<br>
oh, and morning exercise would be good too
 
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