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Hi all,<br>
For some reason, I'm having the hardest time with my job right now. And I think its all related to being pregnant. I just flat out DO NOT want to leave the house in the mornings and once I'm at work, I am the crankiest woman alive. And nothing at my job has really changed. I enjoy the people I work with, the hours are good, and there is nothing super stressful about my job duties. I'm just in a foul mood the moment I walk in the door.<br><br>
I've been emotional lately and I realize this. I'm also not sleeping as well as I did pre-pg. I know all this is related. I have a short fuse these days and all the unsolicited advice and different people asking "how are you feeling" every 2 minutes just gets to me. I know they all mean well and it is ridiculous to feel so venomous towards them....I'm trying to be more conscious of this but I catch myself getting all peeved when someone asks me "how's the baby doing?" and rubs my stomach uninvited.<br><br>
Is anyone else finding work a struggle these day? Anyone have some good coping techniques?
 

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Oh no! People are actually rubbing your belly like they have the right to invade your personal space?! No one at my office has done anything like that. My office mate always makes a point of saying how good and healthy I look. Its nice once, but more often just sounds like I'm looking rotund.<br><br>
I hate going to work in the morning too, partly b/c I too don't sleep as well as I did pre-pg, but also b/c I literally have about 30 minutes worth of work to do a day (at most). Why do you think I'm posting online all the time? There is so much stuff that I could do at home right now, but instead, I spend 7 out of my 7.5 hours at work doing virtually nothing. Oh, those are the longest 7 hours.
 

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When I was pregnant with my first I got this huge promotion.<br><br>
I had met and surpassed most things to get it but my supervising partner was unsure how I would lead/manage others in that he did not think I would let go of the details (I am a control freak) and let the people on my team do their job and grow. In the end he was so impressed with just how much confidence I appeared to have in the people I chose to work with on this very important project that I go the promotion off-cycle.<br><br>
The truth is, I was so wrapped up in being pregnant that I am lucky everyone else was so competent. All this to say I totally understand how you feel.
 

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Sorry mama! I can relate!
 

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I totally, TOTALLY, can relate! I went back to work from maternity leave the same week I became pregnant (though I didn't realize it at the time!) I was SO exhausted, and found going back so stressful. When I had left, I was one of the lead hands implementing a new system, but the system hadn't yet been put into use. When I came back, everyone else had been using the system for a year and I was behind, but everyone else still looked to me as an "expert." So between being pregnant, feeling torn about leaving my little one, and trying to play catch-up, I'm ready to go on my maternity leave RIGHT now! It's going to be a long five months!!!
 

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Right there with you! I was sitting at my desk today completely unable to focus, wishing I was anywhere but there. Luckily I teach on Thursday afternoons, something I have to be "on" for, so that helped.<br><br>
Based on last time, the only advice I can give is, if at all possible, focus on the parts of the job that are step-by-step and give you an immediate feeling of accomplishment, or that you do with a team (I know in plenty of jobs there's little flexibility in what you do each day, but hopefully you have a little). I was/ am at my very worst with "creative" and solo work. My brain is constantly wandering, and I seem to lose all self-discipline. So things like the journal article I should have had out last month may not happen for a while.<br><br>
Oh, and I know I sometimes get the feeling that I have to be super-fabulous while pregnant, to prove that parenting won't "get in the way" on the job. This is a useless thing to worry about. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We should all give ourselves a big break. Gestating is a lot of work all by itself. Really
 

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Oh my. My job. Yes. Like Stefka said, my job is teaching, and I do that part. When I'm in the classroom, I run the classroom, forgetting about being pregnant for whole minutes.<br><br>
But the rest of it. I haven't graded papers for weeks. They are piling up. I show up for office hours but sometimes I'm kind of snappy because I'm mad about having to come in on a day I don't teach. I haven't worked on my dissertation proposal for weeks, even though I totally should have finished the final draft before now. I could have. I just can't focus on it.<br><br>
My brain doesn't want to do anything, except research stuff on the web, hang out, or figure out what I'm going to have for lunch and then for dinner. Fortunately no one (except my mother! grrr!) has tried the touching me thing, but if they did I would not be happy.<br><br>
Like right now, I could easily be grading exams, but instead I'm eating and surfing. As for coping, I remind myself about that saying (from whom? I think Woody Allen) that 90 percent of success is showing up. Okay, fine. I won't have anything graded, but I will get my pregnant self to school at the appointed time. I'll show up.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hi all,<br>
For some reason, I'm having the hardest time with my job right now. And I think its all related to being pregnant. I just flat out DO NOT want to leave the house in the mornings and once I'm at work, I am the crankiest woman alive. And nothing at my job has really changed. I enjoy the people I work with, the hours are good, and there is nothing super stressful about my job duties. I'm just in a foul mood the moment I walk in the door.<br><br>
I've been emotional lately and I realize this. I'm also not sleeping as well as I did pre-pg. I know all this is related. I have a short fuse these days and all the unsolicited advice and different people asking "how are you feeling" every 2 minutes just gets to me. I know they all mean well and it is ridiculous to feel so venomous towards them....I'm trying to be more conscious of this but I catch myself getting all peeved when someone asks me "how's the baby doing?" and rubs my stomach uninvited.<br><br>
Is anyone else finding work a struggle these day? Anyone have some good coping techniques?</div>
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Are you my clone? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I seriously want to KILL everyone at work who approaches my desk, and I'm the secretary so that's sort of a problem. And I don't feel like working, so I get my daily deadlines done but at a snail's pace, and spend more time on the web. I'm developing gestational ADHD, I'm pretty sure.<br><br>
The "how are you feeling" gets on my nerves as well, especially from mom and MIL. I mean, I haven't had too many severe symptoms other than the tiredness and crankiness, and if anything drastic changed I would tell them, so no need to ask me EVERY DAY. I am not defined by my pregnancy, so ask me something else now and then. How was your day? What books are you reading? etc.
 

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Are you my clone? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I seriously want to KILL everyone at work who approaches my desk, and I'm the secretary so that's sort of a problem. And I don't feel like working, so I get my daily deadlines done but at a snail's pace, and spend more time on the web. I'm developing gestational ADHD, I'm pretty sure.<br><br>
The "how are you feeling" gets on my nerves as well, especially from mom and MIL. I mean, I haven't had too many severe symptoms other than the tiredness and crankiness, and if anything drastic changed I would tell them, so no need to ask me EVERY DAY. I am not defined by my pregnancy, so ask me something else now and then. How was your day? What books are you reading? etc.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> No Kidding!! Its so nice to know that I'm not on my own here! It would definately be nice to be asked about something other than the pregnancy. Not that I want people to ignore it or anything but an occasional "how was your weekend?" or "seen any good movies?" would be refreshing. Also, I get "how's the baby doing?" As though I really have any idea about what's going on in there! My standard answer is "fine, as far as I know. How are you?"<br><br>
I think you are completely right in that no matter how excited we are about being pregnant, it does not define us.
 

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I only work two to three day a week out of the home, also after this baby is born I will only be work out of our home about 4-6 hours a week. So thinking about that really helps me to know that it woun't last for ever. And since I am making more money then I have in a long time. It is an insentive for me to continue.
 
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