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I'm sure there have been threads on this before but I have a terrible time with the search function here.<br><br>
We have kind of a family bedroom - DS1 sleeps on his own bed but is still in our room. DS2 has coslept since birth and is still nursing either when he goes to sleep or wakes up, sometimes both, sometimes during the night if he wakes up restless and asks to nurse. He has to have at least part of his body touching me it seems - usually his head but will often shove his little body as close as he can get and sleep like that. He also plays with and then holds tight to my hair as he falls asleep and if he wakes partly up during the night will reach for it - it seems to work kind of like a pacifier for him, but also seems like he is afraid if he lets go that I will leave him there alone. He is 32 months old and has significant speech and language delays so really has no idea about what a new baby will mean in the house and we are not able to talk about it in a way that he understands.<br><br>
Of course I am planning to co-sleep with the new baby as well, and I really have no plans to move DS2 out of our bed since I don't think he is ready. He could easily sleep with his big brother on that bed but he doesn't want to.<br><br>
I am going to try to figure out how to side car our crib (that we have had for 2 1/2 years and never used yet except for an occasional visitor and of course as a place to stack clothes ...) since we have a queen size bed and it's getting pretty crowded in there already.<br><br>
I guess I'm wondering how others have made it work with a still very nighttime needy toddler/preschool age child who can't stay asleep for more than 20 minutes most days/nights without mama there (including nap times) ... does it just seem to work itself out? I really hope most of my fears will be proven wrong when the time comes.<br><br>
I am also sooo worried about how he will handle me being gone when I am in the hospital - I'm almost ready to ask about him rooming in there with me along with the baby. I know that he will survive, but I hate to think of him so confused and upset - he doesn't like me to leave for an hour or two during the day even if he is staying home with his dad and brother. He does better than he used to with that but I have never left him overnight yet and really am not looking forward to that.<br><br>
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My DD#1 is 2 yrs old and I am due with DD#2 in less than two weeks. Our stories are similar. DD1 doesn't sleep without touching me somehow. Not even for naps anymore (unless we're in the car). Sleep has always been an issue with her and I'm positive she understands more about the upcoming changes than we give her credit for.<br><br>
I was stressed, too, about leaving her overnight. I finally, just three weeks ago, called the hospital and spoke to someone at the birth center. It is their policy to allow the siblings to stay overnight as long as one other adult is there to care for the sibling. Since we'll only have the two girls, my husband will be available to stay as well. I'm so excited to have our whole "new" family together for our first night. Have you called the hospital to make sure it isn't an option?<br><br>
Best wishes! I hope you find a solution that is comforting for you and your family.
 

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My DS is much younger (five months) but I too was very worried about moving him to the sidecar (also because we're waiting on another babe). What do ya know, it worked beautifully! And ironically it's helping him take naps alone during the day... This is the first week he's been taking naps OUT of my arms! Of course you still have to be vigilant and parent him at night, maybe keep your hand on him, and when he moves around let him know you're still there, but if you are relaxed about it he will probably sense that it's OK. Well, hopefully. But you won't know until you try. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
About the hospital thing, I'm worried about the same thing myself. I can only imagine how traumatic it would be for him to be woken up in the middle of the night and taken to a completely different house, even if he knew the person in question. And I know it's not an option for him to come to the birth center with me. I have no idea.
 
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