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I am about to go into my 5th month of pregnancy this coming week, and my due date is August 8th. This is my 5th child. The 4th child was born with Down Syndrome, and I have yet to find out why, so I am a little bit worried about this 5th baby having chromosonal abnormalities as well. I will turn 34 three days after the baby's due date. This coming Wednesday, I will have a more informative ultrasound where they will check all the markers they look for with downs babies. So far though, the other ultrasounds have been pretty nice. I still don't know what the baby is though, which I really want to know, just so I can start buying gender-appropriate stuff. Anyway, until Wednesday, I will be a pile of nerves, and hopefully, this will be my last baby because pregnancy never goes well with me. I am so sick that I barely want to leave the bed anymore.<br><br>
Well, congratulations to all the other expectant moms who share my due date month. I hope you all have a safe delivery. God bless. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Peace.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Peace"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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I'm so sorry you are in a place of obsessive worry. I can relate to some of your feelings but coming from a different place of having a history of infertility.<br><br>
You have been through one of the most heartbreaking things a parent can go through having a child with special needs. I'm sure you couldn't love your child more but can't imagine going through the hardships of dealing with Down Syndrome (or something else) again. These are totally understandable feelings. The mantra that has always helped me is "the odds are in my favor" and I repeat it over and over again until the reality sinks in that, indeed, the odds are in my favor.<br><br>
Having had a child with a genetic anomaly slightly increases the odds of having another BUT, in reality, you still have a mighty good chance of having a completely healthy baby. As far as the "why" in having had a child with Down Syndrome, I don't think you will ever know. It was just one of those things that happens.<br><br>
I'm 35 and just went through the u/s process. It was nerve wracking, but ultimately a relief. I worked for years with chidren with developmental delays so when I finally got pregnant, I was all to aware of how things could go awry.<br><br>
Hang in there and keep us posted.
 

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Hi,<br><br>
I know those feelings of uncertainty and doubt. My 1st pg was full of complications and I've been paranoid a lot this time. Fortunately for me they were wrong about my dd. However, now I feel like I lucked out last time and now I won't be so lucky.<br><br>
I wish you a healthy and uneventful pg.<br>
Jen
 

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Hang in there. Keep breathing.<br><br>
I wish you the best.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Like ARY99 said the odds are in your favor, but I understand the fear. My 3rd pregnancy was a little boy with a fatal genetic abnormality so I was really scared for my scan, I had it last week and everything looked good <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
good luck at the scan<br><br>
tara
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Good luck with your scan and healthy baby vibes to you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> shahrukhsmom, I will be thinking about you & your babe. I hope the u/s goes well & you are able to find some solace... somewhere.<br><br>
Lots of love, Jen
 
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