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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>chiromama</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">(ok typing ED (egg donor) makes me think of Bob Dole and his ED (erectile disfunction) commercials) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:</div>
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OMG, I'll never be able to look at ED again! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:
 

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i personally couldn't do it except for very close friends or family but if you feel that you can then, why not? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Most places you see it online it's DE. Less erectile. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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wasn't sure about donating while bfing... thanks for the info.<br><br>
but chiromama, can you pm me the clinics you are thinking of? even better if you have links to them. thanks . <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Sure thing Kirei! How old are you? There are age limits for egg donors, that may help yourdecision. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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well I googled it..and WOW..I live close to Philly so there are plenty of clinical options there..however I have a history of Diabetes, and heart disease in my family..and that is not a savory quality for a DE...but I fully understand. its a shame because I made one really awesome child..I would donate if a friend or family member wanted but I seriously doubt a stranger would chose my blemished family history egg over a healthy one and I really cannot blame them...but I was curious..so I learned something new today <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Would you regret it? Who knows?<br><br>
Would it be an amazing experience? Proobably.<br><br>
If you are wondering, talk to a clinic. Have a conversation and read all the disclosure forms. Just looking at all that paperwork and the med protocol may tell you how you would feel about it.<br><br>
As for the risks, women I know who have donated, or gone thru IVF are so frighteningly well informed, that we tend to make our doctors have to look things up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Never assume that because a woman chooses to do either IVF or egg donation that she is ill informed, or being hoodwinked, or desperate. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> We aren't. In fact, doing IVF was one of the most calculated decisions of my life. We aren't guinea pigs, we aren't slaves, we aren't being forced to do it against our will. We do have to read a lot of information, learn a lot about our bodies, and think a lot about every single decision we make. Chances are we are more informed about the risks than anyone other than the REs and IVF nurses. I KNOW that my OB doesn't know as much about it as I do...he said as much. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Be gentle. Try not to assume that because someone makes a choice that you don't, that they are somehow misinformed or ignorant....or desperate.
 

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Can you post some valid information to back that claim up please?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Whether she meant to be offensive or not, she was. And, FTR, I'm not in the medical field, but I understand the risks/benefits of IF treatments. Unless you're an RE, I'd be willing to bet I understand them quite a bit better than you. Because when you're infertile, it's hard to think about anything else.<br><br>
It's not like infertile women are cattle - blindly going along with what the doctor says. If that were the case, most infertile women would never make it to an RE. They'd trust their GYN when he says they just need to relax.....</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
To the OP, I think being an egg donor is a really amazing gift. I don't think I have it in me to do it, but I admire women who do.
 

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No, i know all about those risks. I went through IVF and was well informed about the truth, what my risks were. Not only have I googled it more than once, I have had long discussions with my doctor regarding my specific risks. I was asking you to post some links since you posted a claim that it causes cancer. If you want to post something like that here, it makes some sense to back yourself up.
 

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Top five results returned by Yahoo! Search, excluding sites of fertility docs:<br><br><a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2002/01/020128080317.htm" target="_blank">Science Daily: No Association Between Fertility Drugs And Ovarian Cancer, Say University Of Pittsburgh Researchers</a><br><br><a href="http://www.webmd.com/content/article/24/1819_50458" target="_blank">WebMD: Fertility Drugs Don't Cause Ovary Cancer</a><br><br><a href="http://www.cancer.org/docroot/NWS/content/NWS_1_1x_No_Link_Between_Fertility_Drugs_Ovarian_Cancer.asp" target="_blank">American Cancer Society: No Link Between Fertility Drugs</a><br><br><a href="http://www.surrogacy.com/medres/article/fertdrug.html" target="_blank">Fertility Drugs and Ovarian Cancer: What are the risks when used for Surrogacy?</a><br><br><a href="http://www.personalmd.com/news/a1997061805.shtml" target="_blank">PersonalMD: Fertility Drugs Not Tied To Ovarian Cancer</a>
 

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Just like everything - it COULD cause cancer.<br><br>
So could using your microwave - there are sites that say that too.<br>
So could just about anything in excess.<br><br>
It doesn't mean it WILL cause cancer.<br><br>
The clinics do inform you that it could possibly statistically raise your chance of ovarian cancer.<br><br>
For me, being pregnant lowers my rate of endometrial cancer, since I don't have periods very often.<br><br>
So, I statistically upped one, and lowered the other....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
There are so many variables that go into this and all cancers.
 

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Okay. Clearly I have touched upon something no one wants to hear. I only have my two friends' cancer experiences to draw upon. I don't want to post on this board anymore.
 

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Don't run away from the board just because we asked you for back up links. Your friends experience is very different than true statistical outcomes. If you know that googling it will prove your point, please post those links. I'm truly sorr your friend had cancer, no one ever deserves to have a horrible disease. However, we are merely asking you to not post something inflammatory and scary without having some back up information.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Okay. Clearly I have touched upon something no one wants to hear. I only have my two friends' cancer experiences to draw upon. I don't want to post on this board anymore.</div>
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It seems kind of sad that you would leave a community so quickly after coming here. If you hang around here long enough, you'll see that there are plenty of disagreements here, and that most people are respectful even when they disagree. Or, even when there are heated debates, they result in some really interesting, informative discussions for people from all sides of a given debate.
 

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I don't even know what to say, other than that I highly mistrust the medical establishment on this issue and I am devastated at the thought of losing my friends to cancer.
 

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I'm sorry that you are worried about losing your friend to cancer. It is truly a horrible thing to have happen in your life.<br>
However, one persons bad experience doesn't mean it's going to happen for everyone.
 
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