My neighbor that I just met a few weeks ago calls me up and left a message telling me that the fedex guy is coming to my house with her package since she wont be home. Ok, fine he came and I called her to tell her it came. Then today the fedex guy comes again today with her package. Later she calls and asks me if he came. (She didnt tell me he was coming again) Its not like its so hard to accept her package or anything but I find it rude that she didnt ASK me but TOLD that me she did that. Am I being mean or would this annoy you?
Would this annoy you?
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If it becomes a habit, and she gets lots of packages, I would tell her you can't do it. I would be annoyed. We get A LOT of stuff delivered for my dh's work. I don't wait home. The FedEx guy knows that most of our stuff is "back door no signature."<br>
She should arrange something through them.
She should arrange something through them.
I have a feeling it will become a habit. She said she doesnt want them to just leave it because the stuff is worth 300$ and she lives in an apt. She will be getting more because she is selling phone service to people. How can I tell her in a nice way that I dont want to accept her packages every other day!?
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<div style="font-style:italic;"><b>Yes, I would be slightly annoyed about it. It does seem rude that she didn't ask permission first and just assumed.<br><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;"><b>Yes, I would be slightly annoyed about it. It does seem rude that she didn't ask permission first and just assumed.<br><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have a feeling it will become a habit. She said she doesnt want them to just leave it because the stuff is worth 300$ and she lives in an apt. She will be getting more because she is selling phone service to people. How can I tell her in a nice way that I dont want to accept her packages every other day!?</div>
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If this is something she's making money doing, start charging her a percentage on each package received. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have a feeling it will become a habit. She said she doesnt want them to just leave it because the stuff is worth 300$ and she lives in an apt. She will be getting more because she is selling phone service to people. How can I tell her in a nice way that I dont want to accept her packages every other day!?</div>
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If this is something she's making money doing, start charging her a percentage on each package received. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would explain (kindly) that you are not always home, and that you would feel terrible if you went out and something happened to her packages--and did she know that she could make all her packages signature required upon delivery.</div>
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Yeah, that. You can't wait around all day in case she gets a package. Does the apartment have an office that can accept packages?
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would explain (kindly) that you are not always home, and that you would feel terrible if you went out and something happened to her packages--and did she know that she could make all her packages signature required upon delivery.</div>
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Yeah, that. You can't wait around all day in case she gets a package. Does the apartment have an office that can accept packages?
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Yes, it would. next time I wouldn't accept.
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Tell her you're more than willing to take her package in for her if you see it sitting at her doorstep but you won't be available regularly to accept them.<br><br>
It's rather presumptuous of her to TELL you and I would be irked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
It's rather presumptuous of her to TELL you and I would be irked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
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My neighbors usually call and ask my permission for such a thing and it only happened once over a surprise present for his daughter.<br><br><br>
Yup, I would be annoyed. With notice and a request instead of an assumption, I would certainly help. You just do not want her coming to expect this from you.
Yup, I would be annoyed. With notice and a request instead of an assumption, I would certainly help. You just do not want her coming to expect this from you.
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That wouldn't fly with me. I'd tell you don't feel comfortable with it and won't accept any more packages. If something happens to a package, she might come after you for a replacement.
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That wouldn't fly with me. I'd tell you don't feel comfortable with it and won't accept any more packages. If something happens to a package, she might come after you for a replacement.
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<div style="font-style:italic;">That wouldn't fly with me. I'd tell you don't feel comfortable with it and won't accept any more packages. If something happens to a package, she might come after you for a replacement.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: We had a neighbor who used to do this when I was home during the day (school at night). Well, I wasn't there one day and the fedex guy just left it on my porch (we were supposed to sign, but if I wasn't there the neighbor said it was ok to leave on MY porch). When I got home it was no where to be found, and the neighbor tried to hold me responsible. He said it had over $400 worth of "stuff" - he never would tell me what it was - and that I should pay to replace it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Luckily I have a lawyer friend who quickly wrote up a letter informing the neighbor that I was not legally responsible for packages; he was actually going to file a report agaisnt me!<br><br>
I would tell your neighbor NOW that you won't accept any future packages. Don't get yourself into a situation like I was in.
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<div style="font-style:italic;">That wouldn't fly with me. I'd tell you don't feel comfortable with it and won't accept any more packages. If something happens to a package, she might come after you for a replacement.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: We had a neighbor who used to do this when I was home during the day (school at night). Well, I wasn't there one day and the fedex guy just left it on my porch (we were supposed to sign, but if I wasn't there the neighbor said it was ok to leave on MY porch). When I got home it was no where to be found, and the neighbor tried to hold me responsible. He said it had over $400 worth of "stuff" - he never would tell me what it was - and that I should pay to replace it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Luckily I have a lawyer friend who quickly wrote up a letter informing the neighbor that I was not legally responsible for packages; he was actually going to file a report agaisnt me!<br><br>
I would tell your neighbor NOW that you won't accept any future packages. Don't get yourself into a situation like I was in.
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<div style="font-style:italic;">i wouldnt have a problem with it. if i am home why wouldnt i sign for a package. it takes all of 60 seconds.</div>
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There were times when I got packages every single day of the week for 1 - 2 weeks at a time. You'd be ok doing that and storing them until your neighbor claimed them? You are a much better neighbor than I am!
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<div style="font-style:italic;">i wouldnt have a problem with it. if i am home why wouldnt i sign for a package. it takes all of 60 seconds.</div>
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There were times when I got packages every single day of the week for 1 - 2 weeks at a time. You'd be ok doing that and storing them until your neighbor claimed them? You are a much better neighbor than I am!
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have a feeling it will become a habit. She said she doesnt want them to just leave it because the stuff is worth 300$ and she lives in an apt. She will be getting more because she is selling phone service to people. How can I tell her in a nice way that I dont want to accept her packages every other day!?</div>
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If you really want to be nice about it you could say something like "I'm sorry, I'd like to help you, but I really don't want to be responsible for your packages. I may not be home at times or may not be able to answer the door, and I have had a package stolen off of my porch before. I hope you understand."
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have a feeling it will become a habit. She said she doesnt want them to just leave it because the stuff is worth 300$ and she lives in an apt. She will be getting more because she is selling phone service to people. How can I tell her in a nice way that I dont want to accept her packages every other day!?</div>
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If you really want to be nice about it you could say something like "I'm sorry, I'd like to help you, but I really don't want to be responsible for your packages. I may not be home at times or may not be able to answer the door, and I have had a package stolen off of my porch before. I hope you understand."
Good, Im glad Im not just mean <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. I think I will just not answer the door for the guy next time. I wouldnt have normally, I hardly ever open the door for people I dont know and am not expecting but I am expecting a package! I will suggest the office to her also (but I doubt they will want to take them) I called her and told her it came and she asked if she could come get it when she gets out of work at 10:00pm! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
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I would tell her that you agreed to accept delivery for one package- not every package she gets. You don't mind helping occasionally if you are asked first but you are not her employee. You have a life and responsibilities too. She needs to make a different arrangement for getting her packages if she is not able to be home.
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