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DH always asks me where something is if he doesn't know. Tonight I asked him to get a towel for DD to wipe her hands on and he asked me where they were (we just moved). I pointed to a set of 4 drawers and said in there. He looked in 1 and said that they weren't in there. So I said that there were 4 drawers, look in the rest. Mostly I was vague because I was trying to cook dinner and DH was "helping" with DD. I was in the middle of something, messy and distracted <b>and</b> I don't think he is very helpful if I have to give him a roadmap every time I ask him to do something.<br><br>
Well, I find it irritating that he can't seem to look for himself ever. I have tried explaining that it doesn't feel like help when he asks for detailed instructions where things are because I could have just done the stupid task myself.<br><br>
Anyways, does your DP do this and would this annoy you?
 

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yep and yep<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Ha! Check my DDDDC. My husband is ALWAYS asking me where things are, as if I change the places frequently or hide them. I have started asking him "did you look?" before I offer help. It's annoying that he acts helpless.
 

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Sounds just like my dh! He never knows where things are even if they have been there for for ages. It drives me nuts. I'll tell him where something is and he will walk over and look but not bother picking up anything to look under it! So he will tell me he can't find it, I walk over and move something and there it is! When will he learn. I sometimes wonder how he gets along at work with out me<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
My favorite is when I ask him to do something for me because I'm in the middle of something and then he ask me to help him<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: If I didn't need you to do it in the first place I would not have asked you!
 

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HAHAHA!!!!! Sorry my husband drives me CRAZY asking me where everything is. Everything is, all the time. I just organized the place including all of the baby things a couple of months ago so things are generally always in the same spot. I'm like.. I've got a belly the size of a beach ball and I am in the middle of something just go and look for it and don't bug me!!!!!!!!!!!<br><br>
edit in: I got my first taste of "mom" working in a wood shop with a few men. The shop was very very full and cluttered and I knew where everything was. All three men I worked with were always asking me where everything was.
 

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Yes! I lost it when he couldn't figure out where DD2's pants were a few months back. They have been in the same place for the last 3 YEARS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: No, you are not alone.<br><br>
DH jokes that he needs to activate the "uterine tracking device".
 

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yes. he needs perfect directions and step by step instructions. sometimes it is easier to just get it done by myself. it annoys the crap out of me!<br><br><br>
(Sometimes I wonder if he does it on purpose just so I'll do it)
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> yours too? Mine can't even find stuff unless I give explicit instructions, on the top shelf, right side in the back for example. It's a standing joke at our house.
 

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When we moved here, dh traveled a lot. So I organized the house and unpacked while he was gone. He didn't know where anything was. But it's been 3 1/2 years and yesterday he asked me where the coffee mugs go<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Now, he doesn't drink coffee, but it makes me wonder what he's done with them the last few years when he empties the dishwasher?? Does he just leave them in there?<br><br>
My dh can't accomplish any task on his own. Everything he does he needs an assistant. Changing a diaper? Hey can you grab wipes? Cooking something? How do I.... Cleaning the bathroom? Can you grab me cleaner, a rag and the mop? Um NOOOOO. If I wanted to grab all the stuff for the chore, I would just do it myself!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I often yell "I'm not your assistant!!"
 

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Here's a variation that my hubby does: He asks me things over and over again. Like we are walking through our parking lot and he says "Whose car is that?" And I say, "I don't know." So he says, "Is it Fred's?" And I say, "I don't know. I don't know WHOSE car it is?' And he says, "Did someone get a new car?" And I say, "I don't know that either." And then he says, "Could that be Kate's new car?" And I say, "I don't know that anyone got a new car." And then he says, "Well, do you know whose car that is?" NOOOOOOO!!!!<br><br>
Does he think he can trick me into knowing the answer??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Here's a variation that my hubby does: He asks me things over and over again. Like we are walking through our parking lot and he says "Whose car is that?" And I say, "I don't know." So he says, "Is it Fred's?" And I say, "I don't know. I don't know WHOSE car it is?' And he says, "Did someone get a new car?" And I say, "I don't know that either." And then he says, "Could that be Kate's new car?" And I say, "I don't know that anyone got a new car." And then he says, "Well, do you know whose car that is?" NOOOOOOO!!!!<br><br>
Does he think he can trick me into knowing the answer??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</div>
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Omg, dh was just doing this yesterday! I asked him, "what part of I. Dont. Know. dont you understand?" He laughed when he realized I was right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My dh asks where things are all the time... Yes we just moved in in Dec. but I haven't rearranged anything since then.. He can't find simple things like dd shirts or his allergy meds. He doesn't even know which drawer is which for dd... Like "hon where are Stelli's socks" "Um in the first drawer... where they have always been.." Ugh drives me nuts. I think he "plays dumb" so he doesn't have to do again...
 

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Mine asks me "Where's the stuff?". "What stuff?" "My stuff!" Not only do I have to guess what the stuff is, but where it is as well...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes! I lost it when he couldn't figure out where DD2's pants were a few months back. They have been in the same place for the last 3 YEARS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: No, you are not alone.</div>
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Aaahhhhhhh, this sounds like DH! DS' jammies are in the same drawer they've been in his whole life, I don't randomly hide them!<br><br>
Or...<br><br>
DH(looking in the fridge): Where's the mustard?<br>
Me: In the fridge, on a shelf in the door.<br>
DH: No, it's not. Do you know where it is?<br><br>
Gee, all I'm going to do is walk over there and look through the fridge, just like you are doing now! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Ditto to all of the above...<br>
I have the most incredible refrigerator in the universe! Only <i>I</i> can see most of the foods and condiments. Incredible eh? Until someone asks "What happened to/Where is/ I can't find the ketchup/syrup/jelly/milk/etc"<br><br>
Another one of my favorites~<br>
"Honey, where's the baby powder?" This one really gets me because I have never baby powdered anything, ever, in my WHOLE life. The only reason we have it here is because DP doesn't like his junk to chafe. As if I have been hiding the junk powder. Pffft.
 

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Mine "helps" by changing the baby and then inevitably gets poop on her outfit or deems her clothes unfit for her to wear and then asks me to bring her a new outfit... or the other variation is he has the baby on the floor in the middle of changing her and says, "can you get me a diaper, I'm changing the baby"<br><br>
Uh, duh, didn't you think you might have needed a new diaper for her before you took the dirty one off? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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My husband does something similar...<br><br>
He will put something down, something of his like a tool or socks or something, and then he'll misplace it...and he'll ask me where it is, and if I don't know, he'll go about blaming me or the kids for moving his stuff...<br><br>
And I'm like, "IF you'd put it where it belonged to begin with, you wouldn't have this problem. And why the heck would we touch your socks anyway?"<br><br>
Yeah...drives me nuts.
 

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this is such a pet peeve of mine. My dh will deecide to clean the house. hey great I appreciate a little help. SO I will be busy with something or just plain burned out for the day and not in the mood to clean. and every 30 freaking seconds "whatis this? where does it go? where can i find this?" jusrt freaking look around already. if cleaning was easier it would be done already.
 

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It seems as if all our dps have this in common. We should get them together and hold a workshop group thing for them and teach them the proper way to look for things <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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