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I have a wedding to go to next weekend. Its a 6 hour drive (to beautiful Mendocino, CA). I'll be 38+ weeks. Dd2 was born just shy of 39 wks with a very quick labor (8 hours from first mild crontractions to baby).<br><br>
Here's the thing, I'm the maid of honor. My girls are the flower girls. I wouldn't dream of not having them go, so the alternative to all of us going is dh and the girls going without me. He'd leave early Friday and come back on Sunday morning. My OB said if I go I have to get out of the car and walk around every hour...fun!<br><br>
I'm not scared of laboring alone (at the hospital, not totally alone), but the thought depresses me a little. I have no family in the area. Dh said he'd hop in the car and head back as soon as I said the word, so I wouldn't be alone for too long. AAAAAAAAAAAH! I want to scream. Nothing about this decision is simple. She's my best friend in the whole world and she's always been there for me. We've been friends for 12 years. I know she'd understand if none of us went, but gee wiz...that would really suck. This is her first marriage, its a big deal.<br><br>
Should I just go? There's a hospital nearby. I don't think there's any solution to this issue that I can really feel good about...unless somebody could promise me I won't go into labor while we're there. If I knew this kiddo would stay put until we were back home, I'd go without a care in the world.<br><br>
Enough rambling...what would you do?
 

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That's hard!<br><br>
Maybe go to your M/W or OB and request an internal to make sure that you aren't extrememly dialated.... Is there a hossy in between home and your friend's wedding? That way you can at least try to make it home, but able to stop if you have to go somewhere.<br><br>
It's your call.. if you do- I would bring some emergency items for birthing the baby yourself- clean towels, floss, scissors, diapers.. etc. And, don't forget the carseat. Make sure you know the routes and locations of all the hospitals in between here and there, and your cell phone!
 

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I would go but then again I am always delivering miles from home.
 

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Well, first of all, what does your gut instinct tell you? Are there hospitals along the way?<br><br>
I'd go. I'm not especially tied to delivering with MY doctor - it's only happened once anyway, the rest ended up with the on-call doc. And I'm definitely fine with delivering at another hospital. If you can be comfortable enough on the drive and take the just-in-case stuff, I would definitely go.
 

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I would probably go too. But then again, I'd be willing/ready to deliver at the hospital there. So it wouldn't be a big deal.<br><br>
I went to San Diego last week (I was only 35 weeks, so its not really the same). But I decided that I really don't care if I deliver here or in San Diego, so we went.
 

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I would go but same thing the other gals said I would know I could deliver in a strange hospital.
 

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Well, I would go as long as DH was with me, but I am planning a UC. So we'd just find a nice hotel if we didn't think we'd have time to get home.<br><br>
But, if you would go to the hospital then I would give them a call and find out a bit about their policies. See how they compare to your home hospital and to what you are comfortable dealing with.
 

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Wow... what's with all the full term Mama's being in weddings in our DDC? Bless you all- I have to get amped up to get my a** to the grocery store these days!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I think this is one of those decisions that your instincts would be the best judge of...<br>
Keep us posted...
 

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I am so glad all you mommas mentioned being "ready" to deliver at a hospital where the wedding is! I have already looked into the hospital and prepared myself mentally for the possibility, but I would have totally forgotten to pack a hospital bag or carseat for the baby! I'm glad I asked for opinions <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> There's a hospital 3 hours into the drive (San Fran) and then there's a hospital in Mendocino. I am not attached to the idea of delivering with my OB at this hospital, so I guess I'll go. Wish me luck! I have to waddle down the aisle wearing heels a half size too small <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I asked her to order me size 8 and she ordered 7 1/2 (my normal non-pregnant, non-swollen size).<br><br>
I am sorta looking forward to it, the hotel room has an ocean veiw and the wedding is outside on a bluff overlooking the ocean. Hope its not hot!
 

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We are in kinda the same boat. I will be about 38 weeks next weekend. We have been planning for a whole year for next weekend. We are going to a festival that is 2.5-3 hours away. In the country, at an organic farm with HUNDREDS of people. Actually last year, there was 10,000 people over the entire weekend. (don't get the wrong image. it was the MOST relaxing weekend we'd ever had. that's why we've been planning another one since that last one ended.)<br><br>
Anyway, I'm not scared at all. DH wonders if all the walking will make me go into labor and then what. Well, like I told him, then I'll have the baby! YAY. I would think that with so many people, things are bound to go ok if I do go into labor ON the farm. No big deal for me. Plus Baltimore is 40 minutes away from the farm.<br><br>
Here's a link to my outfit, plus fairy wings that I wasn't wearing for the shot.<br><a href="http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u276/happyhippimama/festivalcostume.jpg" target="_blank">http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u...valcostume.jpg</a><br>
This picture was actually taken about 4 weeks ago. I'm sure the dress fits different now!
 

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i would go! especially if you're the maid of honor because this is obviously a very close friends of yours. if you don't go & stay at home anxiously awaiting a baby that doesn't come, you'll probably regret it. and if you DO go & end up delivering out of town, what a story that will make! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'd go. I went down to Orange county last weekend, which is a 6 hour drive from my home. And, like you, it was really important to me to be there. I just had a nice chat with the baby and told him/her that they could come out anytime <b>after</b> we got home. Seemed to have worked.
 

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Well, I wanted to update my previous post about going out of town. We had been planning for a year for this trip.<br><br>
Anyway, we decided literally the day before leaving that it would be a bad idea. So I'm really glad we did not go. My water broke very early Sunday morning and we would have been in a hotel in another state if we had gone.<br><br>
Things tured out great, altho we missed our festival.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well, I wanted to update my previous post about going out of town. We had been planning for a year for this trip.<br><br>
Anyway, we decided literally the day before leaving that it would be a bad idea. So I'm really glad we did not go. My water broke very early Sunday morning and we would have been in a hotel in another state if we had gone.<br><br>
Things tured out great, altho we missed our festival.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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sorry momma <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">:<br><br>
I ended up going and had a great time. I am so glad we went...especially since I am still pregnant!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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