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Would you let your child do this?

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Our goldfish died today. My 11yo wants to disect it. My 5yo would be devestated if she knew. Dd1 can keep it to herself, so the 5yo won't know. But I'm honestly torn. I don't want to stifle her interest, but still...
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Ew! But yes, if I trusted the 11yo to be discreet then I would let her dissect it. Would the 5yo be expecting a burial ceremony?
Gosh, that's an interesting question. I think I'd have to say no, though. I wouldn't want to encourage secrets w/in the family. And, too, I'd have to say dissection on family/personal pets sort of blurs a line. Maybe ask the pet store for a donation?
I like busymommy's suggestion about asking the pet store for a donation. No shortage of dead fish there. I'd be uncomfortable with turning a pet into a science project and with encouraging one child to keep a secret from another about a shared pet.

Secrets can be well and good, but I get the impression it was a family pet, not a possession fo the older child.
Do an internet search for 'biological supply'. You can order all kinds of interesting things to dissect!
Why does she want to?

Would she be doing this alone?

What will she gain/learn from doing this?

Will it be done with you and or DP as a 'learning experience' for your DC?

Will she have to write you some sort of essay on what it was like inside the fish, what she learned, ect??

Would you let her do this to the family cat?

I think I would let my DC do this to another fish. Not the "family" fish. As pp .. perhaps find a donor fish?
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You can buy fish to disect. I would do that in fear of tramatizing the 5 year old.

Spring is comming why not take her to learn how to fish from the conservation department. Ours do fishing round ups and classes. Then you can disect and eat your catch. With larger fish it will be easier for your older child to see and examine things.

(Irishmom you are a homeschooler aren't you? LOL)
No I don't homeschool, but I do encourage her in her interests, I just couldn't think of an alternative to no!! Thanks for the suggestions, they are all great. I'll let her decide how to do it, but we won't touch Goldie!
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I agree with getting another fish to dissect, but not the family pet. Maybe take her fishing (I have no idea about fishing seasons or licenses so I may be way off on that suggestion
), dissect it with her, then cook it up for dinner
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Originally Posted by StephandOwen
I agree with getting another fish to dissect, but not the family pet. Maybe take her fishing (I have no idea about fishing seasons or licenses so I may be way off on that suggestion
), dissect it with her, then cook it up for dinner

Ack! My mother used to think it was the coolest thing *ever* to take the boy scouts fishing, then take the catch to school for her seventh grade science class to dissect, then bring home what was left for dinner.

Frankly, it grossed me out. I'm all for reusing and recycling and respecting ther critters by using them to their utmost, but it was asking a lot of a teenager to expect me to eat fish first caught by a bunch of boy scouts then dissected by a bunch of seventh graders!

Just had to share. Didn't mean to hijack.
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I'll further hijack
My class always did the salmon project here and one of our activities was dissecting the salmon we caught. First, we'd use them to do fish prints on paper and shirts. Then, I'd organize 180+ kids in the gym to dissect the fish and really only a couple ever complained about being squeamish.

Awesome learning tools.
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Originally Posted by BusyMommy
I'd have to say no, though. I wouldn't want to encourage secrets w/in the family. And, too, I'd have to say dissection on family/personal pets sort of blurs a line. Maybe ask the pet store for a donation?
I really agree with this. No way on a family pet, fish or not. And the secret issue too. Sorry about the fish.
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Ack! My mother used to think it was the coolest thing *ever* to take the boy scouts fishing, then take the catch to school for her seventh grade science class to dissect, then bring home what was left for dinner.

Frankly, it grossed me out. I'm all for reusing and recycling and respecting ther critters by using them to their utmost, but it was asking a lot of a teenager to expect me to eat fish first caught by a bunch of boy scouts then dissected by a bunch of seventh graders!

Just had to share. Didn't mean to hijack.

EWWWWWWWW eating it? I am sorry but I would worry about bacteria and food posioning after the seventh graders disected it.

I did have a college professor who had the heart (amoung other organs) from a deer that she hit with her car. She used it as a free learning tool, which was cool.

I am surprised the Boy Scouts didn't take the fish home or cook it up.
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A little morbid and creepy, no, I wouldn't let her disect a beloved pet, but I would go out and buy a salmon and let her have at it.
This is a little OT, but slightly along the same lines. I miscarried early (12 weeks, fetal growth stopped at 7) and I couldn't bring myself to flush the perfect little fetus in an intact sac with the placenta still attached. So I stuck it in a ziplock in the freezer.
Well, a few days later it fell out when my 5 year old was looking for something. He asked. I told. (He knew that our baby had died.) His first reaction was that we should disect it.

I'm still not sure, but I think we will bury it in the yard when the ground thaws, and that I will let him examine it a bit first. This is more than a pet, but really wasn't a child. Just wanted to let you see the other end of the spectrum. I think it is just normal curiousity on the part of your child.
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Irish, they also have computer programs that simulate dissection, I think they are called 'digital frog', if you do a search. They are for students who don't want to participate in actual dissection, so I 'm not sure it will meet her interest.

Sorry about Goldie.
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Our goldfish died today. My 11yo wants to disect it. My 5yo would be devestated if she knew. Dd1 can keep it to herself, so the 5yo won't know. But I'm honestly torn. I don't want to stifle her interest, but still...
Definitly let her do it under the knowledge that the 5yo can know nothing about it what so ever.
Uh, yeah I would let her. But I am a bit weird that way. And I'm curious about all kinds of gross stuff and like blood/guts. Maybe she'll grow up and be a famous doc or something?
If it was the older child's fish then yes, but if it was an established family pet,then no. A younger sibling shouldn't be left in the dark over something like that, the pet should be dissected with full disclosure to everyone in the family or another fish should be used. I think scientific curiosity is good and teaching the older child to dissect anything in secret sends a bad message.
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