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Since DD started morning preschool last month she has stopped taking her afternoon nap. She doesn't have a nap at school in the morning either, so that means she is going all day without one which makes the evenings a nightmare.<br><br>
She always falls asleep on the way home from school in the car, but wakes up when I bring her inside and put her to bed. So today, I left her sleeping in the car. It was parked directly out my front door and I put the windows down to give her a nice breeze. It is a nice mild temp here this time of year. I could see her very easily from my living room window as well as through my front storm door. She slept for about an hour.<br><br>
My question is - would you do this with your toddler? I have some reservations about leaving her in the car, but it seems like a safe situation and it is the only way she is getting her much needed nap. Anyone have any opinions/advice on this?
 

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YES.<br><br>
Both of our girls we let sleep in the car, somedays they really need a nap and its the ONLY way they get the sleep they need because of our sometimes hetic schedule. With our oldest dd its rare she ever naps so when she does we accomodate her.<br><br>
We have a watch dogs that runs lose, we can see the car, car is locked though the windows are down, we feel very safe in doing this.<br><br>
Nether one of our kids are the kind that while they are sleeping they can be moved without waking.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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I would not do this unless I was also in the car.<br><br>
Can you pack yourself a little bag with a novel, the checkbook to balance, a snack, whatever? I'd so take this as an opportunity to read...<br><br>
I actually ran into a friend's child in the car, windows up (on a cool day) as she ran into the bagel shop. Out of sight of the car. A dry-cleaner bag was inside hanging next to him...<br><br>
I stayed next to the car with dd and played peek-a-boo with him until his mom got back. I think she thought I was nuts! But no way could I have kept walking.<br><br>
Just my city context - but I'd worry about carjacking.
 

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Yes and I have before. When we were visiting with my mother this summer ds would not nap unless it was in the van. Some days we would be out and ds would fall asleep in the van. Whenever we got back I would open both sliding doors and run inside to get a drink and a book. Then I sat in a lawn chair next to the van and sat and read while he napped.
 

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Sam falls asleep in the car all the time. Usually on the way to grandma's house.<br><br><b>HOWEVER</b> , the car is moving and we are in it at all times.<br><br>
It is never never ever acceptable to leave a child alone in a car at anytime!!!!!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
What if that car got hit by another car?<br><br>
What if someone saw this beautiful sleeping angel and decided they wanted her/him for themselves?<br><br>
What if the child woke? How long would it take you to get there?<br><br>
Never leave a child alone in a car. Period.
 

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Sam falls asleep in the car all the time. Usually on the way to grandma's house.<br><br><b>HOWEVER</b> , the car is moving and we are in it at all times. If both of us are in the car and we are making a stop, one stays behind.<br><br>
It is never never ever acceptable to leave a child alone in a car at anytime!!!!!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
What if that car got hit by another car?<br><br>
What if someone saw this beautiful sleeping angel and decided they wanted her/him for themselves?<br><br>
What if the child woke? How long would it take you to get there?<br><br>
Never leave a child alone in a car. Period.
 

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I would never leave my baby alone in the car, even if I could see her. If I know she is probably going to fall asleep in the car, I will try to bring a newspaper, a cup of coffee, and some bills to pay, and I will sit with her until she wakes up.
 

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No, never ever. I will of course let her sleep as long as we are going somewhere. She's pretty good about transferring to the house or stroller on my shoulder and will stay asleep. But even if she didn't, no I would never leave her alone in the car. I don't even leave her to go drop off videos in the drop box or ring a doorbell. A couple months ago in Phoenix a woman left her car running and went to ring the doorbell of her carpool partner while her toddler stayed in the car. Well someone ran and stole her car with the child inside!!<br><br>
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we do all the time. Granted we live in the middle of no where in Vermont and no other cars come down our driveway. ALso, I always either stay with her or sit on our porch right above the car and check on her all the time. Also, I would never leave her asleep in the car if it were the least bit hot out.
 

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I'm with the minority and say yes, I have on occasion let my children when they were toddlers, and at the wierd age where they would not go back to sleep if I tried to carry them in, sleep in the car with the windows down. Sometimes I have stayed in the car and listened to NPR, sometimes I stayed on the back porch and read, sometimes I gardened around where the car was parked, and sometimes I worked in the kitchen in direct view of the car. I understand the fear, but sometimes I just had to be flexible and honor my children's need for uninterruped sleep. I understand that it is an unpopular choice on this board, but it is one that I have made and have no regrets about. You need to weigh the risks (carjacking, vehicular accident, traumatizing them if they wake up "alone", etc.) and decide how realistic those risks are vs. the benifits of them getting much needed, uninterrupted sleep.<br><br>
Ultimately, it is your call as to what you are comfortable with.
 

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It depends what kind of neighborhood you lived in. In my neighborhood I'd do it if the car were in my driveway or garage, but not parked on the street. If your older child is around maybe pack a picknick before you leave in the morning and eat it on your front lawn? Good luck, that's hard when they don't take a nap , but still need it!
 

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I would say it depends on where you live... I used to do this with my kids before we moved....the car would be in the driveway or garage where I could see it at all times...knowing my neighboorhood like I did I never worried about at thing (espically since I could see them at all times)<br><br>
***BUT*** I would never do it now that we moved....<br><br>
What I used to do was drive around to get dd to sleep and then go through the McDonalds drivetru for a vanilla cappacino (no drive through Starbucks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ) and park at the park and read a magazine.<br><br>
For almost 4 months this was the only way either of my kids woudl take a nap...so I totally understand. Just use your best judgement!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We have, on rare occasions when the little guy wouldn't tolerate the transfer and really needed the nap (say, during the throes of teething) BUT one of is always in the car with him at all times.<br><br>
As the others have said - we pass the time with a good book, magazines (our car is now fully stocked!) NPR or a nap ourselves!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 

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I have def let my dd nap in the car but I have been there with her. I keep my knitting, manicure supplies, and perhaps some reading in the car in case she falls asleep. I get lunch and sit in the car to eat, read, etc.....<br>
I would garden, etc....as suggested as long as the car was in view and earshot. I would not leave her and go in the house.<br><br>
now that she is older I can pick her up and take her in without her waking up but when she was younger and I was desperate I let her sleep and ate like a crazed nursing woman<br><br>
I also keep clippers so I can do her nails while she's asleep. I've even considered getting some scissors so I can trim her hair! Whatever it takes.....I'd have them secured of course so they wouldn't fly around the car in a collision.
 

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He's usually good for a transfer if it is within the first 15 minutes of the nap. Otherwise, I sit in the car and read or lean back and nap. I have also been known to weed my front garden while he sleeps with the car doors open to the sidewalk.
 

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Most definately YES for me.<br><br>
I think it depends on where you live.<br>
If it's safe and the weather is comfortable I never wake a sleeping babe.<br><br>
I live at the end of a dead end street, I have a ranch and can see the car very well from the house. I leave the minivan door open and I put the dog in the yard (he would bark if anyone approached).
 

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Yes. We have done this a lot with dd, especially when she was a little younger. But we always sit in the car with her until she wakes up, and just make sure we have a book or something in the car. I don't think there's anything wrong with leaving her in the car alone as long as you're RIGHT THERE watching her and it's not too hot/cold in the car. I live in a safe neighborhood (we sometimes forget to lock our doors at night and it's no big deal), but I still feel very uneasy about even running inside the house to grab something while dd is asleep in the car. I'm sure you know your situation well enough that you're not going to put your child in danger. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I HAVE done it twice so far(two times in 3 years, woah). BUT I have been in the car constantly. I do NOT get out and I dont' think it's appropriate even though I'm always in my driveway and can see the car from my window. I wouldn't watn her to wake up alone and get scared. We live in a pretty safe neighborhood, but you never know what weirdo could come in and take a beautiful sleeping child. I stay with her constantly. To my way of thinking, (without tryign to offend) it's like putting your child to bed and running off for dinner when you know she/he won't wake for an hour or so. We just don't do that! We dont' leave our babies at home alone so why leave them strapped into a car seat alone to sleep?????<br>
Whenever we go out, I make sure I have drinks and snacks for both of us and a good book for me in case she does fall asleep. Many times have I sat in my driveway for an hour and read a book or sat in a parking lot like the post office or the food store and read a book with a sleeping baby in teh back. she doesn't make the transition well!<br>
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