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Another one of "those" threads? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I did say something and just wanted to see if I should have minded my own business.<br><br>
I was at the Monterey aquarium yesterday with my 2-1/2 year old. It was packed since it was a holiday weekend. We were in the "Flippers, Flukes & Fun" kids section. Two brothers, maybe around age 10-12, were sitting on top of one of the exhibits fighting. The one boy was pulling the hair and really hitting the 2nd boy to try and get him off the exhibit. It was making me really uncomfortable to watch him slapping the other boy. I looked around and didn't see the mom. DS was mesmerized by something there and didn't want to move along. I asked them to knock it off and stop hitting because I didn't think it was a good example for the little kids around.<br><br>
They knocked it off a bit and finally their mom came up and told them to get off and stop beating each other up.<br><br>
Okay to say something? Or another mind your own business?
 

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Not only do I agree with you, but believe that as a thinking human being you are required to say something in this circumstance. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Thanks. I'm only on kid #1, so I didn't know if this was one of those "never correct my kid" kind of situations.<br><br>
Ugh. It reminded me of the fights my sisters and I had when we were young. Not looking forward to that with a second child!
 

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I would have done the same thing. It's always possible that a parent will whale into you over it, but that hasn't happened to me yet. Of course, I'm polite to strange kids while I say "knock it off" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> , meaning I don't use shaming language or a chastising tone.
 

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I havent been to that aquarium in ages! ahhhh, memories of youth...<br><br><br><br>
anyway, I think you did the right thing. I think if it was something you could ignore, you would have. Each uncomfortable situation is different, sometimes you can walk away, and some times you just have to say something.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks. I'm only on kid #1, so I didn't know if this was one of those "never correct my kid" kind of situations.</div>
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I think anytime you see another human being being hurt, the right thing to do is to try to stop it, if at all possible.
 

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Anytime I see two kids hurting eachother, or even one picking on the other one I step in and say something. I know for sure I was considered one of "those" mothers on the playground at school, because I'd step in..but when the yard duty teachers are too busy gabbing and give two kids beating on eachother barely a glance, I think it's my responsibility to stop violence, even if they are siblings. And if my dd and her friend were hurting eachother at school and I wasn't there, I would hope another parent would step in.
 

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In certain situations I think it's fine.<br><br>
I asked a little boy (maybe 5 or 6) to stop throwing rocks at the playground last weekend. His mom was obviously busy with his baby sister, and he was throwing the rocks around other kids.<br><br>
I just asked nicely "Can you stop throwing those rocks please?" and he did. I was surprised it was that easy honestly.
 

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I would've said something in that situation, too. I think you were right to do so.
 

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I think you did the right thing. If those were my children behaving that way and I didn't see it going on, I'd apprieciate another mother stepping in for me.
 

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def right thing to do. Heck, I saw two high school boys wrestling the other day and stopped and watched them with one hand on my cell to make sure it was just fooling around and not something more serious--and it was just fololing around--one told the other "that lady's watching" and they stopped. But now I'm a "lady" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I think what you said is perfect.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">one told the other "that lady's watching" and they stopped. But now I'm a "lady"</div>
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Who was it that said "no one likes to be called <i>lady</i> but everyone likes to be called <i>m'lady</i>"? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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