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<p>Hi, I'm new to the page! I'm 15 weeks pregnant, and all is going very well, but I'm feeling conflicted about whether I like my doctors. I'm hoping that, if I describe the two incidents that are bothering me, some of you might tell me your reaction. Here goes:</p>
<p>There are four MDs in this practice, and you're supposed to rotate through and meet all of t hem during your pregnancy. Well, I've met two of the four so far, and I feel like I've gotten off to a bad start with BOTH of them! I'm sorry if this is long...</p>
<p>The first one I will call Dr. A. On a prior date, I met with the Physician's Assistant. I told her I was having serious morning sickness, and she knew that I have a demanding job, so she said she would call in a prescription for me to use if I ever felt that I needed it. I picked it up, and it was Zofran. It said take as needed. I tried one, and it didn't make a difference. I then started researching it online (which I should've done first) and I wasn't comfortable with what I found. At least for me, it wasn't the right choice, having not even been approved by the FDA for use during pregnancy, among other concerns.</p>
<p>Well, when I met Dr. A a couple weeks later, he asked how my morning sickness was going. I told him awful. He asked how the Zofran was working, and I told him that I decided not to take it. Up to this point, he was extremely nice, polite, funny, talking about fly fishing with my husband, etc. Well, when I said I didn't want to take Zofran, he looked quizzical and said, "Why?" I told him, politely, that I just wasn't comfortable with it after looking into it myself. He got defensive instantly! He looked offended and said, "Well, you can find something BAD online about Tylenol!" I said, "I understand, but --" and he cut me off, and said, "We've been prescribing it for years. If it wasn't safe, we wouldn't do that." It grew tense and awkward, and we both quickly switched topics. Then he became friendly again, but I felt upset and insulted. [I will note that he MAY have been defensive because I'm a lawyer. But I'm a criminal defense lawyer -- I don't sue people. It was just weird.]</p>
<p>Then came Dr. B. At this point, I was at 12 weeks. Dr. B came into the room acting like he was an old buddy of mine and my husband's. He was like, "Hey guys!" He seemed to be our age (mid-30s), and either trying really hard to be everybody's friend, or just plain immature. Anyway, he was sugar-sweet nice upon entry to the room. He asked how I was, and I told him that I was getting a bad cold, as my throat had been killing me since the night before. He didn't look at my throat. He just said, "Did ya get the flu shot?" I said, "No." He then talked to me the way a condescending boyfriend does to a girlfriend, "Aaaaand WHY didn't you?" I told him, "Well, frankly, no one has mentioned it until you right now, and I'd like to do a little research on it myself." He then said, "Um.... ya know the CDC? They're um... like, the SMARTEST people in the WORLD, or whatever? And THEY want you to get a flu shot!" He then started telling me how easy it is for a pregnant woman to die when she has the flu. He also said, "Let me ask you this -- are you even going to vaccinate your kid???" I said, "Listen - I'm not any certain type of patient if that's what you mean - I just want to be an educated patient!" He ended his humiliating condescension with, "You just go ahead and do your little research or whatever, and let us know." Later in that visit, he asked how I was doing. I told him that I still had morning sickness, but I was relieved that this was the first week I hadn't LOST weight since getting pregnant. He fluffed me off, saying, "Oh, but your baby is fine!" I said, "I understand that, but you asked how I am, and I'm very tired from lack of nutrition, and I have a stressful job, and I've been dragging myself to work every day." He said, "You DO? What do YOU do for work?" and he said it in the most condescending way, like he couldn't believe I worked at all! I told him I was a lawyer, and he told me his ex-wife was, too, and asked if knew her. It was very awkward. My husband, who NEVER agrees with me about such things, also couldn't believe how each doctor questioned my choices about the Zofran and flu shot, and he couldn't believe the way Dr. B was condescending toward me through the whole visit.</p>
<p>I don't know if anybody read this all the way through... but is it a horrible idea to switch doctors at this point? Would this behavior be a deal breaker? Also, would you ever switch to a group that is 45 minutes away from home and also delivers 45 mins from home?</p>
<p>I truly appreciate your patience in reading this and your thoughts on the matter. Thank you!</p>
<p>There are four MDs in this practice, and you're supposed to rotate through and meet all of t hem during your pregnancy. Well, I've met two of the four so far, and I feel like I've gotten off to a bad start with BOTH of them! I'm sorry if this is long...</p>
<p>The first one I will call Dr. A. On a prior date, I met with the Physician's Assistant. I told her I was having serious morning sickness, and she knew that I have a demanding job, so she said she would call in a prescription for me to use if I ever felt that I needed it. I picked it up, and it was Zofran. It said take as needed. I tried one, and it didn't make a difference. I then started researching it online (which I should've done first) and I wasn't comfortable with what I found. At least for me, it wasn't the right choice, having not even been approved by the FDA for use during pregnancy, among other concerns.</p>
<p>Well, when I met Dr. A a couple weeks later, he asked how my morning sickness was going. I told him awful. He asked how the Zofran was working, and I told him that I decided not to take it. Up to this point, he was extremely nice, polite, funny, talking about fly fishing with my husband, etc. Well, when I said I didn't want to take Zofran, he looked quizzical and said, "Why?" I told him, politely, that I just wasn't comfortable with it after looking into it myself. He got defensive instantly! He looked offended and said, "Well, you can find something BAD online about Tylenol!" I said, "I understand, but --" and he cut me off, and said, "We've been prescribing it for years. If it wasn't safe, we wouldn't do that." It grew tense and awkward, and we both quickly switched topics. Then he became friendly again, but I felt upset and insulted. [I will note that he MAY have been defensive because I'm a lawyer. But I'm a criminal defense lawyer -- I don't sue people. It was just weird.]</p>
<p>Then came Dr. B. At this point, I was at 12 weeks. Dr. B came into the room acting like he was an old buddy of mine and my husband's. He was like, "Hey guys!" He seemed to be our age (mid-30s), and either trying really hard to be everybody's friend, or just plain immature. Anyway, he was sugar-sweet nice upon entry to the room. He asked how I was, and I told him that I was getting a bad cold, as my throat had been killing me since the night before. He didn't look at my throat. He just said, "Did ya get the flu shot?" I said, "No." He then talked to me the way a condescending boyfriend does to a girlfriend, "Aaaaand WHY didn't you?" I told him, "Well, frankly, no one has mentioned it until you right now, and I'd like to do a little research on it myself." He then said, "Um.... ya know the CDC? They're um... like, the SMARTEST people in the WORLD, or whatever? And THEY want you to get a flu shot!" He then started telling me how easy it is for a pregnant woman to die when she has the flu. He also said, "Let me ask you this -- are you even going to vaccinate your kid???" I said, "Listen - I'm not any certain type of patient if that's what you mean - I just want to be an educated patient!" He ended his humiliating condescension with, "You just go ahead and do your little research or whatever, and let us know." Later in that visit, he asked how I was doing. I told him that I still had morning sickness, but I was relieved that this was the first week I hadn't LOST weight since getting pregnant. He fluffed me off, saying, "Oh, but your baby is fine!" I said, "I understand that, but you asked how I am, and I'm very tired from lack of nutrition, and I have a stressful job, and I've been dragging myself to work every day." He said, "You DO? What do YOU do for work?" and he said it in the most condescending way, like he couldn't believe I worked at all! I told him I was a lawyer, and he told me his ex-wife was, too, and asked if knew her. It was very awkward. My husband, who NEVER agrees with me about such things, also couldn't believe how each doctor questioned my choices about the Zofran and flu shot, and he couldn't believe the way Dr. B was condescending toward me through the whole visit.</p>
<p>I don't know if anybody read this all the way through... but is it a horrible idea to switch doctors at this point? Would this behavior be a deal breaker? Also, would you ever switch to a group that is 45 minutes away from home and also delivers 45 mins from home?</p>
<p>I truly appreciate your patience in reading this and your thoughts on the matter. Thank you!</p>
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