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Before my DS was born, we had decided that his room would be downstairs and our bedroom is upstairs. Obviously, once he was born there was no way I was going to go along with that. Now that we are thinking about transitioning, the idea of putting a 2 yr old in a room one entire floor below our own for the entire night is striking fear in my heart and gut and I just cannot fathom it. My DH seems to think it is a good idea and that I'm being silly (that's my perception of it).<br><br>
Come on mammas, give me your opinions. I am going to have to have a conversation with DH soon about this and I need ammo.<br><br>
Not to mention the fact that I don't really feel ready to transition him at all yet. DH just wants to be able to cuddle with me in bed again (etc) and likes to point out how what we are doing isn't "normal."<br><br>
PS - DS 26 months still nurses at night.
 

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No way I'd be comfortable with that.<br><br>
Personally, I don't put children in a different *room* from me for sleeping until they are old enough and mature enough to get out of the house in an emergency on their own. On a different floor? No way in H E double hockey sticks.<br><br>
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I would, but I'm not paranoid in the least about anything.
 

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How many bedrooms in your house? Which on which floors - besides one up that you are in now, and one down that you are thinking of putting ds in?<br><br>
I wouldn't be very comfortable with kid bedrooms in a different floor than mine before they were around 8 I think. Our house has all four bedrooms upstairs, but we looked at some that we decided against specifically because the master was downstairs and the other bedrooms up. Not when the kids are little; I worry about an emergency like a fire, not to mention someone falling on the stairs in a sleepy haze going up or down to find the other or help with potty or sick kid or ?<br><br>
I am pretty far on the mainstream end of MDC (pretty alternative in real life circle though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) and even I wouldn't be comfortable with a two year old sleeping on a different floor than us. Any way you could make another upstairs bedroom (now being used for an office or storage?) into a kid bedroom?
 

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Yes, there is another room upstairs that we could make into his bedroom if need be. My DH wants it to be a "study" or an office of sorts. I think I am going to have to insist that when the time comes, if he wants DS out of our room he absolutely must be upstairs with us.
 

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We looked at a house last year that would have put my 7-year-old dd on a different floor and I felt really odd about that- and she's not even co-sleeping anymore!<br><br>
So no, I don't think you're being odd. If my dd gets up at night or is ill, I want to know about it! And I really don't want a trail of yuck up or down the stairs from dd coming to find me and let me know she's not managed to make it to the toilet... (sorry, gross I know, but it's the truth!)
 

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Absolutely not. Dd1 is 4 and i cringe at the thought of her sleeping on a different floor. Our master bedroom is upstairs, the other two bedrooms are downstairs, in several more years maybe, not anytime soon though. My Dd's have to be very aware of fire safety and have to be able to get themselves out of the house before they can sleep on a different floor then me.
 

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I am with you - I'd make the other upstairs bedroom into ds's room, and the downstairs bedroom into the study. That makes more sense to me anyway - like if you were entertaining; it would be less disruptive to ds if he were upstairs (also thinking of Xmas eve and Easter eve and Tooth Fairy, etc. if you do that).
 

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Absolutely not! That is a saftey hazard. Not on another floor, not in another room...on another sleeping area in the same room if you must, but that's as far as I'd be willing to go with a 26 month old!
 

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I wouldn't put him a floor away either. But there may be ways to compromise with your dh to get more couple time, which is also extremely important to the emotional health of your family and child.<br><br>
How about putting a mattress on the floor or your room, nursing your ds down on that, getting in bed to cuddle with dh and then when ds wakes up, he comes in with you?
 

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Which ever you end up chosing, be careful not to let your fears/worries show to ds!<br><br>
Personally- if you have the option for bedrooms on the same floor, Id go that route. If not, just plan to spend time with hin there and make the transition very gradual and gentle.<br><br>
The other option would be to start with moving him to a seperate bed in your room. That is what we are hoping to do with our 2 and 4.5 year olds who presently sleep between me and dh. It's getting to the point where we REALLY need some intamacy between us and while we won't be having sex in the room with the kids, we'd like to be able to get back in bed after and at least snuggle! I'm staring by slowly night weaning dd2, which 've been working on for about a week or so now. Once she can sleep through the night, or at least get back to sleep without nursing, we are hoping to get bunk beds to put in our room.<br><br>
Of course, the 4yo dd explained that she and daddy will sleep on the top bunk and mama and astrid on the bottom.<br><br>
Gradual is best!! Good luck!
 

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<b>Personally,</b> no, I would not put DS in his room on another floor.<br><br>
He's not old enough yet.<br><br>
MAYbe Age 7(I'll have to access my feelings at that age)...and I'm serious about that.<br><br>
At the same time, if your DH is firm and adamant about it, then you could compromise by purchasing a Baby Video Monitor. You know...the ones where you can see your child at all times.<br><br><br>
I've heard they are pricey though, but worth it in your case.
 

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I would definitely insist on using the other 2nd floor room for his bedroom. DS is in his own room on the same floor and knows exactly how to get to our room when he wakes up in the middle of the night. It has been a wonderful compromise. He goes to sleep in his room. If he wakes up before we go to bed, we help him go back to sleep in his room. When he wakes up after we are asleep, he heads straight for our room and sleeps with us the rest of the night.
 
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