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leave your children with their father if he's fallen asleep on them a couple of times in the past few months?<br><br>
My childrens father has some type of sleeping problem that he's not willing to address.<br><br>
in the last 6 months 3 times he's "claimed" that he was at a fast food restaurant ( barf! ) eating food in the parking lot and fallen asleep before he drove home.<br><br>
At first I wasn't inclined to believe him, thought it was more of an infidelity problem, but looking at his behavior at home, he falls asleep immeidately after he eats dinner and is usually out for the night. He snores soo loud and is almost impossible to wake up.<br><br>
Last week, my two girls ( ages 3 and 2 ) were in his care for 45 minutes, i came to get them, he had fallen asleep and my oldest was freaking out. She was scared and had gotten all of her musical instruments out and tried playing them really loud to wake him and he wouldn't wake up.<br><br>
If he's not willing to address this sleeping issue....I don't feel like i can leave them in his supervision. He won't even admit that he fell asleep on them. Complete and total denial. Says it never happened. He says he was awake the entire time WTH???<br><br>
We just split up, and now he deserves one on one time with them, but i dno't feel like i can trust him to stay the heck awake while he's watching them.<br><br>
am I over-reacting? I don't think so. Please be honest with me. what would you do? I can't not let him see his children? but i can't leave them with someone who will fall asleep on them. Where do I draw the line and how can I get through to him that he has a sleeping disorder and needs to address it for the safety of our children!!
 

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honestly? sounds like sleep apnea to me....my stbx has this and so does his brother and his father. I finally made STBX go for a sleep study and they gave him a cpap machine to sleep with at night - made a huge difference.<br><br>
I would encourage your ex to go for a sleep study....<br><br>
peace,<br>
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Thats a tough situation to be in, and it makes it so much worse when people deny their own stuff! I would tell him that he can only have the kids if there is going to be another adult pressent untill he faces his issues. I would remind him of the situation where his daughter was really scared and that he needs to do a sleep study and face the issue so that his children can feel safe when they are with him.<br><br>
Good Luck Mama, i know people in denial can be difficult<br><br>
~Elizabeth
 

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thanks mamas!! Theres nothing like a little validation that can confirm my feelings and what I need to do. Thank you.
 

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Yup, supervised visits until he gets this under control.
 

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I agree. It's one thing if he just dozed off (maybe), but if he's that difficult to wake up, it could be really dangerous with children that young.
 

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Wow, that's really scary. I would absolutely insist on supervised visits until that was resolved. Non-negotiable, that's dangerous.
 
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