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i know i'm sensitive, but<br><br>
i graduated <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> on saturday with honors with a double major from a great school. i've been driving 2 or 3 nights/week for the past 2 years while working 40 hour weeks.<br><br>
no one at my job said anything, did anything, nothing.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> i work at a small investment firm with only 8 people.<br><br>
am i right to be a little disappointed, or is it par for the course?
 

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Congratulations!!!<br><br>
And, yeah, I'd be bummed if no one at my work bothered to acknowledge it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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First, CONGRATS! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> I know how hard it is to work FT, be a mama, and work on school. In my office, no I wouldn't be hurt. Not everyone knows I am in school. I think my boss would say congrats if he knew and so would the admin, but I don't think they'd do anything for me. I know how it feels to feel so accomplished at something and be let down because others don't see or recognize that accomplishment, but I have also learned that I can't rely on others for self-validation and I am the only person who can disappoint me.<br><br>
Let it go, do something nice to treat yourself, and if you are still upset, use that double major to go get a better job. (In any case, tell your HR person b/c you might be entitled to a raise.)
 

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Congratulations!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
I know I would definitely have hurt feelings too...very sensitive. In such a small setting, it does seem odd that there was no acknowledgment at all. Are there other women there? Asking because it seems that something like this would fall to the women to handle.
 

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bug-a-boo, there are 3 other women, but they are older and i'm pretty sure they could care less. they have all been with the company for 15+ years.<br><br>
i am praying that a new job opportunity will come up, not much around here though. until then, i'm starting grad school in the fall!<br><br>
i think a spa day is in order
 

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I am working on my degree. I have discovered two spectrum of women at work when I tell them I am getting my degree. I have older women that actually seems jealous of me....they will say good for you but then actions say way different. It is like they are intimidated by your education and your new potential. Then I have women that are truly supportive. The first set of women are not always apparent and have active passively aggressive.<br><br>
Men on the other hand don't seem to care. It is more of so what, when I graduated, I did what I was suppose to. My family, not work, celebrated.
 

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I would be bummed too! When I had my last 2 babies my job I work prn at and have been there 10yrs did nothing. They usually send a card and plant. When I had DS I had been working there full time & yet nothing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Congrats on your huge accomplishment! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congratulations!! That's awesome! I've done the work-family-study thing and know the level of dedication it takes. I would think your work colleagues would want to honour your efforts and celebrate a little with you, but hey, don't let them rain on your parade.<br><br>
Celebrate!
 

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Congratulations on your degrees.<br><br>
I wouldn't be surprised or hurt to have nothing said at work. Basically, because I would be aware that me getting my degree at best doesn't affect them. At worst it brings with it alot of fears and uncertainties.<br><br>
"So she got her degree. I'll bet she's looking for another job. She's now overqualified for her job. What if we don't like the next person? What if we have trouble replacing her? Am I going to be asked to change what or how I do my job? Is she going to act different now that she's looking for a new job? Will this change the way management sees her? Will she get a promotion over me?........."<br><br>
Some of these may seem irrational. But we can't always help the inner dialogue. And I would fully expect that those uncertainties and fears would get int he way of them being genuinely happy for me and my accomplishments.
 

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I am sorry that happened to you, but no, my job wouldn't have acknowledged it either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Well there are way more of us then 8 and we care big time!!<br><br>
CONGRATS!!!! So proud of you mama!<br><br>
Wheres the cake with the hot guy popping out of it smilie?
 

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Congrats! That's a big accomplishment!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would be bummed too! When I had my last 2 babies my job I work prn at and have been there 10yrs did nothing. They usually send a card and plant. When I had DS I had been working there full time & yet nothing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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Similar situation at my work, I had worrked in department A for 7 years and had just transferred to department B a year prior. I still work very closely with department A and actually didn't physically leave the department until a couple months before I had the baby. I didn't even get a card or anything from department A after the baby was born. Not even an email. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> So yes, OP, I'd be hurt.
 

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Congratulations!! That is awesome!
 

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Congrats! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
And I think you have a right to be upset. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Probably, but it would also depend on how well I knew my co-workers outside of work.<br><br>
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hat">
 
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