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My 9 yo DD was born blind. She likes to play with sets of toys (5 dolls in a wooden family set or 12 Schleigh people) and if there is ever one missing she freaks out and is not able to play with the remainder of the toys. I know she has a very hard time "looking" for things but sometimes I don't want to "help" (find it for her) because she is sitting on the floor complaining loudly without making ANY attempt to look at all or I can't look because I might be making dinner or having to go to bathroom she finds it impossible to play with the rest of the toys and will sometimes start to yell and carry on about losing it. Also if her brother wants to play with her. She doesn't want to share even one doll/toy with him. "If he plays with one he can have them all," she says with anger and will stomp off.<br><br>
Is this normal 9 yo behavior? How would you/do you deal with it?<br><br>
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April
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My 9 yo DD was born blind. She likes to play with sets of toys (5 dolls in a wooden family set or 12 Schleigh people) and if there is ever one missing she freaks out and is not able to play with the remainder of the toys. I know she has a very hard time "looking" for things but sometimes I don't want to "help" (find it for her) because she is sitting on the floor complaining loudly without making ANY attempt to look at all or I can't look because I might be making dinner or having to go to bathroom she finds it impossible to play with the rest of the toys and will sometimes start to yell and carry on about losing it. Also if her brother wants to play with her. She doesn't want to share even one doll/toy with him. "If he plays with one he can have them all," she says with anger and will stomp off.<br><br>
Is this normal 9 yo behavior? How would you/do you deal with it?<br><br>
TIA.<br>
April</div>
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im not a parent but iam also disabled from birth and my best advice is even though she is blind you should treat her like she is a normal 9 year old<br>
and normal 9 year olds dont usally get away with that stuff so say something like oh im sure your brother would love to play with you and your toys or something like that.i was born with cerebal palsy and other medical problems and while my mum treated me like everyone else she gave in to me even more then m brothers and sister even if iwas wrong and until i was a adult i threw tantrums etc because i had always been given my own way and as i got older my mum didnt give me my own way and i soon learnt . i hope what i said makes sense
 

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Playing with her brother probably makes it much more difficult for her to "keep track" of all of the pieces, and she obviously gets very agitated when she can not find them all.<br><br>
I would try to work on strategies to help her keep track of them, since these toys are very important to her. One idea could be to attach them all with a very long thread (maybe a 2 ft gap between each piece), so that they could move relatively freely, but also be easy to locate. Or maybe she could play with them inside a defined space, like a hula hoop. Any strategies she develops would help her later in life, I imagine, when she is living independently.
 
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