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There are four elementary schools in our town. Right now we are tracked to the worst one (worst test scores, highest student-teacher ratio, worst section of town, and farthest from us--10-15 minute drive straight there, probably a 25 minute bus ride). There's a chance we could be redistricted over the summer, but no guarantees, especially as the other kids on our block go there and the bus already comes here. Our other options are as follows.<br><br>
--We ask for the closest (and best) school, and I drive her every day, which will be hard with my work schedule and toddler's nap schedule. No guarantee that we'll ever be redistricted to be bused.<br><br>
--We try to enroll her in the excellent (but booked for kindergarten, maybe a wait list) Catholic school 5 minutes away.<br><br>
--We keep her in the K at the private preschool she's in now and pay $700 a month (more than the Catholic School, but not by much) and then hope we can get into the Catholic school for first grade (slim chance, but possible) or that we get redistricted by then.<br><br>
--We try to get her into a different Catholic school nearby that's farther (25 minute ride), but also a good school.<br><br>
Or we can just go with the flow and let her go into the current school and see what happens. DH says it will be fine no matter what, but he went to Catholic schools his whole life to avoid a poor public school system, which I find ironic!<br><br>
Of course, a big part of my concern is the school itself. But I'm also feeling like we should have some more control over what school our child goes to! I asked about a tour of the school when I was there picking up some paperwork, and got a little bit of a runaround, which bugged me. When we were buying a house DD1 was a baby, and we were told this is a "blue ribbon" school system. Turns out the blue ribbon was years ago, for one of the schools. I guess I'm feeling a bit like we had the wool pulled over our eyes, and now to find out we're probably going to end up at the worst school of the four (when the best one is barely a mile from our house) is really bothering me.<br><br>
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Can you sell and move into the better school district?<br><br>
I don't like the idea of driving so much with gas prices soaring. And private schools only seem to work when the parents are really sold and "into" the idea of their child attending that particular school because its a good fit for their child.<br><br>
Good luck.
 

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I don't like the idea of driving so much with gas prices soaring. And private schools only seem to work when the parents are really sold and "into" the idea of their child attending that particular school because its a good fit for their child.<br><br>
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Oh lord, don't even get me started on the idea of selling. I've been at my DH for over a year about it--pretty much since we decided I wasn't going to be able to quit my job, and since we started looking harder at the schools <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: He says he never wants to move again. He grew up in a 2-bedroom apartment in Washington Heights (upper Manhattan), so where we are right now looks like paradise to him! However, the people across the street just listed their house, so if it sells well, he'll be more amenable to the idea. The problem with selling is that we got our house at a really reasonable (for NJ) price. If we move, we're paying more for more house, plus at least $3K more in taxes.<br><br>
I'm totally at a loss with this. My opinion changes hourly. Just now I was sitting here thinking driving her everyday might not be SOOOO bad (although I was really looking forward to not having to do it anymore <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">). It's only a mile each way. Even with my gas guzzler, it would take a few weeks to burn up a gallon of gas.<br><br>
Argh!
 

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Well, I definitely wouldn't make a choice based on toddler's nap schedule -- that can be changed and will change on its own soon anyway. So, for the closest school, it would then depend on how difficult it would be for your work schedule. Perhaps you could work out a carpool with a friend? Or do they have extended day services that would give you the time you need to finish your work day? An afterschool nanny that would help and cost less than the private school?<br><br>
If you really want to send her to the Catholic school, and money isn't an issue, then waitlist for that one and keep her where she is comfortable now. Even if the Catholic school doesn't work out, you will have bought a year of time and the 1st grade schedule at the closest school may be different (and more convenient) than the K schedule.<br><br>
If you are uncomfortable with the automatic choice you have, then you should definitely be creative about your options. Don't just settle because its easy.
 

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Thanks mamas <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I JUST got back from registration, and while I am somewhat more comfortable about the school, I am less comfortable now about the distance! The registration clerk confirmed that I can request the closer school as long as I provide transportation, and I spoke to my friend, who said that if her schedule wasn't a problem, she would choose to drive her DD every day rather than have her take the bus, and who gave me a host of reasons why driving my DD would be beneficial. Now my next step is to write a letter, with my "reasons" for wanting the closer school. Also, she can be bumped from the school between grades if enrollment causes a problem <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> But I guess technically that's the case no matter which school she'd be in.<br><br>
Now I have to come up with some compelling reasons for wanting to enroll at the closer school! Suggestions? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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