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I need some help deciding how to manage this trip I have coming up. I have managed to avoid all business travel up until now, but I have to go to LA to do 3 focus groups in the beginning of October (I'm in Mass.). No getting out of it. My kids are still night nursing but actually have been preferring to go to sleep by being carried around by their other mom. DS will have a rough time at first without night nursing, but I think he will do ok. DD will be fine and often prefers their other mom at night--nursing is just a bonus. My partner has done quite a few wake ups (where I have had to leave the house at 5 am before the kids were up) without a problem.<br><br>
So, here's my dilemma. I know I have to be away for one night. There is no way to go to LA, do anything, and then come back to Mass. the same day. I checked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
So I have managed to figure out an itinterary (option A) where I could leave Wednesday morning, basically just as they get up, get there JUST in time to do my first focus group (arrive 2:45; group is a 6:00; setup and travel time are necessary). Stay over, do my other two groups at 9:30 and 11:30 on Thursday; RUSH to the airport for a 2:30 flight (gives me only 1.5 hours to get to the airport in LA traffic--ACK!), hop on a plane, and get home around 1 am, obviously after they are in bed but I will be available for nightnursing.<br><br>
Sorry if that's confusing--it puts me away from them for 1 wake-up, 2 bedtimes, and 1 overnight.<br><br>
Then the other option (B) is to take a flight at the crack of dawn on Wednesday, and just stay over that next night or take a red-eye and be back either midmorning or afternoon on Friday, which would put me away from them for 3 wake-ups, 2 bedtimes, and 2 overnights.<br><br>
I also have a dear friend in LA who is due to have a baby right about then, and I will be able to visit her if I do option B. It will be unlikely (unless I go see her at 9 pm) that I will connect with her with option A, unless the Wednesday night group is cancelled, which is a possibility.<br><br>
Sigh. I know this is convoluted, but can anyone tell me what they would do? I think my kids will find it difficult (esp. DS), but they will be okay, and my partner will be there and Nana probably will too. I've been apart from them for 12 hours max before and that went fine.<br><br>
Thanks in advance for any advice or input. I'm putting off buying my plane tickets because I just can't decide! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br><br>
Hugs,<br><br>
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I live in So CA and fly into/out of LAX a lot. DO NOT count on being able to "rush" through anything at that place!! Security lines are long, check-in lines are long, etc. etc. Also, about 1/mo. they have to evacuate a terminal which throws everything out of wack all day. So if the schedule requires split second timing, I can about guarentee that it won't work the way you want it to. Also, you are right to suspect that the traffic around LAX can be horrific and you need to leave yourself lots of extra time to deal with it.<br><br>
I think it would be worse to promise to be home and then miss your flight than to count on being home a day later. Good luck.
 

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I just got back from my first business trip since dd was born so I totally understand. It was tough! (2 bedtimes, 1 overnite, 1 wakeup) But of course it turned out fine, dd and dh had some quality time together and she was incredibly happy to see me this morning.<br><br>
It would be disappointing to plan to be home sooner and then miss a flight because of traffic or security. Plan B might give you some more breathing room and a chance to see your friend. But I understand the desire to make it as quick as possible. Good luck with your decision.<br><br>
Lisa<br>
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I went through this not long ago, and quite frankly, you're damned if you do, damned if you don't emotionally. I did the rush job and felt guilty for being away from ds, and guilty for not giving a fair shake to my work. DS and DH did much better than expected. It seems that DS was aware that the nurse-nurse wasn't available, so he didn't really ask for it. He took a sippy cup of milk at 4 a.m. and that was it. And like PUPPYLUV said, it gave the boys some bonding space without mama there. I think DH was actually touched that DS called out for him in the middle of the night instead of me.<br><br>
Now, I am getting ready to embark on my second trip without ds (I traveled on business with him until about 18-mos) - he's 20 months - and I'm going for a two-nighter this time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> Could be a different story, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I honestly think it's harder on me than it is on him.<br><br>
I vote for Plan B also, because there is always a good chance of not making that first meeting due to travel issues. It sounds like your partner and Nanny have a good handle on things, and again, it will give them some important together time.<br><br>
Good luck, whatever you decide!
 

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I went away from 7 nights when Reilly was 14 months. DH said he was fine at night--in fact, the little stinker slept 7-8 hours by night 4. He still got up for milk, but seemed to accept DH's soothing just fine. DH stayed home from work the whole week and that made a big difference.<br><br>
It's a tough call, but I wouldn't make yourself a frantic mess over this. Rushing might be the worst thing to do, even with the best of intentions. Your DD and DS will have their mom and Nana there, so they're well-loved and cared for.<br><br>
Good luck,<br><br>
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Thanks everyone. I feel more calm about leaving them and I appreciate the reality check about cutting everything too close. I think I'll take the crack of dawn flight out there that gets me in like 6 hours before my meeting, then probably just go for the red-eye or a flight the next day for the way back (essentially plan b). It's definitely a good idea not to drive myself nuts, and it would be really wonderful to visit my friend.<br><br>
Thanks so much for the wise words! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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