[Valkyrie9]

I'm a WOHM, and my DD is taken care of by our neighbor across the street. I have been coming home on my lunch break to nurse Freya. (I work at home 2-3 mornings a week, so she nurses whenever then.) Our caregiver is quitting in August, and Freya starts a Montessori program then. The toddlers there eat regular solids for their lunch. They said I could come in and nurse her on the lunch break, if I wanted to.

But I'm thinking of dropping her lunch time nurse for the 3 days a week she'll be there at lunch. (She'd continue to be at home with me and nurse whenever the other 4 days.) My rationale: I have been having to cover the lunch-time nursing break with vacation time, as I can't fit everything in with the time I have allotted. Freya can start the new routine with her regular care-giver and have it be established before she even goes to the new setting, so she'd be used to not seeing Mom then. I think it might be a little less stressful in the transition for her if I didn't come see her at the new place mid-day, then leave without her.

The down-sides: I'd miss her like crazy. I hesitate to drop a feeding without her being the leader of it. (Though she's really started to show a great interest in solids lately.) She wouldn't see me at all through the day, and maybe it would make that transition time a little harder.

What do you guys think? WWYD? Am I totally overthinking this? I should also add that she shows no interest at all in EBF in a sippy, so that's probably not a good option. Is there anything else I'm not thinking of? If I drop this feeding, what should I expect behavior-wise and physically for both she and I?

 

[cdahlgrd]

I think it sounds fine. It is always hard to make changes, especially ones that mean more separation!! SOmetimes it is harder for us Mom's!!

She may nurse more and be more clingy, especially because of the change in routine. That should quiet down eventually though.

 

[Valkyrie9]

Thank you for the reply. I want so much to do the "right thing," and I get a little lost sometimes.

 

[leila1213]

I have a similar arrangement (work 4 days per wk, come home to nurse at lunch). I think I would want to maintain the contact during her transition to a new environment.

I know it is probably hard using vacation time, but what would you do if the current arrangement continued? Would you still nurse at lunchtime in spite of it?

There is so much more benefit (IMO) to continuing at the new place. Not only is she getting the added nourishment and cuddling, but you get a "behind the scenes" look at the school. I would be afraid that I might miss out on some information (from DD or from the school) by not dropping by during lunch.

Just my two cents of what I would do in the same situation. Hope it helps. Good luck!