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I am a nanny for three children under 4 years old. They are sweet kids, but definitely a handful, and their parents love them very much. I guess with so many kids, their parents don't really have time to bathe them. During the week, they get ZERO baths. I come in and they are wearing the same clothes as the day before, they have food crusted on their faces and in their hair, and they smell. The 4 year old often complains of his private parts itching and constantly has his hands down the front and back of his pants. All three kids are extremely cuddly and I hug, hold, and cuddle them all day long every day...but it honestly makes me a little sick, because they smell, and their hands/feet/skin is always dirty.

It's especially bad with the baby, because she is just starting to eat solids and smears sweet potatoes or chicken baby food allllll over herself every time she eats. I clean her face, hands, and hair with wet paper towels as much as I can, but even still, she needs a wash cloth and soap!! And she wants to be held all the time, which I don't mind at all...but I feel so dirty at the end of the day.

I change these kids diapers and/or wipe bottoms after poops...I see them change clothes...so would it be really inappropriate if I sometimes bathed them? I've bathed the baby once or twice after diaper blowouts, and the parents didn't seem to care, but I'd really rather do it more often, just so they are cleaner. However, I don't want them to be offended and/or uncomfortable with the idea of me bathing their kids, either...
 

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I can't imagine having a problem with a nanny bathing my kids if I didn't intend to do it myself! Even as a teen babysitter I often bathed the kids in my charge, so I dont see anything wrong with a nanny (who generally has a closer and more long-term relationshipwith the children) doing it. I'm a SAHM right now, but if I were back at work I can say pretty certainly that I wouldn't leave my kids with someone who I didn't trust to bathe them.
 

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I wouldn't have a problem with it, but I would ask, to protect yourself if for no other reason. I'd probably frame it like "with the weather being warmer and more dirt around, it would be great to get into a bath routine," or something similar.

An alternative as the weather warms up is to stick them in a wading pool, sprinkler, or head to a big pool, too.
 

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Originally Posted by zonapellucida View Post
Dear GOD bathe them!!!!!
This. For the love of all that is holy. But I suppose you could frame it as, "They were playing with (insert messy thing here) and they got so sticky and gooey I had to stick them in the bathtub so they wouldn't get the house dirty."
 

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I WOHM and I appreciate it when my nanny bathes my child. I DO bathe him every night (well, I occasionally skip it for various reasons), but DS often gets really messy at her house and she gives him a bath.

I suggest giving them a bath!
 

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yep.

I'd just say...they got all muddy/spaghetti sauce covered/had an accident/spilled her milk all over herself/got pudding in his hair.....

....so I popped them in the tub.

If the kids don't like baths (which may be the case if they don't bathe frequently, that could be why) you can try bubbles, a squirt of food coloring (won't stain the tub, and my kids love picking the color they'll get to have), bathing a baby doll, or other plastic but not usually in the tub toy....
 

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Unless they fell into a mud puddle I wouldn't do it without asking the parents first.

If they're okay with it, then I would bath them. I had 3 kids under the age of 4 & they never got bathed daily, usually once a week in the winter/twice a week in the summer
 

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I used to babysit for a family that was very similar, I watched their daughter 3 days a week until the parents came home from work (this went on for about a year or so) and they apparently didn't place much importance on personal hygiene. But it was pretty gross, on Monday afternoons it was obvious she hadn't bathed since I had been there the previous Friday, and the little girl admitted as much when I asked. I was only 15 at the time so maybe it never occured to me to be worried that the parents would take issue with it, but my rule was she took a bath as soon as she got home from school. After that we had a snack, did homework, and watched a cartoon if there was still time before her parents got home for the day.

In m case the parents never seemed to care, and I got the impression that the only time that little girl got a bath was when I was over watching her. Ihugtrees, I would definitely try to figure out a way to incorporate baths into your care routine with the kids, if you bring it up with their parents I would try to do so as tactfully as possible.

You definitely have my sympathies!
 

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I would think that at the very least you could use a wet washcloth on hands and faces after meals, especially with the baby. I do childcare in my home, and I routinely use a wet washcloth after meals on the hands and faces of the littlest three.

If I were in your shoes, I would probably be slightly bugged because in my mind it's the parents' job to take care of bathing/nails/etc, unless specifically agreed otherwise. One of the little girls I watch never gets her toenails trimmed--I usually give in and trim them once they are curling around the ends of her toes. I'm cheerful about it with her, but inwardly I'm thinking "Why don't her parents do this?" Not part of the job description, you know?

But if you don't mind adding to your job responsibilities, by all means run it by the parents first. I can't imagine that they would mind.
 

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I am a nanny for three children under 4 years old. They are sweet kids, but definitely a handful, and their parents love them very much. I guess with so many kids, their parents don't really have time to bathe them. During the week, they get ZERO baths. I come in and they are wearing the same clothes as the day before, they have food crusted on their faces and in their hair, and they smell. The 4 year old often complains of his private parts itching and constantly has his hands down the front and back of his pants. All three kids are extremely cuddly and I hug, hold, and cuddle them all day long every day...but it honestly makes me a little sick, because they smell, and their hands/feet/skin is always dirty.

this makes me feel sick inside. i know you're saying these are great parents, but if their kids are wearing the same clothes from the day before consistently and not getting baths when there's food in their hair...i dunno.

yes, i would find a way to incorporate bathing into your duties. but if it were me, i'd be on the look-out for other signs of neglect. do the ones in diapers seem to get changed enough? are they rashy?

this just sounds weird to me. we're not huge bath people here--DD gets bathed 2-3 times a week. but i can't imagine letting her go around with food in her hair, or stinking. yuck.

do the parents find time to bathe themselves?
 

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It's strange. Dh and I both WOH. EVERYDAY after supper dh heads up to the tub with one or both kids in tow. Sometimes both sit in and play with him, sometimes they take turns. But they both have a bath with Daddy. Snack, teeth, PJs, stories, bedtime. I don't have three kids 3 & under, I have two kids 3 & under.
Couldn't they all just pile in the tub and play and wash with a parent???

There's some good advice here.
 

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Am I the only one whose kids get irregular baths? I try to bathe them once or twice a week. However, if they have food on them, they wash their face and hands with a washcloth, and as infants the did get bathed more.

Why are you not washing them with a washcloth after meals?

If we had a nanny, I'd be fine with her giving them a bath. Dd does need a bath more often than she gets it sometimes, and it's just plain hard to fit it in some nights.
 

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I was a nanny for almost five years. I gave him baths - never thought twice about it. I gave kids I babysat for in high school baths. It was really common, and often my babysitters toss my youngest one in the bath if they're sitting here in the evening.

I bet the parents would be thankful you took that off their to do list. Especially since they have three kids. There is a thread here where a mom was mad that her MIL gave the six month old a bath, but I think that is not the usual reaction based on the replies.

I'd bathe them every day or every other - whatever you think is needed based on their activities.
 

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I'd definitely ask first.

"Sometimes the kids get pretty messy playing outside or during meals, would it be ok if I gave them a bath while I'm watching them?"

I suspect that they probably wouldn't mind, since they're not doing it themselves.
 

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Maybe they are assuming that this is part of your job and that's why its not getting done?

As a parent, I would definitely want you to ask first, but I wouldn't have any problem with it once I had said OK and made sure you knew about any sort of restrictions (allergic to some soap or whatever...)
 

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Originally Posted by SleeplessMommy View Post
Just ask if it is ok for them all to "play in the bath tub" ... no need to mention the use of soap, it is all being done "for fun".
Yeah, this is what I would do too! Make it a game and do a little "cleaning" while they are in there.
 

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Am I the only one whose kids get irregular baths? I try to bathe them once or twice a week. However, if they have food on them, they wash their face and hands with a washcloth, and as infants the did get bathed more.

Why are you not washing them with a washcloth after meals?

If we had a nanny, I'd be fine with her giving them a bath. Dd does need a bath more often than she gets it sometimes, and it's just plain hard to fit it in some nights.
You're not the only one. Dirty clothes, smells, dirty hair....those are other issues. Bathing them might help but that's not the issue. The kids need more overall care.

If someone changed their clothing, washed their hands and faces and combed their hair, they wouldn't need a bath everyday, or even every other day.

 
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