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THis is a hypothetical question at the moment but something that is weighing on my mind. My dh is in the Air Force and is supposed to separate in May 08. Well he just got 1 year deployment orders. He can turn them down since he's supposed to get out in less than a year but he has to sign something right now saying he's not allowed to re-enlist which is freaking him out. If he does take it he'll be leaving at the end of August (baby is due end of July). The thing is if he takes it then he's got this training thing he has to do first. It's from the end of June until the 21st of July and I'm due the 25th! My mom is flying out to be the support person for my son but her tickets are already bought...she'll be here the 17th of July.<br><br>
Ok so the chances of me going before my edd are slim based on family history BUT what the heck happens if I go into labor and neither my mom nor my dh are here? I don't have any friends around here that I can really call on. I have one that *might* watch Jake but she's running her own business now and probably wouldn't have time. I'm sure my midwives would help me as much as they could but of course it's not their job to babysit my kid or me.<br><br>
I'm not considering going to the hospital or anything like that, I just wonder what the heck would happen? What do single hbing moms do?
 

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I second the doula suggestion, or perhaps your mws could connect you with a midwifery student. Students always want to attend births, even if they are there more in a bystander/childcare capacity.
 

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I third the doula. Even if you just want someone there to watch your older child, at least with a doula, she'll be there just for him and is comfortable with birth and knows how to stay out of the way. Also, if you don't already know about ODC, Operation Doula Care is run by CAPPA (one of the membership organizations for doulas) and offers doulas at no cost to the mothers whose partners are deployed. You can find more out at <a href="http://www.cappa.net" target="_blank">www.cappa.net</a>.
 

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get a doula.Best 400 I ever spent.DH was supposed to be back from deployment at 36 weeks but at 32 weeks they were extended until 2 weeks after DS's due date.Then I was coerced into an induction before my support system would be there so the doula ended up being the only one for my birth.She was great.
 

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Definitely a doula!! Worth their weight in gold.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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