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So, I'm in the last stretch of my pregnancy and due to some false labor scares, have been ordered to stay off my feet until Monday of next week, when I can happily have my home birth.<br><br>
MIL has had my DD for a few days of pizza making and going to the beach so I can rest, and she's offered to keep her the rest of the week so that I can get the bed rest I need + prepare for baby..DD is totally happy as a clam there - she's getting attention, plenty of snacks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> she's going swimming, seeing family she doesn't get to see etc. She's pretty much in love with her G-parents and we talk twice a day and she's IN A HURRY BYE MOMMY to get off the phone so that she can go play games<br><br>
I miss her so much, but I'm kind of loving that I can relax. Catch up on my reading, and get the house ready, and not have to feel guilty that I'm not going to be able to do much with her until next week, when I can resume all activities.<br><br>
Would it be terrible to let her stay until the weekend? Until I can get be off of the bed rest [and I use this loosely, I don't need to stay in bed all day but I can't go for walks/put pressure etc]<br><br>
WWYD?
 

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I would leave her there. It sounds like everyone's happy, and you could use the time to relax before you have a new baby.
 

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No, not at all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
This is the kind of village we all need -- it's wonderful that you have such a great support system to help your family grow healthily and happily!
 

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Not terrible at all! Especially if she's happy and her Grand's are happy! If you miss her though maybe you could suggest GP's and her come by for lunch and maybe read some stories and spend some quiet time with her afterwards? You could order some take out so no one would have to prepare the lunch maybe?<br><br>
Good luck with your homebirth BTW....what an exciting time : )
 

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(Note to people other than the OP, ymmv, and how things are for her doesn't reflect an opinion on how things should be for you.)<br><br>
Sweetie, your dd is happy there because you've done a great job being totally there for her all this time. This is your reward, bask in it.<br><br>
Don't think of it as "having to stay in bed" think of it as "having the luxury to lounge".<br><br>
You trust your MIL, you trust your DD, relax and let your body gestate without worry.
 

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Leave her there! Read a book! Enjoy the peace and quiet!<br><br>
Let her grandma do this for her and for you and for your new baby!!!!
 

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Thanks, I feel so GUILTY is the thing -- I know that's totally normal, but I just feel like I'm depriving her for some reason. Because, you know, right now I'm the most amazing mom ever [total sarcasm, I'm more like a beached whale, ha!]
 

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It is so OK, and it is totally normal to feel guilty about it too!<br><br>
Think of it this way, would you be a more amazing Mum if you had your daughter at home but couldn't do anything with her and ended up getting frustrated and irritable because she was getting bored and doing things she shouldn't? Seems like you are being an amazing Mum by letting her have some special time with her GP's and getting to have fun!
 
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