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  • Do it yourself, lazy! The baby can go in a carrier

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  • Wake the bum up! It's his job after all...

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  • Let him sleep. He'll catch on eventually. For now, stinky natural consequences in the garage.

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DH didn't take out the garbage last night. Just like last week. He went to bed moments after we got home from a walk moments after I got home fro a final exam, so I didn't notice 'til he was asleep.<br><br>
Now I'm up with daycare baby and civ pro homework and he is sleeping still which is actually useful bc DD will sleep longer with him there.<br><br>
But I hear the garbage truck in the neighborhood. What should I do?
 

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Yeah but he just forgot last week too. And many other weeks. He rarely does household jobs unless I remind him multiple times and fit it into his schedule (ie not only remind him but remind him a couple of times and then remind him at a time when he can actually just do it then and there).<br><br>
I do so much more that he does because he just forgets *everything*.
 

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I don't like the wording for the first option - seems to harsh to call you lazy! - but I did choose it.<br><br>
I used to stress and stress over things like this, complaining that he didn't do his share, that he was just one more person that I had to take care of, that he never remembered to do *anything* around the house unless I tattooed a reminder on his forehead, etc. Then he left. And now I know what it is really like to do it all alone.<br><br>
I hope you guys are able to work out an arrangement that satisfies both of you.
 

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I voted for #1. Garbage is not my chore either but I do it occasionally. I would really appreciate it if DH did the dishes or laundry for me every once in awhile.
 

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If you do not take the garbage out it will pile up and stink. You could attract bugs and rodents. How long would you be able to hold out? Until the health department is called?<br>
I would take the trash out if you are physically capable of doing it. Pick another chore to refuse to do.
 

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I picked other because of the word lazy. You don't want to do it not the end of the world and not necessarily laziness.<br><br>
We do a give a take on choirs. Trying not to get stuck into the "That was your job."..........................plus you know you can go, sweetie since I took out the trash this morning will you clean out the toliets. LOL
 

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I would do it myself, I wouldn't want it sitting around another week!
 

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I'd wake him up. Your hands are full, I assume, and it wouldn't be that much effort for him to get up and take it out. It IS his job and maybe if he has to wake up early a few times he will remember to do it the night before.
 

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Definitely do it yourself. I wouldn't even worry about the putting the baby in a carrier...I would just put him/her down in a safe place and go do it. Doesn't take more than a minute or two. Seems silly to stress and worry about it. Just do it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'd wake him up. Your hands are full, I assume, and it wouldn't be that much effort for him to get up and take it out. It IS his job and maybe if he has to wake up early a few times he will remember to do it the night before.</div>
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Same here.
 

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I do the trash here already <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I chose the first one although I didn't like the word lazy either! But I also say RUN!!!! Get that stinky garbage out there quick!<br><br>
In our house dh is the one who takes the garbage out to the garbage can but whoever remembers is the one who pulls it to the curb!
 

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I'd wake him up. It's his job, he forgot, you're helpfully reminding him before the truck gets there.
 

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Wake his butt up. If it were a momentary lapse in judgement, I'd do it for him. And I wouldn't leave it, because garbage sitting around is unhealthy and punishes everyone.<br><br>
Get his butt out of bed and make him put the garbage out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'd wake him up and say, "Could you watch the kids for a second? I need to run the garbage out before the truck gets here!" That way, you're getting your point across, the trash goes out, and you're not really nagging at him to do his chores. Sort of. Is that too passive aggressive? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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I would just do it myself because if he is anything like my dh, who wants to listen to the whine about how tired he is. After he woke up I would remind him that he needs to remember to do this. If he still keeps forgetting leave the garbage on his side of the bed.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'd wake him up and say, "Could you watch the kids for a second? I need to run the garbage out before the truck gets here!" That way, you're getting your point across, the trash goes out, and you're not really nagging at him to do his chores. Sort of. Is that too passive aggressive? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:</div>
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I think that is a good suggestion.
 
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