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What should we do with our two-hour sitter time?

  • Go out for a nice meal, then come home.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Go out for a nice meal, if there's time get the lights, then come home.

    Votes: 4 23.5%
  • Go for a quickie meal somewhere, get the lights and lie about where we ate to my aunt.

    Votes: 9 52.9%
  • The obligatory "other" (please explain).

    Votes: 4 23.5%
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Dh and I are in the middle of renovating our house. We need to find/buy lighting, as we are painting the ceiling this week and need to take down old light fixtures, etc. I only want to have to do it once, so we need to get the new lights now.<br><br>
I had a mini-breakdown last night and told dh we NEEDED to go find lights. He suggested getting a sitter and going tonight instead. We called our regular girl (only paid sitter we ever use, the kids LOVE her), but she's out of town for the weekend.<br><br>
Then I remembered that my aunt offered to watch the kids for us in exchange for some baby clothes I gave her. So I phoned her. She said yes, she'll watch them... but when I mentioned that we were planning on going to get lights, she got mad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
She said that she offered to watch the kids so that we could go out for a nice meal, at a place that doesn't use styrofoam cups, not so that we can go running around here, there and everywhere. (She did say the part about the nice meal, but not the second part until last night.)<br><br>
I didn't realize that strings usually came with offers like this. I'm not sure why it matters to her -- perhaps she doesn't realize that, right now, a night of house stuff w/o having to bring four kids along means more to us than a meal at a five-star restaurant. I think she might be worried that we'll take advantage of her being here and will go to this place, that place, and the other place as well... which isn't going to happen. Dh and I know basically which lights we want (we found them online), so it's more just a matter of picking out the last two we haven't completely decided on yet and then buying them all.<br><br>
My aunt said she'll watch the kids for two hours.<br><br>
Soooo... which option would you choose? (This is my first poll, I hope it works.)
 

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I voted the third, but I read it wrong. I thought it said "go somewhere for a QUICKIE and get the lights, lie about where you ate". Man, I need to read slower.<br><br>
Now I don't know what to pick<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I have a few friends like this. They want to make sure they are doing something good for you and that you get to relax. In their book lightshopping doesn't count as such.<br><br>
I voted other, because I say get the lights and either make up where you eat or tell your aunt after the fact, with a beaming smile, so she can see how relaxing it was for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I voted the third, but I read it wrong. I thought it said "go somewhere for a QUICKIE and get the lights, lie about where you ate". Man, I need to read slower.<br><br>
Now I don't know what to pick<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Actually, this version sounds the best to me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> And I would let auntie know too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I would tell her that you really need to get those lights. You appreciate her wish for you to have a nice dinner out but this will help you more right now than a fancy dinner. I wouldn't lie. If she wants to be annoyed then tell her that if she agreed to babysit for 2 hours to repay you for the baby clothes then it is none of her business how you spend those 2 hours as long as the activity is legal.<br><br>
If you want to eat and get lights then do it, but don't feel obligated to eat somewhere just because of her conditions. I would get the lights first and then eat if you have time. Our last trip to a home improvement store was supposed to be quick and took at least an hour because of unexpected issues at every turn. Dd was with us so it was really bad.
 

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Do what you want!<br>
When I was a kid, my single mom would sometime ask my grandmother to watch us (my brother & me), my Gran would only keep us if my mother was doing an activity that Gran approved of. I always thought it was unfair to place restrictions on her.<br>
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I didn't realize that strings usually came with offers like this. I'm not sure why it matters to her -- perhaps she doesn't realize that, right now, a night of house stuff w/o having to bring four kids along means more to us than a meal at a five-star restaurant.)</div>
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I couldn't agree more! Time to focus on an important task without children distracting you is far more valuable than a slow sit down dinner. It would be easier actually to take kids to a sit down dinner than do serious house supply shopping!<br><br>
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I went with "other". I'd basically reverse number 2. Get the lights and then see how much time is left. You may not have time for a "fancy" place but you may have time for a chain like TGI Fridays, Chilis, etc. They don't have styrofoam cups but they can probably get you in and out in under 30 minutes.
 
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