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Ok, so here's the situation...you have 8 week old twins. It is 5:30 in the morning, they have just nursed and are full up, so don't want to nurse anymore. But they are getting tired and want to go back to sleep. However, they don't seem to be soothed when you are holding both of them and you know if you had another set of arms this would probably work. They are a little fidgety, but not really crying. It is dh's day off, but you know if you wake him he will be willing to help, of course, but will lose patience quickly and probably be crabby the next day because he's tired. (amazing, isn't it?) You are feeling pretty good yourself and feel almost as if you could get up for the day, maybe need a nap later.<br><br>
Sooo....do you wake up dh/so and deal with the attitude? Or do you continue to try and soothe them yourself?
 

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I'd wake dh. You're in this together & you need all the help you can get. Feeling good is great but that can go downhill quick if things get too stressful, kwim? I say if you ever have the help available, certainly take it.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am soooooo glad those days are over, but they are so vivid in my mind. Hang in there, mama! You just do whatever it takes to keep you sane and functioning. Go wake up dh!
 

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Oh do I know your dilma!! The first thing I would do is to double sling them. I was amazed at how well that put them to sleep when holding them did not. Mine are almost a year and they still go to sleep that way every day! If that doesn't work, wake DH with no gulit.....you are not in this alone. He can always go back to sleep as soon as one of them is asleep.....<br><br>
GL!!!!<br><br>
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DS 6, DD 2, 10 1/2 old DD twins
 

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Maybe not a popular choice, but I loved the swing for moments like that. I could tend to one DS and let the other DS swing for a few minutes. The swing was a life saver for me.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I was gonna say swing too<br><br>
If DH gets 2 more hours of sleep that means much more willingness and energy to help when I really need it later in the day.
 

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I wouldn't hesitate to wake DH if I thought he could tip the balance and get a baby back to sleep. Heck, I'm tired all the time, he can suck it up and be adult. Neither of us has a greater right to sleep than the other. Geez, I might even say here, it's your day off, you play with them awhile since they've been fed (the only baby care task he can't do). I might even go back to sleep myself, since I haven't slept in in over a year...<br><br>
Yeah, harsh maybe but that's what I think! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yeah, there really are no days off for a few years, IMO. DH gets up in my world.<br><br>
But yes to the swing! It helps get everyone's needs met at the time they need it.
 

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I'm a big swing fan, and if that didn't work, I'd surely wake my husband. There are no days off, as someone said. And I don't think I'd want to set the precedent so early on that he gets to sleep and you do not!
 

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Well for the record, I did wake dh. And I could hear him telling ds to "just go to sleep already!" As someone else posted, I know that if dh is well rested, he will be much better company the next day and a lot more helpful.<br><br>
And what is up with my babies? Are they the only ones who aren't soothed by the swing? You mean that the rest of you can put one baby in the swing and it will be content while you attend to the other one?? That is so not fair! Good grief, if I had that in my aresenol it would be no question! I put them in it when they are fussy or tired and it just seemes to aggravate them.<br><br>
And to the pp who mentioned the slings. They do well when I sling them, it usually puts them right to sleep if they are tired. I have only really tried slinging them both once, and while they fell asleep, it was kind of a big pain. I suppose it gets easier the more you do it. Guess I'll work on that.<br><br>
Thanks for posting everyone. It really wasn't a bad or stressful morning, I was just wondering what the rest of you do.
 

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When my twins were that age, I kept a bouncer in our bedroom. We had the crib sidecared, so I would hold the one baby and put the other one in the bouncer (set inside the crib), strap him in and slowly bounce/rock it with one hand....usually by the time I fell asleep, they were both asleep.<br><br>
Another thing that worked for us was to use a rice pack, slightly warmed, to lay across the baby. It seemed to make them feel like they were still being held. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didnt. We didnt do it often, just when that extra hand was needed.
 

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I'm with the original poster-- my babies at that age were never soothed by anything other than being in arms. In fact, for DS it was often boob or nothing. We have a swing, a bouncer, a cradle, you name it I tried it. Sometimes I could get away with nursing one while bouncing the other on my knee, but even that often didn't do it.<br><br>
I have major envy for mamas whose babies like swings. My first did, so I know how much that eases things.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm with the original poster-- my babies at that age were never soothed by anything other than being in arms. In fact, for DS it was often boob or nothing. We have a swing, a bouncer, a cradle, you name it I tried it. Sometimes I could get away with nursing one while bouncing the other on my knee, but even that often didn't do it.<br><br>
I have major envy for mamas whose babies like swings. My first did, so I know how much that eases things.</div>
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My twins are not "boobs or nothing" guys, but do seem to be "human or nothing". The will most often be fine if rocked or danced. But putting them down in a contraption doesn't seem to work. They sometimes sleep in the swing, but only if they are sleeping when I put them in it.<br><br>
I've never had a baby that was soothed by the swing, but my dd was most often "boobs or nothing". I've come to think that my dh only produces difficult babies.
 

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At 8 weeks?? I wake up DH!<br><br>
I'm a believer in the idea that twins make equal parents out of husbands and wives (and that's a good thing!), but part of that is letting our husbands experience the FULL load of parenting twins. It's hard to step up and share responsibility when part of the responsibility is kept from you.<br><br>
I woke up DH any time I needed his help, or when his help would make my load easier. ESPECIALLY in the early days of having twins. I think that did a world of good for helping dh appreciate what equal parenting meant, and also for appreciating the work of mothering-specific "tasks."<br><br>
I think it's good to wake up your DH and have him help. I also think it's good to help him get a nap later in the day, and to have him "take" the babies (perhaps while they're napping) so that you can catch a few winks.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I was gonna say swing too<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">And what is up with my babies? Are they the only ones who aren't soothed by the swing? You mean that the rest of you can put one baby in the swing and it will be content while you attend to the other one??</div>
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When my guys were that small, we put them in the swing TOGETHER a few times. No, you won't find that in the Graco instruction manual. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Yes, it worked like a charm (and made for some really cute pictures!)<br><br>
My babies were also very much "human or nothing" as far as sleeping went in the first couple of months. But if they were nursed up, sometimes cuddling with brother was an OK substitute for cuddling with an adult. We put them in a larger blanket, sorta' swaddling them up together so we wouldn't have one of them slipping out through each leg hole in the tray. They were nestled in their facing each other.
 
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