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We've toyed around with it and just planned to stay at home as long as possible, I've been seeing a great midwife supportive of my VBA2C & I even saw the OB she works under earlier in my pregnancy, things have been great & they were supportive, until today...<br><br>
I went in for the "reg" midway appt with the OB & she totally drops the bomb on me that I am "not a good candidate for VBAC" and that she will not support my decision to do so. Well so what am I to do, I could continue to go there and act like I'm just goin' along with the cesarean plan, then just not show up for it, but why be put through hell at my appts? They aren't letting me continue care with my midwife at all and the OB really just turned down right rude. The midwife I had a good relationship with even talked with her outside of the office, but now I've been trying to get a hold of her to talk to her about this, and she won't respond. Sooo we decided that we will just be in the mind set that we will not need the hospital, unless it is an emergency of course.<br><br>
Oh & to mention, the ONLY reason she gave me for this was that my previous baby was over 10lbs! (Well he was a month over due!)<br><br>
I dunno what else to say I'm full of emotions, anger, sadness, you name it.
 

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Hey mama... Me too!<br><br>
We've been working with a HB midwife but there have been some comments made via email as of late that have made us go back to our 'maybe we should just do this ourselves' thought... And yeah, money is a small factor (but really if I REALLY wanted a paid for birth, I'd just go to the hospital, my heart is at HOME though). We're toying with idea of doing prenatal care with a provider but I'm like you... Do I want to be put through hell, especially at the end of the pregnancy, when I can just record my own stats and vitals... ? IF a transfer becomes needed, I'll just take my own handwritten records and say I had been working with a midwife for prenatal care and here's my records and refuse a name. No biggie.<br><br>
Like you, I'm full of emotions and one of them being, is this the right choice? Not because we feel scared or uncomfortable, just because it really is 'out there'. Given our options right now, it's the BEST one we've got and you know, we've gone back and forth on it the whole time but felt 'what if'. Things happen for a reason, right?<br><br>
You'e due a month after me... Feel free to PM me ... I'd love someone going through this with me, lol!
 

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i'm sorry that happened. the thing that is so ironic to me is that she had to have known your previous baby was 10+ lbs, and so why wouldn't she tell you frm the onset that she wouldn't consider you a good candidate? it so often feels like a bait-and-switch to me.<br><br>
i hope it all goes well for you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i'm sorry that happened. the thing that is so ironic to me is that she had to have known your previous baby was 10+ lbs, and so why wouldn't she tell you frm the onset that she wouldn't consider you a good candidate? it so often feels like a bait-and-switch to me.<br><br>
i hope it all goes well for you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Exactly, she knew that when I saw her at 12 weeks!
 

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If it's any comfort, it looks like I am going UC, as well.<br><br>
I was accepted into the midwife's care and kicked out less than two weeks later. I was told the issue is where I lived prior to here.<br><br>
I was actually told on Monday to go back and have the baby there.<br><br>
So much for the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms saying newcomers and immigrants have a basic human right not to be discriminated against for care based on their nationality!<br><br>
I ended up going to the hospital after about 18 hours in labour last time because I was just exhausted and started to get concerned for myself and the baby. Turns out I was in labour so long due to scar tissue in my cervix.<br><br>
I expect this baby to arrive much more quickly since that shouldn't be an issue at all.<br><br>
Thank goodness hubby is willing to support whatever I choose, and I choose to have the baby at home.
 
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