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We are not officially divorced. I left him over a year ago and we've lived seperately. I left him and lived in a domestic violence shelter for 2 months. I decided to be nice and stayed int he next town over from him so he could see his kids more regularly. After being there a year and him barely trying to see them, I had enough. I had no family or friends there to help, and he wouldn't help with the kids. So when my lease was up I moved 45 min away, closer to family and friends so they can help.
I didn't realize until after I moved that I have to live here for 6 months before being allowed to even file for a divorce. So no divorce for a while still. Not sure how that works with child custody. We have no papers for that either.
We just figured out the rest of the summer schedule for the kids for weekends, and kids going to grandparents for a week (his parents place). At the same time I just registered her for school. I recieved a packet of info on kindergarten for her. Her orientation is scheduled for the Thursday on the week she is supposed to be at her grandparents place. I told him and he informed me that I have to drive the 2 1/2 hours to pick my daughter up, get her to orientation, then drive her back to her grandparents place. He said he's not worrying about it so either I drive and do that, because he's not.
And he informs me that I should be thankful. We currently meet 1/2 way to exchange the kids. He tells me that after child custody goes through it's the parents who moved away's responsibility for all driving of the kids to the other parent. Seriously?! Is that what always happens? I move out due to domestic violence and then closer to my family since he wouldn't help with them. And in return I have to be his delivery person? All this while he doesn't pay child support? WTH?
I just keep feel like I'm getting screwed. I can't find a job so I don't even have the money to do child custody through the courts. I am not sure what to do.
I didn't realize until after I moved that I have to live here for 6 months before being allowed to even file for a divorce. So no divorce for a while still. Not sure how that works with child custody. We have no papers for that either.
We just figured out the rest of the summer schedule for the kids for weekends, and kids going to grandparents for a week (his parents place). At the same time I just registered her for school. I recieved a packet of info on kindergarten for her. Her orientation is scheduled for the Thursday on the week she is supposed to be at her grandparents place. I told him and he informed me that I have to drive the 2 1/2 hours to pick my daughter up, get her to orientation, then drive her back to her grandparents place. He said he's not worrying about it so either I drive and do that, because he's not.
And he informs me that I should be thankful. We currently meet 1/2 way to exchange the kids. He tells me that after child custody goes through it's the parents who moved away's responsibility for all driving of the kids to the other parent. Seriously?! Is that what always happens? I move out due to domestic violence and then closer to my family since he wouldn't help with them. And in return I have to be his delivery person? All this while he doesn't pay child support? WTH?
I just keep feel like I'm getting screwed. I can't find a job so I don't even have the money to do child custody through the courts. I am not sure what to do.