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I went to a different park today with my 19 month old DD, Ellie. The only other child there was a little girl 3 weeks older than mine, and her Mom. I have seen her many times before but generally in a crowded park so we never really spoke.<br><br>
Today, she talked and talked... and bragged and bragged.<br><br>
WIthin 10 minutes, I was told that her daughter can read "just small words, but WOW!" (hmmm at 20 months?OK) "cool" was my reply.<br><br>
Then her daughter put on a show "where is your RIGHT arm?" "where is your LEFT arm".... and I again said "cool". Meanwhile, I'm not certain if my daighter knows her arm from her leg!<br><br>
Then I am told she knows her colors and can do splits. with the demonstration to prove this. me: "oh, Ellie doesn't know her colors, really - but we're not working on it"<br><br>
Then I am subjected to 5 minutes of "what's the magic word?" whenever her daughter wanted a snack or to get on the swing.<br><br>
Then Ellie wanted to get on the swing and she ran over to it and said "uppie"<br>
and so I picked her up. The Mom then said "you aren't working on please and thank you?" me:"nope"<br><br>
THen her DD threw her snack and the Mom did the whole "there are people in other countries without food" crap (people still DO that?) and said "don't make me slap your hand"<br><br>
After another brag about potty training (her daughter asks to use the potty) and my reply "oh, we're not working on that" she paused and asked...<br><br>
"what are you working on?" I thought at first that I should answer "physics" or "quantum mechanics", but instead, I took my DD's hand, started walking to the gate to leave (naptime), turned over my shoulder and said "JOY - have a nice day" with a pleasant smile on my face....
 

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She probably stood there for a minute scratching her head trying to figure out what Joy is ...<br><br>
I really cannot stand when moms brag about their kids that way, and THEN make you feel as if you are not a good mom because you kid cant solve the equation on how to split the atom.<br><br>
Geez my DD will be 21 mo and I dont even work on any of that stuff...she can talk and knows where her body parts are but she learned it from us saying things like come here I need to wipe your nose and eventually she just got it that hey thats my nose ....
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Her daughter's not smart, she's a trained monkey.
 

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brilliant response!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap">
 

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Your response was so perfect it gave me chills! (in a good way). That's the type oof response I usually come up up with hours or days later and WISH I had thought of in the moment. Wonderful story! But I feel sad for her little girl...
 

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Great answer! You probably left her speechless for the first time that day.<br>
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I too get wearied with all the frustrations of "My child does..." So What! I could go though all the things my DD does but it really shouldn't matter. I am proud of you.
 

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"what are you working on?" reminds me of that concept in self-help or enlightment work that reminds us to just live, love, and accept the moment in order to be happy instead of constantly feeling not good enough and needing to strive toward the next thing.<br><br>
great answer.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"what are you working on?" I thought at first that I should answer "physics" or "quantum mechanics", but instead, I took my DD's hand, started walking to the gate to leave (naptime), turned over my shoulder and said "JOY - have a nice day" with a pleasant smile on my face....</div>
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Tomorrow that mom will be telling someone that *her* daughter is joyful on a three-year-old level! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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One of my friends is a bit like that with her DS. Not that bad (and he's 3 1/2 so his "reading" is maybe a bit more plausible) but bad enough that every time we see them she has to demonstrate his newest accomplishment and mention about how developed he is and sometimes it really irritates the crap out of me. Sometimes she pushes my competitive buttons which I have to try very hard to repress, so I try to just smile and say "that's great" and change the subject wherever possible and generally have come to look at it as her particular problem. She has some need to do this which has nothing to do with me, so I just let her go on.<br><br>
She's irritated that in our state by law her son can't start kindergarten when she wants him to b/c he was born in October and misses the Sept 30 cut off and so he would be (heaven forbid) back a year with the likes of my DS and other kids who aren't as "developed" (although she admits it is b/c many of them are 6-9 months younger (like my DS)). I did some research on it and it looks like a rule set in stone, but she can send her kid to private kindergarten and then try to get him into 2nd grade after that if the schools are willing to work with her--otherwise she'll have to deal.
 

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I have to agree with the trained monkey comment. I would have replied "self expression" when she asked what we are working on. You should have seen the picasso she left on the living room floor the other day when her diaper leaked.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have to agree with the trained monkey comment. I would have replied "self expression" when she asked what we are working on. You should have seen the picasso she left on the living room floor the other day when her diaper leaked.</div>
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I felt the need to quote you because that was funny <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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