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I have realized something recently. I have 2 children, Aspen who is almost 4 and Ana who is 17 months. Ana has been a firecracker ever since she arrived. She is just a very vocal and very loud baby. It's ok with me, although I am pretty noise sensitive. Anyways, I am a yeller by nature, I was raised with alot of yelling, but I TRY TRY TRY not to.<br><br>
When ana was born, we dreaded car rides because the whole first 2 months of her life she would scream bloody murder the entire car ride. Thats where it started. Now its not always crying or negative, she just yells to talk, LOL. She screams "HIIIIIII" and "BYE!!!!!" As loud as she can. chuckle.<br><br>
A recent development though, made me realize that I yell OVER Ana. She is so loud, its hard to talk to my son, he cant hear me over her. Its not always realistic to take him to another room or elsewhere to talk to him so I end up yelling.<br><br>
What would you do in this situation?<br><br><br>
Jenny
 

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That happens here as well. It's amazing how noisy my two can be, and how hard it is to communicate with one when the other is talking/singing.<br><br>
Using a loud voice doesn't bother me. My voice has the ability to be loud or soft, and I don't see either one as a negative thing in itself. Sometimes speaking loudly in order to be heard is necessary. It's use of a loud voice to bully a child that bothers me, and that's what I consider "yelling" at a child. It doesn't sound like you're doing that. Is it only the volume of your voice in these situations that bothers you, or is there something else about it that is worrisome?
 

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I've lived with a hearing impaired sister and mother, so that kind of naturally ups your volume. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I've learnt to speak more softly, but I realized the other day I yell a lot too, because our house is small. This may sound weird, but our apartment is so small, I can ask DH something no matter where I am in the apartment, I just have to yell a bit. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> So instead of walking over and asking or telling him, I yell. I decided to stop doing that so DD will also learn to talk on a normal volume level.<br>
Maybe you can try whispering as a sort of game with your DC? I know from my mother and sister that if you're in a room where one person talks loud, it will have the others in the room talk more loudly also. Usually whispering will encourage the other person to listen more intently. Don't know if this helps, just my two cents. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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