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So here's what happened.

Our church was having a big celebration for ending our vbs/mission week.. so there were like 100 people in this room, and they were doing a big ceremony.

My four year old stood up in front of everyone and pulled his pants and underwear down.

I don't know whether to laugh or to cry.

This is starting to become a frequent occurance. Happened last week at the lake, he showed his mixed company friends his package..

so it wasn't a one time thing. I've tried till I'm blue in the face to explain private parts are private, describing WHAT is private, etc.. we've read books, I just don't know where else to go with this 'phase' (Please, Lord, say it's a phase!)

Any tips?
 

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IDK about tips but this was my DD at the park the other day but she was butt-a$$ and running away from me as I picked up all her clothes...but she's not yet 2!

IDK WHAT could have compelled your son to want to do that in front of all those people! He certainly is not shy. Maybe it's an attention thing?
 

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Have you asked him why he does it? Could he need to use the toilet? Is he hot? Did he get some laughter the first time he did it? Sometimes my son does things over again b/c someone laughed the first time. Perhaps if this will be a phase, make it more difficult to get his pants off(belt, suspenders, overalls) so maybe you can stop him before he does it.
 

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Have you tried overalls? I let my son be naked a LOT at home and when we started spending more time out in public, particularly in Scotland where they did not seem to find naked toddlers as rip-roaringly funny as they did in Argentina, we bought three pairs of overalls for outings because he simply did not see the point of clothing. This did not mean he did not try to strip down, but it bought us time between impulse and action. We could spot him fiddling with the buttons and then sprint over to scoop him up and re-fasten.

Tricky ring fastened belts can also be good. Not so great for potty training efforts, but great for deterring the impulse to flash.

I think it is something they grow out of.
 

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Originally Posted by mom2grrls View Post

Have you asked him why he does it? Could he need to use the toilet? Is he hot? Did he get some laughter the first time he did it? Sometimes my son does things over again b/c someone laughed the first time. Perhaps if this will be a phase, make it more difficult to get his pants off(belt, suspenders, overalls) so maybe you can stop him before he does it.
His reply was "Because it was funny!" I found out later that other kids were encouraging him, but honestly he has done it so many times that I can't get upset at the other kids lol
 

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His reply was "Because it was funny!" I found out later that other kids were encouraging him, but honestly he has done it so many times that I can't get upset at the other kids lol
Yep, sounds to me like he needs a physical barrier between his impulse and his actions. Some people are natural born court jesters and they just cannot resist the roar of laughter from the crowd. Even one giggle gets them going. I think you should try the prevention route. It'll be a lot easier than explaining why it's not funny, especially if someone out there thinks it is.
 

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I agree with the physical barrier thing as well... If it's harder for him to do it, at least maybe you can catch it before it does actually occur....

Hahah... However, this will be one of those stories you look back at when he's getting grown and bringing ladies home and you can embarrass him with. :) It's funny to look back on it, but not so much when it's in the present. :)
 

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Oh dear. You're just lucky that his father doesn't encourage him- DH takes our toilet training a bit too far I think and has 2 year old DD running around outside without anything on her bottom half the time. Just around the house, but still, if she were to drop trou in front of 100 people he'd probably cheer her on.
 

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My dd went through a peeing in public stage that culminated in her grand finale when she stripped down and pooped in my boss's yard when she was three and a half just out of the blue. Her grandparents laughed about her peeing in the yard like the puppies one time and it became a habit for quite a while. Luckily my boss had a son who was a little older and had been through his embarrassing stage already. I wanted to die right then and there but now I laugh about it.

My dd also wants to be a comedian and she sometimes takes things too far. It is hard to find a fine balance between encouraging a creative and wonderful gift to amuse and discouraging understandable but completely unacceptable behavior. If this is something you don't want him doing anymore I suggest switching from explanations to a firm rule about where nudity is acceptable and where it is not. If he can't follow that rule then take him home to where he can be as nude as he wants to be without getting any attention one way or the other for it. I have found that when I explain things to my dd she often decides that it is a choice still and she decides to go for the cheap laugh. When it is a behavior I absolutely don't want to see again (like pooping outside) I have to approach it with seriousness. I have had the best success with briefly and firmly saying the rule, giving the reason for the rule, then repeating the rule.
 

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Thanks for that One_girl! That sounds like the exact situation I'm in. It's so hard with a funny/creative kid... but what you said makes sense.
 
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