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This is more of a rant, I know it shouldn't bother me, but I am sick of hearing what a big boy ds2 is! He is about 14lbs at 12wks, he is long and lean and not chubby at all.<br>
Today I was wearing him in my wrap at the grocery store and I lost count of how many big boy comments I got. Does it just come from not knowing what to say to a stranger about their baby? I ended up getting a bit grumpy by the time we were done snarling yes he is big that is not a bad thing!<br><br>
One woman thought he was a girl and that didn't bug me all.<br><br>
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LOL I get the same comments. DS is 4 mo old on the 18th and last week he was 16lbs+. I don't think people know what to say? My son is also really long, so yeah, he is a big boy. It tends to be along the same lines of people that would look at me when I was pg and say "wow, do you think you're going to make it to your due date?" Sigh, people can just be tactless sometimes. I know he is big and that is just how he is growing, who cares?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is more of a rant, I know it shouldn't bother me, but I am sick of hearing what a big boy ds2 is! He is about 14lbs at 12wks, he is long and lean and not chubby at all.<br>
Today I was wearing him in my wrap at the grocery store and I lost count of how many big boy comments I got. <b>Does it just come from not knowing what to say to a stranger about their baby?</b> I ended up getting a bit grumpy by the time we were done snarling yes he is big that is not a bad thing!<br><br><b>One woman thought he was a girl and that didn't bug me all</b>.<br><br>
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<span>Yeah i think it does come from not knowing what to say although i would never say it someone i didn't know i have however said to a friend about her little girl, but to me she was big because at 10 mths old she was bigger than my at the time 2yo dd. but you are right being big is deffenately not a bad thing all babies come in different shapes and sizes some like mine are small and chubby while other like my half sister long and slim.<br><br>
that bugs me no end people thinking my little boy is a girl i often get comments about what a cute little girl he is even though he is quite clearly a boy, also had the same with ds cameron and with chloe and caitlin people would always think they were boys even though they were wearing pink dresses.</span>
 

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I think it mostly IS that people want to interact because everyone loves babies and that's the first thing they can think of saying. Mine were all big like that too. I just laughed and told people I was even bigger when I was a baby. I'm on the short side and I'm pretty average weight so that made it even funnier.
 

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I don't know my boys are big. Especially my first ds, he was round and chunky with curls and big eyes. People always commented on how cute "she" was. I just usually interjected a "yes HE is". I always got comments on how big he was, but I just generally took it as a compliment to how well he was growing on his mamas milk!!
 

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I do try to laugh and say, yes I guess I don`t have to worry about my milk supply! Today was just overwhelming with all the comments.
 

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I get the same comments, and right now DS is just about avg wt (17.5 lbs at 6 mos). It bugs me just the same though!
 

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My DS was over 19 Ibs at his 5 mo WBV, I get this <b>ALL</b> the time!
 

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My son has been in the 90-95th percentile for his weight and height (or greater) since 4 weeks of age. Anytime i've gotten that comment it was because he really did look big for his age! Plus, they were always said as a compliment directed to either me and/or my son. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Eat"> I wouldn't doubt that you both were receiving a compliment, given that he's lean.
 

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Yes, that used to irritate me, too. My babe was 30lb at ten months - perfectly healthy and now at 3yr is avg. height and weight. No advice really, just sympathy. But as long as they are sweet to your babe, who really cares what they say? There are a lot of baby-philes out there and they just want an excuse to interact with a baby.
 

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i think it's just people trying to make small talk. even i get it sometimes, and my son is 18lbs at 14+ months. i smile, nod, and say thanks.
 

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I received and given this comment and I take it as a compliment for my baby. Why do you think they meant it was bad to be big? Did they say it is a mean way? I think people will just jump on to the most obvious thing whether it be a full head of hair, very alert features, or a big baby. i know you just wanted to vent and if it annoys you it annoys you but I'm sure those people just wanted to be nice and interact with a new mum. (OK I'm not actually sure but I tend to be a bit of a Pollyanna). Hope you feel better now.
 

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I get the same comments but it doesn't bother me at all. To me they are just stating a fact while admiring him - he *is* big. So, although I totally understand what it's like to get bugged by something like that, I don't think people mean it in a bad way. And honestly, most people are in their own world, just making small talk and saying what comes into their head, they aren't really thinking that hard about how you might feel about it...they don't mean it personally.
 

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I think everyone has a comment that gets to them. My son was 14 pounds at one month old. Now that's pretty big, LOL. I like the "he's big!" comments. I don't really love the, "Wow, you have your hands full!" comment because I have two that aren't too far apart. I don't know why I don't love that comment...weird...
 

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that's funny. all the babies i know are huge. at least it seems that way. my babe is "tiny" (so "they" say). he was 13 pounds at 6 months. i get that all the time. but i just shrug, what can i do? he nurses and eats and sleeps and poops. what can you do about how big they get??
 

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Hehe, I get tons of comments in the other direction. Yes, I'm aware that my baby girl is small (for the record 6 lbs at birth is not ridiculously small, thank you very much! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> ). No, she's not a preemie, no she's not underfed or having eating problems. I just grow 'em small! I was her size at birth and topped out at my full height of five-foot-nothin' at 13. It is what it is! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I get that all the time, too. It always fills me with pride to hear it - I know my milk (and, okay genes) grows my babies up healthy and strong! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is more of a rant, I know it shouldn't bother me, but I am sick of hearing what a big boy ds2 is! He is about 14lbs at 12wks, he is long and lean and not chubby at all.</div>
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my little guy was exactly the same - 14lbs at 12 weeks. and, i do think he is a big boy. when we run in to people with babies at the grocery store, he's the same size as the 8 month olds. so, either they are tiny or he's big - or both are true. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
but, it does help to have DH with me. he's 6'4 and 260-ish pounds so i just say, yes, just like his dad.
 

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I've gotten lots of these remarks, too. Ds2 was 18.5 pounds at 2 months, and 25 pounds at 6 months. How could I argue with, "Wow, he's big!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I figure most people are just making conversation. It's not like they can compliment his poetry or how well he ties his shoes, yk? I suppose they could remark on his babbling... If I get a vibe that they're feeling at all judgy about his size, I just make sure to be very outwardly confident and say something like, "Yep, he's meant to be a big guy." I've never had anybody take it any further. I figure at least meeting my Chubba might make these judgy people less likely to be critical of smaller big babies they meet in the future. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
(Oh, and I love when people ask what I'm feeding him. I feel like he's a walking commercial for breast milk. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> That's not to suggest at all that smaller babies aren't showing how great breast milk is, just that there are a lot of people out there with the idea that breastfeeding can't produce/support big babies. You know, the whole "My sister had a 9 pound baby, and the doctor told her she needed to give him formula because she wouldn't be able to make enough milk." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">)
 

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my ds is actually on the small side, and I still get these comments. Esp from older people in my family who mean it as a compliment-- after all, his first priority is growing at this age!
 
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