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God, I am sorry DD is an attached baby. I am sorry we co-sleep. I am sorry I got pregnant before we were married. Yes, we are partaking in a beautiful traditional wedding ceremony at a lovely country inn. We have an entire garden cottage to ourselves. We will probably get naughty at some point. But heres a reality check: We have had sex before. Lots of times. Just because it is our wedding night doesn't make it "special." Would it be wonderful to have the night to ourselves sans baby? Sure! That isn't the case though. I am not going to compromise my little one's comfort just so we can have a text-book "romantic" wedding night according to everyone else's standards. JUST BECAUSE IT IS MY WEDDING NIGHT DOES NOT ALLOW ME TO TAKE A DAY OFF FROM BEING A MOTHER.<br><br>
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By the way, congratulations on your wedding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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cool<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I know, what is the deal with some people?<br><br>
Also, just because you "co-sleep" does not always mean you share the same bed ALL NIGHT. Or, that everything happens IN THE BED.
 

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Don't you feel bad for those people that only have sex in bed?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Congrats on your wedding!
 

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My dd was 3mths old on our wedding night. We did not even get intimate that night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Good for you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I coslept on my wedding night too! All through the honeymoon as well. There are tons of other places to do it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> the same old scenery can get so boring. Congrats on your marriage.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> You rock!<br><br>
Congrats on your wedding!
 

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The best kept dirty little secret ever? Most people are too exhausted on the day of their wedding to consumate. Almost every one of my married friends consumated the next day.
 

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CONGRATS ON YOUR WEDDING!~<br><br>
Dh and I got married in our back 40 a year after we had a baby and bought a house! LOL.<br><br>
We also co slept that night, and I don't believe we had sex. I mean... My dad and mom were here with both my younger sisters.<br><br>
Funny enough, no one said BOO to us.
 

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Don't worry about it. I was passed out on antihistamines on my wedding night (after 24 hours of travel, including 20 in flight, my sinuses were going haywire), while my husband was downstairs having a brandy with the owner of the B&B.
 

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Who is asking about your sleeping arrangements on your wedding night? How nosy and strange!<br>
As long as you and your new spouse are fine with it then it is no one else's business. If your spouse isn't fine with co-sleeping for the wedding night then I can see trying to make some kind of compromise.<br>
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Eh, wedding nights are overrated anyway. Too much pressure. DH went to work on ours and I went to work the next morning.<br><br>
Congrats on your wedding!
 

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Having sex the night you get married sort of harks back to virginity before marriage, doesn't it? There is nothing otherwise magical about it. And if you have a kid, they know you've had sex. What is with people?
 

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I'm not knocking you; it's your wedding night, but this made me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm not technically legally married to dh yet and alot of the reason we are waiting is because I do want my wedding night to be a special thing. I'm really looking forward to a lovely honeymoon without the kids and if I have to wait 5 years to get it, it'll be so worth it to me. I don't have a problem with how you or anyone else chooses to spend their wedding night though.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The best kept dirty little secret ever? Most people are too exhausted on the day of their wedding to consumate. Almost every one of my married friends consumated the next day.</div>
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Yep, we did it that night but only because it seemed like what we were supposed to do. The next day (and days) was much better.
 
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