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We moved into our home about 9 months ago. We bought an older home in an older neighborhood. It was a MESS when we got it. We completely renovated it. Our neighbors to one side are nice, they keep their yard as neat as a pin. In fact they own a lawn business and my DH hired them to keep our yard as neat as a pin too. We have this great HUGE backyard with these huge old trees and a hill. We put in a swingset and a garden.<br><br>
But, there is one big ANNOYING problem. Our neighbor to the other side is a middle age bachelor and is rather eccentric. He has cameras and motion sensor alarms all the way around the perimeter of his house. We share a common chain link fence all the way down the property line. His backyard grass is about three to four feet high. There are huge vines and bushes growing through the fence and into our backyard. Most of these vines are Poison Ivy and Poison Oak! I have already had poison Ivy twice this spring from accidentally getting into it while playing out back with the kids.<br><br>
We can trim all of this on our side but it is growing in from his side. So it is hard to get rid of the problem IYKWIM. Plus his backyard is so sheltered that it has become a breeding ground for Asian Tiger Mosquitos and we get attacked any time we go out. Youcan literally see them lifting off out of his grass to come and get us!<br><br>
I spoke with him about it and he told me he likes his yard that way and wants it so overgrown because then nobody can see in? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
WWYD?
 

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most cities have laws concerning how high grass can get.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">most cities have laws concerning how high grass can get.</div>
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Call code enforcement and Vector control.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">most cities have laws concerning how high grass can get.</div>
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I totally agree. I'm sorry you are going through this.
 

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See that is what I don't understand......When we were renovating the house and living elsewhere if the grass got even a little too high we got nasty letters from the city and threats of citations etc.<br><br>
How come he doesn't get in trouble too? His yard has been like this forever..the whole year we were renovating and now the 9 months we have lived here.<br><br>
ETA: My DH has called the city a couple of times.
 

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I think there probably are laws, definitely research it. However, I would proceed carefully, he was there first it sounds like, you knew the state of his lawn presumably when you bought, so I think you might need to be a bit sensitive to his special needs - he sounds a bit paranoid, and he probably really feels like he needs this. However, the situation does sound pretty bad for you guys, I hope you find a solution. The mosquito thing would make me nuts.
 

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I think we might just build a privacy fency along that side of the yard <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yep, call the city.
 

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I would write a letter, rather than making a phone call. Phone messages are easily "lost" or not written down at all. A typed or hand-written letter from a concerned party would likely receive more attention.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Plus his backyard is so sheltered that it has become a breeding ground for <b>Asian Tiger Mosquitoes</b> and we get attacked any time we go out. You can literally see them lifting off out of his grass to come and get us!</div>
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Those sound scary enough that I am afraid to Google them. I hope you can get the issue resolved.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think we might just build a privacy fency along that side of the yard <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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sorry about your neighbor problems. i think this is a great solution and might even ease his paranoia. you can't see him through a 'privacy' fence, can ya? i've known several people who have anxiety problems, and getting through the day can be quite difficult for them. unless he's paranoid due to illegal activities (which, you probably have no way of knowing), it might be good to cut him some slack. i guarantee he's feeling tortured as it is. hopefully, should an intruder come along (hope it never happens), all his fancy 'anti-intruder' gear will keep them away from your home as well.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> hope things get better for you.
 

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What's a privacy fence? Like a block, brick or wood fence? I'd build something that his plants couldn't penetrate, for sure. And write a letter to the city.<br><br>
That would be such an infuriating situation. I'm sorry you're going through that.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think we might just build a privacy fency along that side of the yard <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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That was my first thought<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . We are also growing trees so we don't have to see underwear man water his grass.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">What's a privacy fence? Like a block, brick or wood fence? I'd build something that his plants couldn't penetrate, for sure. And write a letter to the city.</div>
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Privacy fencing is 6ft tall and you can't see through it. Brick would be sooooo expensive for that property, but a wood fence would have to be lined with something.
 

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Depending on where you live, there will be a city code enforcement place to complain to about the grass and mosquitos. With all the West Nile scare recently, they should be/are taking complaints of mosquitos very seriously.<br><br>
As for his cameras and motion sensors, the paranoia could be warranted. I say this because if he has a lot of traffic coming in and out he could be selling drugs. I am far from proud of my early years but all the dealers I visited in my youth had a simular set up. I recommend calling the police department and speaking to the Watch commander about the situation. He can probably refer you to the neighborhood relations person for your district. They help to facilitate removal of these types of houses in your area.<br><br>
Here is my story:<br><br>
We had a situation not long ago where someone did a drive by shooting on my blook (literally right in front of my house). It happened at 1130pm (just after DH and I went to bed) and my MIL say the shooters and the get away car. A couple of cars on my street had bullet holes in them afterwards. It was so scary. We live in a nice area of a not so nice part of town. It is mostly quiet so we don't have stuff like this happen on our street.<br><br>
I spoke with the police and explained there were a few "questionable" houses on our block that were magnets for this sort of behaviour. I am talking really nice neighbors (that happen to be gang members) but they are so clearly selling drugs from their house. I wanted them GONE! I refuse to be one of those mothers crying on the news because my baby was shot while sleeping by a stray bullet. The community relations dept was really helpful in rremoving some junky cars from my block, making sure another neighbor picked up her 2 great dane's crap from her front yard (instead of leaving it for weeks to pile up and stink up the whole block), and ensuring everyone was watering their lawns (property values can decline if people aren't maintaining their properties).<br><br>
We still have the questionable houses on the block but with my help (anonymously) they should be gone soon.
 

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I really don't think he is a drug dealer. I think he is just an eccentric paranoid man. He is the only person who is ever there. His truck is the only vehicle that is ever at his home. I haven't ever even seen a visitor there. He also has a huge locked mailbox.<br><br>
Also we live in such a quiet neighborhood. Mostly elderly people and middle aged couples. I honestly think we are the only couple younger than 50's that live on the block. We also are the only ones with kids.<br><br>
I hate to give him a hard time because he is very nice. However, his yard and the poison ivy and the mosquitos are driving me quite batty. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Do you think the mosquitoes are actually breeding in his yard? Maybe you could 'gift' him with some mosquito dunks to put wherever the larvae are - they're supposed to be nontoxic. And I 2nd the fence!
 

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YUP.... They will cite him and give him X amount of days to cut the grass IF he doesnt they will come do it for him AND charge him.<br>
Call your city hall.
 

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He is probably breaking some health and safety regulations as he has standing water around offering the mosquitoes a breeding ground. There is a huge fuss about those ones as they are very hard to kill and can carry so many dseases. I am allergic to their bites and swell up like a balloon.
 
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