Yikes, just yikes

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~Nikki~

Discussion Starter · Apr 5, 2006

I'm a part of a popular mainstream message board, mainly to keep in touch with friends that I made during my pregnancy with my first child. Sometimes, a topic will spring up that I completely avoid, because I know it will upset me.

Today's big topic was something about dealing with the terrible twos. I clicked on it, hoping that I could give the woman advice, but it looked like another woman had already given her a few ideas of her own.

Among a few of them were:

-spank/timeout/or "worse"
-biting the child
-regularly using a wooden spoon, and using it as a threat

It really shouldn't suprise me that it's coming from this person, because just last week, she posted a question about when breastfed babies start on solids. She was just curious, and had no idea because she didn't "have to" breastfeed, as she could afford formula just fine.

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So sad.

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Jade2561

· #2 · Apr 5, 2006

Wow - just wow. I am just wondering what or "worse means"...worse than a spanking? A beating? until their bruises? What is she implying?

I think that is horrible advice and I hope the mama relizes that it's not right. I feel horrible for that two year old. May I ask, what exactly was the behavior problem?

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~Nikki~

Discussion Starter · #3 · Apr 6, 2006

She had mentioned that while her child rarely hits or acts out, this is how she retaliates when he does. The advice was being given to another woman, who's child has really been "testing her limits" lately, the way a 2 or 3 year old usually does.

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Drummer's Wife

· #4 · Apr 6, 2006

yeah what could be worse than spanking or time outs? I try to avoid behavoir discussions on mainstream boards because many parents are not open to other ways of disciplining their children. To me discipline=guidance and to them it usually equals punishment.

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umsami

· #5 · Apr 6, 2006

I think you need to speak out... just put out there that there are GD alternatives that work! Post some GD books... heck, put a link to this forum! 99% of the Moms may ignore it (although I doubt it), but if one Mom changes her behavior... think of the difference that can make in her children's lives (and their children... and possibly her friends' children's lives...etc.)

You know what can be eye opening?? Ask how the MOm would feel if a babysitter hit her child... or threatened her child (be it with a spoon or just with words). You'd never let the kid babysit again, right? Well... then why is it OK for you to do that?

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solstar

· #6 · Apr 6, 2006

biting the child!

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LoveBeads

· #7 · Apr 7, 2006

Quote:

Originally Posted by umsami
You know what can be eye opening?? Ask how the MOm would feel if a babysitter hit her child... or threatened her child (be it with a spoon or just with words). You'd never let the kid babysit again, right? Well... then why is it OK for you to do that?

She'd probably answer that she is "spanking with love" and strangers won't do that.

Where's the throwing up smiley? I really need it.

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