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My daughter is 16 months old and I am curious what some of you are doing (or have done) on the following matters:<br><br>
1. Disciplining (at 16 months) - What...or how, do you go about this (if at all)? On one hand, I see her pushing the boundaries sometimes (ie: throwing food on floor just after you've told her 'no', or grabbing at you when she doesn't get her way, etc., I've even seen the arched back tantrum lateley). Maybe it's worth noting that generally speaking, she really is an easy, happy baby - it's not as though she needs lots of disciplining, but I'm curious if I should nip some of these behaviors in the bud or if there is no point as she's too young? Is there more I could do than simply saying 'no' which is usually met with a giggle and smile, (ie: time out?)? I feel like we're a bit in between - she knows she's testing the limits at times, yet I'm not sure she would understand a time out.<br><br>
2. Potty training - again, she's only 16 months, but she's been announcing to us before she goes 'poo poo' or 'pee pee' for about a week or two - does this mean it's time to start potty training? I once tried putting her on the baby toilet, which was a huge mess (literally and figuratively!) and haven't tried it again so as not to traumatize her from ever using the potty. Now I just thank her for telling me and get ready to change a diaper in the coming 5 minutes. If it is time to start potty training - how on earth does one begin?<br><br>
Thanks in advance for any advice given!<br><br>
Kelley
 

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I think disciplining at that age is mostly still prevention and redirection and beginning boundary-setting. At that age my DD was into food throwing. My strategy was to limit the amount of food I gave her at a time and have a towel under the high chair to limit my clean up. I'd also remind of the rule "food stays on the plate" (fewer words is better). I tried to avoid a lot of "No." Throwing food is a normal stage and I didn't want to turn it into a battle ground. She just stopped doing it when she grew out of it.<br><br>
No is not all that effective, especially as she will test more and more. You start saying it constantly and it loses its meaning. It's more helpful to tell her what to do. I've also generally tried to keep correction/rule reminding in a matter-of-fact tone. If you are saying "No" in a stern/serious voice, it can be interesting to her and result in her doing it for the reaction.<br><br>
I don't do time out. I know others have another opinion on this, but I just don't see it working on kids that age especially (I don't do it at all, DD is 3). I don't think punishment (especially arbitrary, sit in this spot for x mins) is that helpful in teaching her.
 

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re: potty training, there are many methods. Many say not to start until they are older. There is a book called Diaper Free Before Three that advocates very early potty learning.<br>
I think with the discipline issue at that age you are mostly redirecting, distracting, that kind of thing. Throwing food is normal for that age. It will stop. Do you have a dog? They are great for cleaning up after a toddler who throw food. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br>
Time out likely won't be effective at that age. And for some kids, it is never effective. Gotta run, the 3 year old is climbing on me. Guess I better get off the computer.
 

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I don't think there's much discipline you can do at that age. If she throws her food, just tell her what logical conclusion that makes you come to is and follow thorugh. "When you throw your food that tells me your done." and then put her on the floor. Don't put her food away yet though. If she's actually done she'll go off and play. If she'd not, she'll probably react. So just tell her that you don't like her throwing her food and give her another chance.<br><br>
As for potty training. Don't miss this window. Try to catch her dry after a period of 30 to 45 minutes and put her on the potty then. Find a couple songs you can sing to keep her attention and wait for her to pee on the potty.
 

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Our daughter does understand "no" and will usually stop doing something if you tell her no. We also make sure to tell her what she can do instead, or why she cannot do said thing, which is very important. Like, if she were grabbing at me and I didn't like it, I would hold her hands and tell her it was not nice to grab me b/c it hurts and I do not like it. Then I would say to use "nice touches" which we taught her when she was younger (mostly b/c we have cats). If you say "Be nice" or "Nice touches" she will stroke you gently and say, "Nice." We tell her it is nice and that we like it. We do not do time-outs, so for us at this age, it is a lot of repetition and understanding that she does not know as much as us and she does not have a lot of impulse control. For throwing food, I agree w/ JL83. We have also said, "Food goes in your mouth, not on the floor." Your daughter is absolutely not too young for you to show her correct ways to behave. I do not mean punishing or demanding, but teaching her by explaining and demonstrating. Take her hand and have her pet you saying, "Nice touches," things like that. She will not know that pinching you hurts you unless you tell her so.<br><br>
As for potty training, YES, run with it! We practice elimination communication w/ our dd and she has been going on the potty since she was a wee baby. There is a v active EC board here where you can get tons of advice on early pottying.
 
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