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I'm trying to compile a list of fabulous tips for wrangling children to put on my blog. This actually applies to all children, but that wasn't an option for posting so I came to toddlers (I have a toddler, and I am going to hope and pray that they are the hardest to wrangle or I'm in trouble!)<br><br>
Here's my tip:<br><br>
When you go to the grocery store, park next to the cart return. I can easily get my toddler in and out of the cart without abandoning him in the car while I return my cart or just not return it at all. (He's a runner and he must be contained in a cart or I would be a wreck- I can't wear him because I'm wearing the baby!)<br><br>
What are yours?
 

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Oh come on!! I know some of you have little things you know about that you couldn't live without! Spill it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Always give a choice as opposed to asking open-ended questions. Such as "Do you want to wear the blue shirt or the red shirt?" instead of "What shirt would you like to wear?"
 

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Whenever I have to leave somewhere with DS (like the park or somewhere else fun), I always say, "Let's go see if we can find a fire truck (or a bus)..." and I'm not lying because we live in a city, so we will definitely see a bus and sometimes even a fire truck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> DS is obsessed with the moon, so if we are at a friend's house and it's getting dark when we have to leave, I'll say, "Let's go chase the moon with our car!" and DS loves it. HTH <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><span style="font-size:small;">P.S. You may not get a lot of responses because, well, there really may not be that many fabulous tips for wrangling a toddler!</span>
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Isn't that the truth?!!! I know there has to be some though! I have an 8month old also, and bedtime is a huge deal for me. If for any reason dh isn't around to help, it's a disaster. If anyone with my situation has any tips, man alive I'd pay to hear them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Prevention!<br><br>
That's been my motto lately and it's working relatively well. I spend a lot of time trying to think as a toddler though...
 

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This may not be the greatest tip, but for my DD I always have to give her an option, even if no option exists. I.e., you can come to town with mommy or you can stay here with the dog. She gets to make a choice even if it's not really a choice.<br><br>
She's really headstrong and I have been using this for a looonngg time, it's the only way I can get her to go with me. Otherwise she's off doing her own little thing and not staying on task.
 

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What if she says she wants to stay home with the dog? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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She never does. She wants to go to town usually.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This may not be the greatest tip, but for my DD I always have to give her an option, even if no option exists. I.e., you can come to town with mommy or you can stay here with the dog. She gets to make a choice even if it's not really a choice.<br><br>
She's really headstrong and I have been using this for a looonngg time, it's the only way I can get her to go with me. Otherwise she's off doing her own little thing and not staying on task.</div>
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I do this too sometimes but I should really stop soon or he'll call my bluff <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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If I must GO NOW and do not have ability to talk it out and wait, (or, perhaps, after half an hour of trying different non-coercive things, I am just DONE), I lift, flip, and tickle. And then take him, upside down, to wherever I must go (car, into the store, out of the store, etc), then right-side him and have him walk/get into cart/carseat/etc. He tends to be quite happy about this and forgives me for removing him from the drink/car/train/cat/shopping cart/boogers/....<br><br>
However, this does not work if, say, you are trying to leave the house and said toddler refuses to put on pants or, often, even undies. I can't blame him, though, clothes suck.
 

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I have been wrestling my 14 month old DS through diaper changes for about 2 months now. I found that I could distract him with a "forbidden" toy long enough to change his diaper before he did the flip. After running out of relatively safe forbidden toys in the general area of the changing table I was at a loss! So I made a little basket of random things that he otherwise wouldn't play with and put it next to the table. In the basket I have: a hot pink elastic hair band, one of his old baby shoes that doesn't fit, some blocks, the cover to his thermometer, and his absolute favorite - a box of sterile pads. Once we are done diapering I usually say something about leaving the "toy" there for next time and I usually don't get too much of an argument. If I notice something throughout the day that is not really a toy but he has become attached to I put it in the box for next time. Works like a charm!
 

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Well not always..my Dd never cared about such choices but my son thrives on them. I have to give him a choice for everything then he says, "ok mommy this is my deal...." He is Monty Hall reincarnated.<br><br>
anyway..my toddler tip for leaving the park, "Let's have a parade" then pretend to play instruments and march.<br>
For getting dressed ask the toddler what animal they are today and then if they say dog say, "ok let's put on your fur..oh and your paw covers (socks shoes) "
 

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Oh I'm getting exhausted just reading all these posts.<br><br>
I never imagined toddlers would be sooooo hard.
 

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Bath's aren't just for bathing. A nice bath is a great way to soothe a frustrated toddler or entertain a bored one.<br><br>
Flour and beans are a tots best friend. A layer of flour in the bottom of a pan along with some small cars/trains/wood animals can entertain one toddler for hours. Three bowls of different sizes, some spoons or scoops and some dried beans will give you enough time to clean the kitchen, cook supper, clean up after cooking and then some.
 

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Pick your battles wisely and let the little things go <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You're all so creative!<br>
I love it!
 

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When they don't want to brush their teeth, pretend there is a green polka-dotted elephant in their mouth that you MUST find. ~I got this idea from another mdc mama and it has worked WONDERS~
 

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Under the heading of prevention:<br><br>
Be very careful what behavior you model! If you do not want your toddler to, say, kick the cat, don't even touch the cat with your feet, EVER, in front of your toddler.<br><br>
Under the heading of prevention:<br><br>
Don't lie to your toddler. If you offer a reward or distraction, make sure you follow through with that reward or distraction. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (My DH is guilty of doing this...so far it still works but I keep reminding him not to lie to the child.) And of course lying is also another behavior you do not want to model!
 
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