A few months ago, dd (4) told me a little girl in her swim class (there are only ever 2 or 3 of them in there) told her her hair is stupid. We are Af-American, and dd wears her hair in cornrows, sometimes with beads. I have told her that the little girl shouldn't have said that, and that sometimes people say mean things about things they are not used to seeing or don't understand. That seems to satisfy her, but she keeps bringing this up every few days, particularly after the Saturday swim class. So now, in addition to having the word "stupid" being introduced into dd's vocabulary and used all the time<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">, I have to constantly reassure her that there is nothing wrong with her hair. This wouldn't bother me so much if dd didn't keep bringing it up. Is repeating the same thing over and over again (that the girl was rude, dd's hair is beautiful, etc.) good enough or is there something else I should be doing or saying to dd? We are very much a minority where we live, and I worry about dd's self-esteem being impacted by such experiences.