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Hi all. I'm a lurker, but don't often post.<br><br>
I had my toddler in daycare part time until a month ago. I'll be doing a baby care share with another mom shortly. In the meantime, I'm enjoying my time with ds, but it has also made me conscious of how little I've thought about his daily routine (because I didn't really have to have one before). I was wondering what other people did. I'm trying to find more ways to incorporate structured activities in his day, while at the same time making sure he gets tired enough to want naps and nighttime sleep. His sleep schedule used to be very routine, but lately it's been somewhat erratic.<br><br>
Here's my day. I usually give him breakfast, and get him ready to go out (which can take a while as he loves to nurse and nurse all morning), take him out to the park or some other destination, e.g. zoo or playdate. I give him a snack there, and then it's home for lunch and then nap, or nap and then lunch. And in the afternoon, I'll run errands, a snack, and then do some sort of afternoon activity, usually play dough, with him before and while I'm preparing dinner. After dinner, ds runs around outside again with daddy, and myself after I'm done with the dishes. And then it's a little t.v. if there's a baseball game on, and then his nighttime ritual.<br><br>
I feel like I should be doing more educational stuff with him, like puzzles and a bunch of montessori stuff that I'm always meaning to get to. But at his age (22 months), he really doesn't have a lot of focus. He likes to do sports and run around. But I want to cut out errands in the afternoon so that I can have complete one on one time with him for stuff like books, puzzles, and stuff like that. He gets plenty of books at night, but thought I should do more of that during the day.<br><br>
So what do you do?
 

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Your day sounds like fun to me! I think more important than what you do is how you do it -- having your toddler watch you, hear about what you are doing, and share in activities. I think you can make any activity into a rich learning experience -- just by talking out loud about what you are doing (be it grocery shopping or finger painting) and inviting your child to participate (by washing vegetables, carrying the errand list, handing the checkout person money, etc.) At this age, I think lots of book (and even music) sharing experiences and a language rich environment are more important than having the "right" educational toys. I let DS play with stuff in the cabinets, experiment with sand, soap, and water, play with uncooked beans and rice, help me prepare meals, feel fabrics, paints, & clays. One of his favorite activities is emptying cotton swabs out of the package and carrying them all over the house -- sticking them in little containers & crevices, throwing them down the stairs, etc. He'll spend more time playing with things like that than with his actual toys.
 

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My toddler's day:<br><br>
Wake up and nurse, get off bed and pull out clothes from dresser, throw clothes into bath tub and turn on water, get more clothes, throw socks into toilet, wait for mom to take off diaper and run away fast while naked, pee on floor, splash in pee puddle, diaper wrestle with mom, try to escape outside with dog, run to cabinet and throw tupperware all over kitchen, check out what's in the garbage can, find misc object to put in garbage can, eat breakfast and throw some on the floor and at my brother, face cleaning wrestle with mom, shake water on floor from sippy cup, run in circles with brother, whack dog on head with sippy cup, find paper and practice fine motor skills by ripping paper, find remote and throw it in the garbage, watch mom pee while trying to reach into toilet, climb on table and throw salt shaker, eat lunch, nurse, nap, nurse, go outside and eat sand, pick petals off mom's flowers, stand in dog's full water dish, drink from dog's water dish, eat worm compost, throw mud, climb up birdbath, nurse, pay chase around mom's legs while she makes dinner, eat dinner, run naked again while bath tub is filling, take bath, diaper wrestle, read book, nurse, sleep, nurse, nurse, nurse, sleep, nurse, sleep.<br><br><br>
Whew!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">: Kleine Hexe Thats tooooooo funny, I swear I am laughing so hard right now, I can totally relate to most of that!!
 

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Wake up and nurse, sit on the potty, get dressed, have breakfast, nurse some more, brush teeth, play (home, park, playgroup, backyard...), nurse some more, nap, lunch, play some more, have some more milk, hang out in kitchen while mom makes dinner, eat dinner, go out for a walk (DS helps push stroller for a few blocks then gets in for a ride), get ready for bed, read some books, brush teeth, say goodnight to everything, nurse to sleep.<br>
That's about it in a nutshell!
 

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Gigi likes routine and most days go smoothly. She gets up between 6:30-7 a.m., onto the toilet, dressed, then has breakfast. Then depending on the day of the week, I either take her to a small home daycare while I go to work (2 days) or my mom comes over to my house or I take her to my mom's (1 day), or we go to a drop in play park, playground, play date, library or just the backyard. Snack at 10, more play until noon, then lunch and 2-3 hour nap. Back on the toilet, snacktime then play or help around the house until dinner. Lately we play a Kipper episode during dinner prep though she sometimes helps with breakfast and lunch. After dinner usually quiet play with books or puzzles until bath and bedtime at 8. Weekends are more flexible as we might go to the zoo, shopping or to visit family. Then she will nap in the car, but if we do too many days of car naps she gets really cranky.<br><br>
Because Gigi has different daytime routines with each caregiver, we talk about the next day at bedtime and in the morning so she knows what she'll be doing that day. She is starting to anticipate future events and get very excited when the plans include something she really likes to do.
 

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I figure my dd has her whole adult life and most of her childhood to live on a schedule so we don't do one. We get up when we get up, usually anywhere from 7-9am, nurse, mom eats breakfast while dd watches a little tv or she plays with the dog, I either do some chores while she plays some more or we head out to an activity with friends or we run errands. We take am snack with us. Once a week, we go to co-op preschool. At least once a week, we have a late am playdate with one of my friends who have kids her age. We sometimes go to a park and/or lunch or the zoo or the science center. At least twice a week, we go to the combined doggy park/kiddie park (two separate playgrounds). Lately, we have been spending afternoons on the deck with the little pool filled up.<br><br>
Sometimes, we watch a little movie in the afternoon because mom needs a break and dd no longer naps. Then, we go out side to scoop poops (me) and play with doggy. We usually take a walk around the neighborhood each day before daddy comes home and then one of us cooks while the other plays blocks or reads books with dd. She loves to color with crayons or play with playdough while I do chores. It takes a long time to get chores done because I stop often to play with dd.<br><br>
Sometimes, we go outside and play ball right before dinner. After dinner, we often do a bath (not necessarily daily), read some books, and then fall asleep nursing while mom watches HGTV. Daddy has already gone to bed at this point.<br><br>
Sounds a little disorganized, I know, but I love every minute of it!
 

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Kleine Hexe, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><br><br>
You EXACTLY described our day and it really made me laugh. Is it wrong that I am happy not to be the only mother who has discovered her ds is actually 3/4 tasmanian devil? :LOL<br><br>
Not only that, but we recently found out that the adoption process for our second is going much, much faster than anticipated. So, instead of the 2 year age difference we had planned for, they will be more like 14 months apart. Hope the new baby doesn't mind having water dumped on her head. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
April - <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/knit.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="knit"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/flower.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="flower"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/sewmachine.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sew"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/cd.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Cd">: mama to the fabulous Kai <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> b.12/30/03 - a.9/2/04 Kazakhstan<br>
waiting for a referral for a baby girl from kaz<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">My toddler's day:<br><br>
Wake up and nurse, get off bed and pull out clothes from dresser, throw clothes into bath tub and turn on water, get more clothes, throw socks into toilet, wait for mom to take off diaper and run away fast while naked, pee on floor, splash in pee puddle, diaper wrestle with mom, try to escape outside with dog, run to cabinet and throw tupperware all over kitchen, check out what's in the garbage can, find misc object to put in garbage can, eat breakfast and throw some on the floor and at my brother, face cleaning wrestle with mom, shake water on floor from sippy cup, run in circles with brother, whack dog on head with sippy cup, find paper and practice fine motor skills by ripping paper, find remote and throw it in the garbage, watch mom pee while trying to reach into toilet, climb on table and throw salt shaker, eat lunch, nurse, nap, nurse, go outside and eat sand, pick petals off mom's flowers, stand in dog's full water dish, drink from dog's water dish, eat worm compost, throw mud, climb up birdbath, nurse, pay chase around mom's legs while she makes dinner, eat dinner, run naked again while bath tub is filling, take bath, diaper wrestle, read book, nurse, sleep, nurse, nurse, nurse, sleep, nurse, sleep.<br><br><br>
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this resembles our average day SOOOOOOO much (except for the sippy cup part, and my dd nurses more i think,) :LOL
 

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Here's my day with my 16 month old dd<br><br>
Wake up-<br>
sit on potty<br>
nurse<br>
breakfast<br>
dd harasses big brother<br>
reads a few books- or do a few lessons like flash cards etc<br>
helps do laundry<br>
sit on potty<br>
takes a nap (sometimes still 2 naps)<br>
plays with kitchen set while mommy makes lunch<br>
lunch<br>
nurse<br>
sit on potty<br>
2nd nap<br>
sit on potty<br>
plays with big brother<br>
takes a walk with mommy or daddy<br>
helps vacuum<br>
reads more books<br>
nurse<br>
sleep<br><br>
All over again.
 

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Hi, Laureen <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
We're trying to do Montessori at home with our 17 month old. Apart from meals and naps, she doesn't have a set schedule. Here's an approximate breakdown of her activities on an average day:<br><br>
(40%) Following me around the house. Whenever possible, I'll demonstrate "practical life" activities: how to wash her hands, wipe the table, water the plants, do simple food preparation, etc. She loves this, but it's very labor-intensive for me, so sometimes I'll just get on with my chores while she pulls stuff out of the cabinets, or plays with the clean laundry. (Not very "Montessori," but you gotta do what you gotta do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: )<br><br>
(20%) Playing alone in her playroom (when I'm doing a chore that's not child-friendly), or her bedroom (when she wakes up from a nap). She has some educational toys, but seems to prefer rearranging her dolls, loading and unloading stuff from her wagon, and other mysterious but important projects. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
(20%) One-on-one "playtime." We read several books, have a little sandbox time, and sometimes go to the park or a friend's house. That's about it. Oh, and a short session of crayons or playdough. In total, I wouldn't spend more than about 90 minutes a day on this sort of thing. IMO, "practical life" is more fun for them at this age.<br><br>
(20%) Errands. I'm trying to cut back on these. It doesn't seem fair to keep dragging her places where there's nothing for her to do.<br><br>
HTH!
 

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Wakes up at 6 AM<br>
diaper change, meds<br>
plays<br>
pulls dishtowels off oven door<br>
copies big sister (good things and bad)<br>
fed first time at 8 AM in highchair<br>
poops, diaper change<br>
plays<br>
throws socks out of drawers<br>
pulls dishtowels off oven door<br>
feed again at 11AM<br>
meds at 12 PM<br>
down for nap<br>
wakes up at 1-2 PM<br>
pulls dishtowels off oven door<br>
empties kitchen drawer of the rest of the dishtowels<br>
empties stuffed animal bin<br>
gets into big sister's United States map puzzle<br>
(takes us forever to find some of them)<br>
cries and has tantrums a few times<br>
fed again at 4PM<br>
scatters my folded laundry all over the place<br>
"helps" me sweep<br>
scatters dust pile around before I get to the dustpan<br>
pulls kitchen towels off oven door<br>
drinks from sippy cup<br>
gets fed avacado concoction at 6PM<br>
gets ready for bed at 6:30<br>
bed at 7PM<br>
up at 11PM<br>
1 AM<br>
3 AM<br>
up for good at 6AM
 

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OK, here is how we spend most of our days.<br><br>
5:30 -6:30 wake-up<br>
play in crib 'til 7am (he literally freaks if I don't leave him in there to play)<br>
have breakfast<br>
run around the house<br>
pull cats tail<br>
have a second breakfast with dad<br>
9am-12 playgroup/library hour/play date/playing at home. Outside if possible.<br>
snacks are in there somewhere<br>
Nap 11:30ish lasts anywhere from 1 1/2 to 3 hours<br>
lunch either before or after nap depending on exhaustion level<br>
playing outside<br>
walk for abouot an hour in stroller or backpack<br>
snack<br>
watch 1/2 hour of signing video or other tv if we (read. I) get bored<br>
5:30 I start making dinner while he runs in and out from the kitchen to the back porch<br>
more pulling of the cat's tail<br>
dinner with the family<br>
playing and reading with dh and me<br>
7pm bathtime with dh<br>
massage and books<br>
7:30 -8 bedtime<br><br>
This all depends on playdates or other stuff we ike to do.This morning, for instance, we are meeting some friends out for breakfast and then we'll all go to the playground. Yesterday, we had our nephew, who is the same age as our ds, wih us for the day.<br><br>
I like to have one "adventure" each day. That can be as simple as a trip to the library or having grandma come over. We have a lot of people with kids the same age in our area, which is amazing considering how rural we are. It helps since ds is so social.<br><br>
Cheers!<br>
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:LOL This is one of Kyle's favorite things to do as well. What is it about pulling the dishtowel off?
 

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Well, I don't know what you all are talking about. Here's what my 16-mo-old twins do, in just the morning:<br><br>
7:30 - Wake up<br>
7:32 - Change their diapers (aren't PullUps great!)<br>
7:35 - Make bfast (this week they're exploring Mediterranean cooking)<br>
8:15 - Make their cribs<br>
8:25 - Read the paper to Mommy (they take turns)<br>
9:00 - Critique Oprah's guests, snack<br>
9:15 - Practice piano<br>
10:00 - Clean whichever room is on the list (we rotate)<br>
11:00 - Nap<br><br>
BWAHAHAHA!!!<br><br>
I couldn't top Kleine Hexe, so had to go the other direction.<br><br>
Everything you do w/your kids is educational. Young children need lots & lots of tactile experiences.<br><br>
I like playing on the floor w/my kids. We wrestle, they push me over & climb on me, I tickle them, they do somersaults. We play with toys sometimes, we'll stack blocks or I'll help them sort shapes. Honestly, though, I think that "learning" at their age is different than what we remember in High School or College. As long as they're trying, experimenting, exploring, feeling, moving - they're learning.<br><br>
Like you, we try to get outside every day if possible, either to a park or just to run around in the grass. They're very physical, so I just go with it. Naps are much easier this way!<br><br>
My kids also enjoy "helping" me w/chores, like emptying the bottom rack of the dishwasher. They just love to hear me say "Thank you!" as they hand me a cup!
 

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goepark i have to say i used to live right their in woodbridge NJ!!! almost my whole life & i so miss it...<br><br>
Oh my youger days..... LMAO<br><br>
Anyhow good luck on your venture.. my days are so crazy i don';t think you would want to try any of my daily rountines!!!! :LOL
 

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We don't do schedules, we have very busy weeks but everything is always different. DD wakes up whenever she wants to, the same goes for falling asleep and taking a nap. I never go to bed the same time every night, so I figure why should she. Most things are a 20-30 minute drive away, we live in a rural area. We go somewhere most days, I am a LLL leader so dd comes to my meetings with me, dd has food allergies, and we go in for treatments once or twice a week. I have a good friend who lives a couple miles away, we get together a couple times a week while our dc play, we also have a garden together, sometimes the dc help. I just go about my day, I don't spend my time thinking up things for me to do with dd. She helps with all the household chores, moping, hanging up the laundry, cooking, and has helped since she could walk. I do at least one activity a week where it is all about dd, usually an entire am at a playground, and I try to stop by the playgrounds before her allergy treatments to make to trip a little more fun. Right now the nearest playground is 20 miles away so thats why we don't go all the time! In the winter time we do go to a storytime every week, that's the only scheduled activity we partake in, but the library stops it in the summer. DD has fun though, at this age, daily tasks are playing to them.
 

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I live rural as well which is wa different then where i grew up!!! Its a big change. Anyhow same here the pak is 20 min away, the stores are 20 & the mall is 45!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CRAZY!!!!!!<br>
It is hard to schedule anything when you live rural. Also i juat feel that no everything has to be schedules.<br><br>
A few things are the same daily in my house only these few...<br>
wake up about 6:30<br>
breakfast<br>
naptime around*** 12noon<br>
dinner around 5<br>
bath around 7<br>
bed by 8:30<br><br>
Thats about it!
 

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What great posts! I enjoyed hearing about your days. I especially liked hearing that people fly by the seat of their pants, which is what I do mostly as well. A lot of people said that their toddlers helped do chores, which is a very montessori thing to do! I think maybe I should do more chores with him. I guess I'm afraid he'll get bored, or it'll be really hard to do with him. But often, if he has a napkin in his hand, he'll actually get down on his hands and knees and start scrubbing the floor. And he does help me "cook" sometimes.<br><br>
kleine hexe - LOL. :LOL<br><br>
mary celeste - Hello to you too. I'm impressed that you're doing montessori so early. But ds also responded to it that young at his montessori daycare. I really think it helped him to be more responsible with certain things. Other times, all the little activitites just ends up on the floor and that's okay too.<br><br>
simply me - Hello from Woodbridge. There's some things I like about Woodbridge, somethings I don't. It's not a very AP place, but it's slowly coming around.<br><br>
Having said these things, I do think that ds had fun doing stuff that challenged him cognitively at his school. They asked him to match pictures or even shoes, and he had fun picking the "right" ones out. They also have pictures with the alphabets on them. The toddlers weren't able to recite them, but they got used to hearing them every morning. Now ds can selectively recite them, and can count to 5 and selectively count to 10. Not that that's the most important thing for me, but he is ready and wants to expand his language ability. And that's learning too, isn't it?
 

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My dd "helps" with chores but I would not call her activities helpful. IT is more like the likes to take things apart and move them around and play with them. However, I think it is good for her to get in the habit of it and she really enjoys it.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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