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I saw this on a blog and wondered how you all felt about how AP shown:<br><br>
It's the "BEING THERE" episodes...<br><a href="http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=attachment+parenting" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/results?searc...ment+parenting</a><br><br>
It kinda made me feel icky--although, I do believe in AP. Maybe because I'm not an extremist and do set limits with my DS?
 

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I felt like the story made AP sound very ridged and that all parent that AP their children must do all of these things. I also think that the point of the story was to make the AP parents seem weird so they edited it to fit how they wanted to story to be. Plus they should have had an "expert" from both sides not just the anti-AP guy. I also don't think they can fairly give a full view of AP in that short amount of time.
 

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Seriously, couldn't they have picked a more normal looking AP'er? Of course not, it's TV... well, the American lady looks pretty normal.<br><br>
The Australian lady gave the best answers to the interviewer's questions.<br><br>
The doctor says, "Talk to me in five years and I think that you'll see that these kids have social adjustment problems... You're being socially negligent." My 6 year old seems pretty well adjusted.<br><br>
You know though, the kids from first family (the British one) probably would annoy me. Them not listening when Dad said to get off of the table and then Dad counting and not doing anything. The five year old calling someone an idiot and not talking to her about it. They seem to be taking the no discipline approach.
 

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People seem to confuse AP (or GD) with permissive parenting.
 

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That is what I was hoping I would hear. When I watched her, I immedately thought of a movie I saw where the family moved away to the forest to avoid other people so they could teach their kids their own beliefs. (Some government conspiracy movie)<br><br>
But, If it had been a normal home, a Mom who wanted to look nice, I bet I would have thought completely differently about it. I know, that is snobby, and materialistic, but it is true.<br><br>
The second Mom seemed/looked completely normal to me. Her kids were adorable.<br><br>
The Mom in Wal Mart? I agree with everything she said. There are way too many baby holders on the market, and they keep getting more expensive. I know parents who put their kids in the carseat, move the carseat to the car, move it to the stroller, then to the shopping cart, then back to the car, and back inside. They can spend 6 hours without holding them at all.<br><br>
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I went back and watched the part 2. I thought that whole thing made AP look terrible to the rest of the world. Especially the two girls on the table. That isn't what I consider AP or gentle discipline. Other than that part, I thought the whole program was pretty good. I think if I had been considering AP with a child, most of that would not have turned me off at all.
 

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Ugh, I've heard so much about this piece, thanks for posting the link.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I think that sums up what they were trying to say, and it has nothing to do with AP as far as I can see.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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:vomit<br><br>
janet had some great things to say when the interviewer asked her about CLW. Go Janet! (she's a member here)<br><br>
But what's with trying to make milk in the eye look like some sort of fringe thing? Everyone does it.
 

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odd...I didnt know AP meant cosleeping w/o dad and we have to nurse til 5....oh and that we never put babies down or that we are attentive 24/7...<br>
I've been doing it wrong all along.....<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hmmmm...<br>
Does the woman doing the interviewing in the piece even have children? She seemed so patronizing and condescending.<br><br>
The whole piece seemed so contrived. I feel badly for the families who were featured as I'm sure that this is not an accurate depiction of their lives or parenting. I know if someone came into my home, disrupted the routine for an afternoon with bright lights and cameras and people my children were "performing" for, our AP lifestyle would look like a freak show too. And we're on the less crunchy end of the AP spectrum.
 

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Once I saw the thing about the dad being relegated to another bedroom as some sort of rule of AP <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"> fuggedaboudit. This is entirely the reporter's rant. IMO<br><br><br><br><br>
And a question: What not GD about telling a screaming child that they can stop screaming?
 

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The whole piece left a bad taste in my mouth. I hated how they depicted the children misbehaving and having tantrums continuously. Its a shame because if you go to ANY household, AP or mainstream, with small children there is bound to some sort of acting out. The way it was presented made it seem like kids that are gd are bound to be terrors and to run loose disrespecting parents.<br><br>
I also was so annoyed that the only co-sleeping they depicted with with the father in another room. It reinforces the myth that co-sleeping is bad for relationship. Grrr! the reporter also had major issues with AP parents and it looked like she had a disgusted look on her face the entire time. Bah!<br><br>
Oh, and when doctor that said AP parents are are "socially negligent" my head freaking exploded!<br><br>
BTW- whats so bad about a toddler pooping and peeing on the floor? Sh$t happens right?
 

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Here's an uh...interesting "counterpoint."<br><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/newreply.php?do=newreply&noquote=1&p=7326323" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...te=1&p=7326323</a>
 

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There were some really good comments, far more understanding and open minded then I'd expected. Maybe they were from MDCers following the link, but maybe not.<br><br>
It was obviously very slanted, the film-makers made sure to edit in line with the perspective they wanted to present. Personally, I often get the impression that this is how a number of people view AP; as normal as it is for me, it's obviously not for the masses (normal that is). It reminds me how easy it would be for AP parents to get defensive when dealing with judgemental and maybe ignorant people, really it would be warrented. But I think most of us are content to focus on the health and happiness of our families, and if anything let the proof be in the pudding.<br><br>
Anyway, I've seen a number of stories on how "conventional" parenting is ruining our children's childhood as well. Probably by the same producers!! Everything, everywhere faces criticism at some point in time, whether it's biased or not. This one is extremely easy to shrug off. If it was more balanced, if it actually tracked families for an extended period of time, if it presented some interesting, statistically significant data, then I'd pay closer attention. I love reading and learning about AP and other parenting styles, but that was obviously not the intent of this video.<br><br>
ETA: It seems pretty mean to me to criticize these families. It's easy to pass judgement, especially when they've been presented like this by the film-makers. But how many of us are perfect examples of an AP family? I've read enough Parenting Issues and Gentle Discipline and Family Bed posts to know that a lot of us are working through some of these same things. And personally I know that I'm not the most photgenic, and it would REALLY hurt my feelings if I was featured in a film like this and my community responded that I wasn't attractive enough or made comments about my appearance. These families might be members here.
 
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