[bugmenot]

To me it depends upon who's around. Scouting, boys sports, friends yard, who cares? Like you said about the ball game, families of boys don't think anything of it, it's sround the general public, parks, parkong lots, festivals were you might hear a remark. Unless I hear comments, or see someone appauled, it's no big deal to me.

IMO:
Acceptable: Camping and you're isolated. Anywhere on private property and you're isolated from anyone who might object. A young kid (and others) at the side of the freeway. A giant park with absolutely no other option. A lake or ocean.

Not acceptable: Where anyone who might object can see. An adult on the side of the road or in a giant park. A pool that isn't yours.

With that said, there's always exceptions. If it's the family road trip and the teens or parents need to pull over, so be it.

I heard a story where the cop cited the mom because her young child couldn't hold it. It was shielded by the door. I'd give an exception there. If he's old enough to hold it, that's another story.

The important part is always trying to go in areas where it's allowed before it becomes an issue.

If the family is on a road trip and it's a lunch stop...the kids should be taken into the bathroom even if they say they don't need to pee. I don't know how many times "I don't need to" has resulted in saying "well, what do you know?"

Back yards are tricky. If it's rural and with permission from the property owners, keep it concealed. With that said, anyone who ever had a young boy knows they'll just pull it out without concern. IMO, around age 7 or 8, they should know enough to be decent and find a tree or go in an area where they're alone. (I'll make an exception for kids who pee together.) If it's an urban area...go inside.

 

[beachmom5]

IMO:
Acceptable: Camping and you're isolated. Anywhere on private property and you're isolated from anyone who might object. A young kid (and others) at the side of the freeway. A giant park with absolutely no other option. A lake or ocean.

Not acceptable: Where anyone who might object can see. An adult on the side of the road or in a giant park. A pool that isn't yours.

With that said, there's always exceptions. If it's the family road trip and the teens or parents need to pull over, so be it.

I heard a story where the cop cited the mom because her young child couldn't hold it. It was shielded by the door. I'd give an exception there. If he's old enough to hold it, that's another story.

The important part is always trying to go in areas where it's allowed before it becomes an issue.

If the family is on a road trip and it's a lunch stop...the kids should be taken into the bathroom even if they say they don't need to pee. I don't know how many times "I don't need to" has resulted in saying "well, what do you know?"

Back yards are tricky. If it's rural and with permission from the property owners, keep it concealed. With that said, anyone who ever had a young boy knows they'll just pull it out without concern. IMO, around age 7 or 8, they should know enough to be decent and find a tree or go in an area where they're alone. (I'll make an exception for kids who pee together.) If it's an urban area...go inside.

Thanks for your thoughts, I'm pretty much with your thinking, I never thought of myself as being unreasonable back 15, 20 years ago with my sons, there are times when it's practical and reasonable. If my boys were growing up with our neighbors boys and doing outdoor activities together and we were all on the same page about it, I suppose it wouldn't bother me. But being our boys are grown and it's only her boys doing so it makes me uncomfortable. Knowing I'm not comfortable with it, I would have thought my neighbor would at the least ask them to be more discrete, but she doesn't seem to see a problem. I feel as if maybe I'm being too judgemental, I grew up in Eastern Europe in a social environment where men often peed outside due to lack of restrooms or long lines. Women would actually belittle men for adding to the wait for women. 40 years ago I would have thought nothing of it, today in America I think differently.

 

[rnruns10]

It's just a normal bodily action. My girls and I will pop a squat while hiking on camping and its not a big deal. Because we never made those things weird in our family its just what we do when we are outside in nature.

 

[bugmenot]

It's just a normal bodily action. My girls and I will pop a squat while hiking on camping and its not a big deal. Because we never made those things weird in our family its just what we do when we are outside in nature.

There is a way to stand up like guys. I mastered it. If you want to know, send me a note.

 

[ladybugicecream]

So long as there's cover and it isn't publicly visible? Let 'em rip. I don't sweat small stuff like this.

 

[rnruns10]

There is a way to stand up like guys. I mastered it. If you want to know, send me a note.

I use a "pee wee" for concernts, along a busy road on a trip, and stuff like that but it woods just pop a squat.

 

[bugmenot]

I use a "pee wee" for concernts, along a busy road on a trip, and stuff like that but it woods just pop a squat.

Concerts? Like in public toilets...or are these the European female urinals I've heard about? I think the ones I'm thinking of are outdoors, but fully shielded...and generally in places where large gatherings happen.

Why stand at the roadside, but squat in the woods? Is one easier?

 

[MobMom]

I couldn't help myself with this one my post is ABSOLUTELY necessary for this.. y'all's sons just pee? like i mean that's all they do? My 3 year old feral as hell boyest of boys...man he's just one of a kind. Guys my son straight up no F's given pulled his pants ALLLL the way down to his ankles SQUATTED in the stone area of my yard and SHAT yeah..yup..mhm i'm talkin like toddler scene of bridesmaid SQUATTING like what... I was SPEECHLESS ok so for everyone else here mama's be so proud when your son sneeks off and pees in a corner applaud him be so proud becuse at least you wont be trying to scoop it up later in your dogs pooper scooper...

 

[beachmom5]

Is there an age where it becomes less tolerable? I think nearly everyone excuses toddlers for doing so, but does that change as they become teenagers or adults?

 

[bugmenot]

Is there an age where it becomes less tolerable? I think nearly everyone excuses toddlers for doing so, but does that change as they become teenagers or adults?

Adults are generally expected to "hold it" better.

 

[beachmom5]

I agree. Age doesn’t matter. My hubby and son do it all the time. Our daughters even do it occasionally in the yard

What ages are your kids? Do you have some privacy in your yard or do your husband and son care about privacy?

 

[beachmom5]

We do have some privacy but boys don’t really care lol

I guess I'm just being overly prudish, I know our boys did so when we lived out in the country, but there wasn't often anyone else around. It's not so much that they do so that bothers me, but rather as you say, they don't really care who see's them doing so. Their mom doesn't seem to see a problem with, nor do my friends or guests, so maybe I'm just intruding in something I shouldn't.

 

[Cutesky]

My son had sensory issues when younger and hated public restrooms because of the loud flushes and hand dryers. It was an ordeal for the first 5-6 years of his life when I had to take him in with me when I had to pee or his father. When it was two of us, we used to find a tree or open a car door for privacy and he would go outside.

 

[msmom82]

As long as my son isn't doing it in front of a crowd, I don't see the problem.

 

[msmom82]

My ds1 (9) has micropenis so he’s very nervous in general in public bathrooms. Many hits are not very respectful of one another so we have made sure to teach him to only use stalls. On a past camping trip we managed to find a private area he could use.
As others have said, as long as he isn’t in front of a crowd, you should be fine.

Kids can be cruel for sure. The opposite side of the spectrum can make a boy feel self conscious about being different as well.

 

[bugmenot]

My ds1 (9) has micropenis so he’s very nervous in general in public bathrooms. Many hits are not very respectful of one another so we have made sure to teach him to only use stalls. On a past camping trip we managed to find a private area he could use.
As others have said, as long as he isn’t in front of a crowd, you should be fine.

How's his aim? I've heard it's harder to aim with micropenis.

I remember one of my son's friends had micropenis. I saw it when I was helping him in the bathroom when they were maybe 4-5. I distinctly remember there not being a shaft...just the tip.

 

[johny arieal]

I guess I'm just being overly prudish, I know our boys did so when we lived out in the country, but there wasn't often anyone else around. It's not so much that they do so that bothers me, but rather as you say, they don't really care who see's them doing so. Their mom doesn't seem to see a problem with, nor do my friends or guests, so maybe I'm just intruding in something I shouldn't.

Love it! I messaged you about this topic just now!

 

[beachmom5]

Men's locker rooms and even many restrooms are not at all private and without the presence of moms boys can be very cruel to one another. Ironically it can be more private for boys in nature, roadside, ect. Also, for young boys it's an easy place to learn aim and contol without criticism and bild confidence. Myself i see more benefits to outdoors than drawbacks. It's quicker, easier and really no less private for boys.

I can certainly agree that there have been times when it was easier to let the boys pee outside and I'll confess that there have been times that I've asked the boys to do so, especially when they were little. I know that grown men do so as well at times, however I still feel as though boys should at least make an effort to at least step out of site, especially when they enter their teens and I assumed most moms would agree. I'm learning however that many of my friends don't seem to share my concern, as my best friend recently commented that her teenage son as well as her husband often pee off their deck and she isn't really concerned about the neighbors. Maybe it's just me being paranoid.

 

[ILovefitness28]

It depends, if we don't have access to a bathroom than yes I would let him because it's still better than going in your pants. If we do have access to a bathroom, then there's no reason for him to go outside so I'd tell him that if he needs to use the bathroom, he'll use the toilet like everyone else.

 

[bugmenot]

It depends, if we don't have access to a bathroom than yes I would let him because it's still better than going in your pants. If we do have access to a bathroom, then there's no reason for him to go outside so I'd tell him that if he needs to use the bathroom, he'll use the toilet like everyone else.

That absolutely makes sense. Camping, road trips, swimming in a lake, etc...although if he's in a lake, ocean or other such body of water and keeps his mouth shut, nobody would ever know until you ask after getting out of the water.

"It's time to change"
During changing:
"Do you have to use the toilet?"
"I peed in the lake...lol!"

Obviously, things should be discreet. Find a tree, bush, behind the garage, etc.

The door of the car also provides great privacy. Open up the front and back doors. Boys get down on their knees, face the car and aim down. Parents stand behind. Girls could probably balance on the edge of the car or the running board and pee into the ground.