So this has been bothering me for years now. As many of you may know I grew up in Eastern Europe, living with 4 siblings in a one room Soviet block apartment, not much privacy possible. It was the same for everyone and we had few clothes growing up, so swimsuits not a priority, skinny dipping was the norm. We also bathed at a public bath house, some days separated by sexes, other days not. The long in short of it , we never thought of ourselves as nudists, just normal people and no one thought anything of it.
Jump forward to age 30 when I met my husband and moved into his hometown, a small bible belt community. What a cultural change, from day one my choice of clothing and my casual nudity in our house and pool area became a controversy among his family and friends. I was always rather cautious and secretive about it as our boys became school age as not to create problems for them, other kids teasing or to alarm their friends parents.
However, in being around the boys friends and their moms I quickly began to realize that these same people who'd been gossiping about me where perfectly comfortable with their boys peeing in the yard, the parks and even around the locker rooms when we were changing them for swimming lessons. "Boys will be boys," they'd say, with a smile and that was just fine with them. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not against that per se, it's quick and easy for the boys and less hassle for moms and the men back home always did so too. But I assumed this was permissible only because they were toddlers and it would become inappropriate eventually, but that hasn't been the case. Throughout their teens and into adult hood the boys are exempted, many moms laughing and saying "oh his father does so, no big deal."
But why is it that it's not thought of as inappropriate for the guys to pee in public, but it's taboo for us to be casually naked around the house? And it's not like these moms are disgusted by the idea, some of those who know of our openness around the house will privately ask me about it, questioning me, "are you guys really nudists," "do you really see your adult boys," in a rather in a rather zealous tone. When I confirm that to be the case these same moms confess to me that they're a bit envious of me, and those whom haven't happened upon their sons undressed in years have divulged to me that they're curious as to how their son's developed and hope an opportunity arises.
I just find it so hypocritical and disingenuous for these people to be forever passing judgement on me and our family for something that they rather secretly are envious of and that they almost unanimously approve of guys peeing anywhere. Just curious what everyone's thoughts on both subjects. Are both okay, neither or just boys will be boys and where are you okay with them doing so?
Thanks for everyone's time and thoughts. Confused transplanted mom.
Jump forward to age 30 when I met my husband and moved into his hometown, a small bible belt community. What a cultural change, from day one my choice of clothing and my casual nudity in our house and pool area became a controversy among his family and friends. I was always rather cautious and secretive about it as our boys became school age as not to create problems for them, other kids teasing or to alarm their friends parents.
However, in being around the boys friends and their moms I quickly began to realize that these same people who'd been gossiping about me where perfectly comfortable with their boys peeing in the yard, the parks and even around the locker rooms when we were changing them for swimming lessons. "Boys will be boys," they'd say, with a smile and that was just fine with them. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not against that per se, it's quick and easy for the boys and less hassle for moms and the men back home always did so too. But I assumed this was permissible only because they were toddlers and it would become inappropriate eventually, but that hasn't been the case. Throughout their teens and into adult hood the boys are exempted, many moms laughing and saying "oh his father does so, no big deal."
But why is it that it's not thought of as inappropriate for the guys to pee in public, but it's taboo for us to be casually naked around the house? And it's not like these moms are disgusted by the idea, some of those who know of our openness around the house will privately ask me about it, questioning me, "are you guys really nudists," "do you really see your adult boys," in a rather in a rather zealous tone. When I confirm that to be the case these same moms confess to me that they're a bit envious of me, and those whom haven't happened upon their sons undressed in years have divulged to me that they're curious as to how their son's developed and hope an opportunity arises.
I just find it so hypocritical and disingenuous for these people to be forever passing judgement on me and our family for something that they rather secretly are envious of and that they almost unanimously approve of guys peeing anywhere. Just curious what everyone's thoughts on both subjects. Are both okay, neither or just boys will be boys and where are you okay with them doing so?
Thanks for everyone's time and thoughts. Confused transplanted mom.
